F.A.I.T.H. (Forsaking all, I trust Him)

[GirlBlue]

Just wanted to check in and root you girls on from the sidelines. Stay Encouraged!! "Cannot" is not a word God ever uses to describe his power. Go Go Go!!!! BD BD BD!!!

As for me my libido is on ice this month. I haven't wanted to do anything...at all. I'm not sure why...but such is life. I hope I'm back next month.

 

[Aaisrie]

Mrskcbrown - the reason it needs to be more than 10 days is because that's the length of time for the egg to implant, so the longer the LP the better the chance you have of it implanting. It's easier to see how long your LP is if you temp because you can see exactly when you O instead of having a rough idea of when you O. The plus side to having a shorter LP - as I have discovered means you don't really have a 2WW, just a 11/12 day wait in my case!

Thanks for this bit of info, it really helps. I tried temping, OPK's and CM checks and I found that CM checking works best for me. I do follow my cycle monthly on a calendar though. When I temp and etc, I become to obsessed and Im forgetful. So for the last 2 months just being trying the relax and release approach. Most of my issue is not me anyway, its my DH who has some male factor issues, but I still believe that God can do anything! Thanks!!!

I totally agree, He can!! I think it depends a lot on each person. I find I NEED the control to feel secure - it stems from a lot of mental health problems I suffer with. I have been in recovery from anorexia for a couple of years, I went into recovery 2 months before I fell pregnant with my daughter and have kept working at it. I'm at a healthy weight now but that control helps keep me sane and stops me from finding control elsewhere. I still have my bad days and I still have days when I don't eat because I don't remember or because I can't but the bad days are far outnumbered by the good now. God healed me many years ago and then it went again and I was so angry with him for not healing me again but he was very clear in telling me that *I* had to work and that recovering, although it was hard, was part of my journey and that I would learn from it. That was hard, I felt rejected and forsaken - even though I wasn't. I think temping is a much lesser evil for me to have control over!!!! I do understand the obsession though. I forgot my BBT a couple of weeks ago, left it at my best friends house and she had to drive over early the next morning and let herself into my house and bring it to me in bed so I didn't have to move before temping!!! You KNOW she's a best friend to do that!!!!

 

[im_mi]

I totally understand where you are coming from evie, trying for a baby is something that we just cant have full control over so its good to know you can do *everything* you can to help the process along.

 

[Deb111]

I'm going to try and get a drs appt today - I can't cope anymore ... with anything

 

[Aster]

Oh no debs, big hugs. Try to stay strong but good for you to get help when you think you need it.

Well, you will be pleased to hear that just for you I POAS this morning and it was a BFN... I wasn't actually disappointed as I knew it was coming and at least this month I had the best chance of covering all the days and had great Ov signs etc.
Going to just take it a bit more chilled I think, I get a bit too desperate and then I do find everyday gets a bit more like a task than doing it out of love for my DH!!!
I think I am quite obessive so if I start temping this is only going to make it worse! Will try 2 more months of TTC just normally but I have an appt on monday afternoon to see a doc, just so I have registered my concerns. Some months I had no EWCM (or very little) and last AF was lighter than normal so guess this means I didnt ovulate.
Anyone got any tips about supplements or tricks to help with Ov etc?

Hows everyone else? Willy and my other test buddies?
xxxxx

 

[Willynilly]

started spotting brown last night - continuing today with slight red - all signs point to af within a few hours now. very upset...I knew if it didn't happen this month that something was wrong...we hit absolutely every day possible. next cycle will be cycle 10...then we are going to re. I never thought it would be this hard. my heart is broken and on top of it all, I am being really mean and nasty and hateful in my mind towards all the people in my life who DEF should not have kids and have NO PROB getting pregnant.

 

[mrskcbrown]

To everyone It seems we are all feeling a bit down.

@Aaisrie: Thanks for sharing your struggle with me. I imagine that its hard to not maintain that control at all times. So if BBT does it, I agree throw yourself into wholeheartedly! Ive learned a wealth of knowledge from you already pertaining to charting. If I ever try it again, Ill look for you.

@Deb111: I am so praying for you! I dont know the struggles you have been having but Im praying for a resolution on your behalf. Remember God has not forgotten you even though it is hard. Seeking help is a strength not a weakness so Im glad that you are seeing a Dr. Good luck to you.

@Willynilly: Oh how I know how you are feeling right now. I have been TTC for 11 months, and I went to a RE about 6 months ago and still nothing!! Im not sure when it will be our turn but it will be soon. Maybe the DR will find out something small that can be corrected. I know we never dreamed of the struggle we are having, or to possibly have to do IUI or IVF. Maybe this is our test, so that we can share it with someone else in our situation, when we get our .

I dont know why it seems like God has forsaken us, but I truly believe that it is a trick of the enemy (devil) for us to feel this way! Keep praying ladies....remember FAITH!

