F.A.I.T.H. (Forsaking all, I trust Him)

[Aaisrie]

I would think you were lying if you said you WEREN'T mad!!! It's so totally normal!!!

 

[groovygrl]

OH mrskc, I'm sorry.

but someday is right! I tested with a FRER (obviously too early) I wrote it off as neg. and had a big fat I waited a four more days and tested with the clearblue digital - no pink lines (they do my head in) but an easy to read "pregnant" or "not pregnant".

AF might stay away for a few more days and then you test again. you might just need to let those Hcg #'s: amp up

I know you're so disapointed and understandably angry, this just feels so cruel sometimes. Aisrie will wake up in a while and tell you it's okay to have a good 'ole rant! Go for it! And then when you're ready, dust yourself off and praise God for your beautiful healthy and fertile body! Give it a couple days Mrskc and if witchy pants shows up, take your DH out for dinner and tell him exactly how much it means to you that he have a semen analysis. Trust me, I know how much they resist that process (another story)

i know your feeling poo but...keep the faith and believe that you will be pregnant soon!

 

[Dahlia]

on a separate note - God prefers us to "wrestle" with him. look at Job!!! he sure did a lot of wrestling with God, begging him to answer "WHY?!" but never denounced him as his Lord. God repaid his faithfulness bigger than maybe anyone else in the bible.

praying for you. and still hoping, of course, that af stays away. hugs.

 

[groovygrl]

Ace chart Aaisrie! it's exactly what I was thinking of while I wrote my post but couldn't articulate it as well as that. Clever you!

Go ahead and wrestle mrskc - loved dahlia's post too

wait it out another 3-4 days - might be glorious you in the 100% bar of that graph. praying for you

 

[mrskcbrown]

Thanks ladies for all of your help. Maybe I need to give it time. Your websites and prayers are really helpful and working!! Dont think they are in vain. I have never told God that I am angry before! I will test friday if no AF.
(((HUGS)))

 

[mrskcbrown]

BTW, I peek in and answer questions on other boards but with you guys FAITH is my home!!!! Love you all!!!! Thanks so much!!! Again and again!

 

[Aaisrie]

I saw a chart on FF where a girl didn't get her BFP until 19DPO!!!

 

[Deb111]

Don't give up yet mrskc. You could just not have enough hcg for it to show up on the test yet. I'm praying for you.

But I used a FRER and dont they test up to 5 days early? Surely it would show if I am BFP or not? I guess Im one of those BFN ladies but late AF too. I am so mad at God right now and Ive never said that ever. I need to go repent!

I'm sure we all understand that feeling MrsKC and I know God does too

Sending you lots of

 

[Deb111]

for me. I guess AF is just running late. On to month 12. I know its DH and not me, because I have a child but he doesnt want to do IUI until we make a year of marriage.

I struggled to get my hubby to come to the drs with me - we didn't go for about 16 months TTC and I'm 35, he's 42!

But I think in the end it was making him understand that we weren't going with a view to starting IVF or anything major, but just to get the ball rolling. I kept reminding him that maybe they would find something that said "no wonder you're not getting pregnant" and that if that was the case, wouldn't it be better to know about it sooner rather than later?

In the end he understood and when it came to going for the appt and his SA he was fine.

Try explaining to him that you're not going for IUI, just to get the ball rolling and get some basics checked out. There's no need to start IUI yet and I'm sure even if you went for an initial appt now, you wouldn't get as far as IUI before your first year of marriage anyway.

Do you think he feels insecure because he feels it must be him rather than you? Maybe he needs some reassurance that it could be either of you and that they would want to do some tests on you too.

Good luck hun xx

 

[Deb111]

So it's taken me 3 weeks to manage to get through to the fertility clinic at the hospital where we're having tests! They just never answer the phone or I'm told the line's busy.

I needed to speak to them because when I went for appt, they tried to do swab for chlamydia, but couldn't (and didn't persevere) as I have awful trouble with smear tests etc, so just told me to get it done by nurse at GP's.

When I went to speak to GP nurse, she said you only need a urine sample for chlamydia test so I thought I ought to clarify with hospital and also see if that's all they were testing for before I got it done.

So I was put though to someone who was new and said she didn't know much and kept having to go and find out the answers to my questions.

Eventually a nurse at the fertility clinic came and and said "right I'm going to wrap this call up - you have to come in for a swab" so I told her about the problems and that I was told I could have it done at GP's. She said I could and left it at that. So I had to ask her to clarify what it was they wanted testing, as I had just been told chlamydia and she said it has to be a high vaginal swab and test for chlamydia, thrush and bacteria!

I know I'm probably just emotional, but her attitude stunk and I feel like I'm only being given half the information! I had to drag that out of her and if I hadn't, I'd have had swabs done and then had to have more to test for the other things she mentioned!

Now I realise I forgot to ask if it has to be done at a certain point during cycle and don't want to phone back and doubt I'd get through to them anyway!

So now I'm going to have to book appt with GP to get something to relax me before I book appt with nurse for swabs

Why can't I just get pregnant without all this interference?!?!

Sorry for the rant girls!

 

[somedaymama]

I know the feeling, Deb. I wish getting pregnant as others make it seem!