 

[mrskcbrown]

Just wanted to check in and root you girls on from the sidelines. Stay Encouraged!! "Cannot" is not a word God ever uses to describe his power. Go Go Go!!!! BD BD BD!!!

As for me my libido is on ice this month. I haven't wanted to do anything...at all. I'm not sure why...but such is life. I hope I'm back next month.

Hey good to see you! Maybe you are stressed and thats why you havent felt like ? Its ok, like you said there is always next month. Thanks for the encouragement and I hope all is well with you!

 

[im_mi]

Willynilly i'm so sorry it didnt work out this month hun. I'm gutted for you Keep in mind though that even when the timing is perfect, there's only ever a 25% chance of actually catching the egg! I know that doesnt help hun but be reassured that this doesnt necessarily mean there is something wrong with you or your DH

Deb, i am so glad you are seeking help

 

[Aster]

This was my daily bible commentry today, very significant.

Genesis 18:13-14 - Is anything too hard for the LORD?

Then the LORD said to Abraham, "Why did Sarah laugh and say, 'Will I really have a child, now that I am old?' Is anything too hard for the LORD ? I will return to you at the appointed time next year and Sarah will have a son."

We think that since people in the Bible were pre-modern, superstitious people that it was easy for them to believe. The Scripture actually paints a different picture. We find Sarah's laughter to be a nervous reaction to a promise from God that was preposterous. Have a child at her age? Impossible! Yet when Sarah had her child, she named him Isaac - which means "laughter".God is in the business of turning our laughter of skepticism to the laughter of joy, because for God, all things are possible.
Today's commentary byave Whitehead, Senior Pastor, GraceNYC.or

Hugs to all xxxxxx

 

[im_mi]

what a great passage aster

thats one thing that really bothers me about the non-christian argument - when people say that they were more gullible than we are, that they were more simplistic and thats why they believed. In evolutionary terms, we havent changed AT ALL in thousands of years, so why would they be any more gullible or simplistic than we are?

 

[Aaisrie]

Totally agree Immi, that passage was a good one Aster. Just dropping in to say hey real quick before I jump in the bath! My OH and I are having a night together, just the two of us. Apparently he's making me a special dinner and getting everything ready so I'm not allowed to go down too early lol I'm so excited

 

[Dahlia]

Hi girls - came across this group and love to see how much you all love the Lord. I'm definitely gonna jump on in with ya if you don't mind? Prayers for all of our bfp's soon. Oh, and love the devotion too. thank you.

 

[Aaisrie]

Welcome Dahlia! Always good to have more prayers

 

[somedaymama]

Welcome Dahlia! :wave:

 

[somedaymama]

Aster, thanks for posting that. I tend to think that if I can't get pregnant NOW, it means that there is something wrong with me and I never well. But...God takes a more long-term view of things. In his timing, he will give me a child, and I can't force His hand to bring it to me sooner. "God is in the business of turning our laughter of skepticism to the laughter of joy, because for God, all things are possible." I just love this!!

 

[Dipar_Butt3]

Hello ladies,

Yes it's been long since i've been on bnb. I've been busy over here and the snow. We got a lot of it and more to come. We got about 42 or 41 days left until the first day of spring(March 20th) but we know some times we still have snow after that. But i'm praying and believing for a early spring or spring starting on it's right time and not late.

AF starts tomorrow and i'm feeling it! I'm prepared! How is everybody doing.

 

[mrskcbrown]

@Dipar: Glad to see you back. I hope all is well.

 

[groovygrl]

welcome Dahlia

hope you had a really sublime 'special' evening with your OH Aaisrie and I am with MrsKC! really super duper uber supportive of you doing everything and everything you can to feel some control in this process! Your friend that brought your BBT chart to you sounds like a rockstar!

Aster, another thanks for the passage you shared about Sarah's laughter. It's a huge encouragement for all of us! I like this lots 'cus I consider myself to be in the old chick category.

Dipar, sorry about the snow! I'll send you some waaay toooo hot to sleep vibes from NZ and then we can trade off in about 5 months?

Immi - hope you're pregnancy is progressing beautifully and you feel good

I'm not to sorry to see the end of a week that brought the and the 'blue meanies' to some of you. It's a new week

We have decided to TTC again after I have seen one DH and I very excited! we can officially again in 2 days- as it's been two weeks since D&C following MC. Finding it hard not to trick myself into thinking that if we accidently well... forget to use BC it would be okay. Soooo anxious to TTC (I had friend who conceived again 2 1/2 weeks after D&C and had healthy pregnancy and baby) I keep hearing over and over that it's best to wait for one AF so that your uterine lining has a chance to build up properly. Any advice or feelings you feel like sharing re: this?

brand new week, hoorah!

 

[Aaisrie]

Hey groovy!! Patricia is a total diamond, one in a million!! She's my best friend AND the mother of my OH!! How's that for funny! I had a fantastic night last night Wish it could have lasted longer!!!