Has anyone talked to Aster? I'm just wondering how she's doing, I don't think she's been here for a few days....

 

[Dahlia]

yeah, Aster?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! how are you?

Rdy?

Happy bday, Deb - although late.

 

[somedaymama]

Try explaining to him that you're not going for IUI, just to get the ball rolling and get some basics checked out. There's no need to start IUI yet and I'm sure even if you went for an initial appt now, you wouldn't get as far as IUI before your first year of marriage anyway.

If I remember right, her DH has already had a SA and they know he has issues--morphology, I think? The doctors think IUI is their best chance of conceiving. Hopefully, they are wrong, and AF stays away for mrskc!!

 

[mrskcbrown]

Yes Somedaymama is correct. We have had a semen analysis already. We know the issue. We can do IUI as soon as we feel necessary. DH is the one who wants to wait and try until we make it a yr of marriage. Well I have a 32-34 day cycle. Today is the 34th day. No cycle. I have creamy CM though, so I dont know what to think. I know I ovulated because I get those "O"pains every month. Im going to give it 7 days and then call the DR if no AF or BFP. I guess I might retest friday. Maybe I tested too soon?? Was hoping I would be one of the ones who can test day of.

How is everyone else doing? Deb Im sorry that you are going through all of that trouble!!!

 

[Guppy051708]

Don't give up yet mrskc. You could just not have enough hcg for it to show up on the test yet. I'm praying for you.

But I used a FRER and dont they test up to 5 days early? Surely it would show if I am BFP or not? I guess Im one of those BFN ladies but late AF too. I am so mad at God right now and Ive never said that ever. I need to go repent!

Hey girl
I know the girls have already expressed their knowledge on the topic of early HPTs, but i just wanted to give you my personal experience with FRER and other types of early HPTs. I never even got a super faint positive until 12 DPOs this pregnancy and that was on a FRER & Clear Blue digi (actually, i couldn't even get the CB Digi to say "Pregnant" @ 12 DPOs, but had a really faint line on the FRER). Anyways, i was [at least] 1 day late for AF at 12 DPOs (maybe even 2). One other thing to think about, is that on average implantation happens 7-10 DPOs, which means if implantation didn't even occur until 10 DPOs, you may not get a positive until you're late.
There is still hope hun. Been praying for ya doll. You are gonna get this baby

P.S. creamy CM!!!! thats a VERY good sign!!!

 

[mrskcbrown]

Don't give up yet mrskc. You could just not have enough hcg for it to show up on the test yet. I'm praying for you.

But I used a FRER and dont they test up to 5 days early? Surely it would show if I am BFP or not? I guess Im one of those BFN ladies but late AF too. I am so mad at God right now and Ive never said that ever. I need to go repent!

Hey girl
I know the girls have already expressed their knowledge on the topic of early HPTs, but i just wanted to give you my personal experience with FRER and other types of early HPTs. I never even got a super faint positive until 12 DPOs this pregnancy and that was on a FRER & Clear Blue digi (actually, i couldn't even get the CB Digi to say "Pregnant" @ 12 DPOs, but had a really faint line on the FRER). Anyways, i was [at least] 1 day late for AF at 12 DPOs (maybe even 2). One other thing to think about, is that on average implantation happens 7-10 DPOs, which means if implantation didn't even occur until 10 DPOs, you may not get a positive until you're late.
There is still hope hun. Been praying for ya doll. You are gonna get this baby

P.S. creamy CM!!!! thats a VERY good sign!!!

Ok thanks Guppy! I am holding onto this little bit of FAITH that I have left. I guess because I dont have the sore bb's or nausea, or bleeding gums, and the stark white FRERthat I feel like I couldnt be BFP . I just have the cramping and pressure, and missing AF, LOL. I will retest on Friday and keep you all posted.

 

[Guppy051708]

Thanks for the updates hun! i can't wait for you to get your BFP! & just to let you know, i didn't have ANY preggo symptoms until 8 weeks. No naseua or anything, not bleeding gums, or bloating (maybe extremly mild cramping if i really thought about it), but not whole bunch of anything until 8 weeks. Some ppl get hit with the MS and everything right away while others never get any. You are doing a great job keeping the faith. Keep up the positivity. The Lord will be blessing you in more ways than you can fathom, I am sure of it

 

[Aaisrie]

Mrskcbrown I never had sore boobs at all with my DD, I had nausea from 1DPO but my boobs didn't change at all and yet most people say that's the only reliable symptom!!

This cycle I've had no sickness, none... I had the faintest touch when I got up this morning but it was probably lack of sleep or something HOWEVER I am having creamy cm, which I NEVER get at this point in my cycle. Normally by now I'm sticky/dry and yet you'd think I had wet myself there is there much of it!

 

[Guppy051708]

Mrskcbrown I never had sore boobs at all with my DD, I had nausea from 1DPO but my boobs didn't change at all and yet most people say that's the only reliable symptom!!

Nearly 14 weeks preggo....and no boobie changes

 

[Aaisrie]

Lol I know, it's crazy isn't it. People kept saying I couldn't be because my nipples didn't change colour and they didn't get sore. The ONLY time they got sore was AFTER my DD was born and my milk came in!! Oh oh but I DO remember them getting crazy itchy towards the end of the 1st tri!