Thanks Tulip, hopefully she will get in touch and we may find that we help each other x
hi JCIC. i was feeling very upset and had been thinking a lot about God and how He could allow something like this to happen, especially to one of his faithful followers. i completely understand where you are coming from and how you feel. i did have some anger towards God as i felt that i had prayed earnestly for this child and that He had delivered a miracle only to take it right back. God is first in my life and always has been and, like you, i could always tell others how God was working in their lives through obstacles, but did not know what to do when faced with my MC. it is a feeling of being abandonded in a sense by God. i am always saying to my OH, to my family, co-workers, etc. that "God has a bigger and better plan than I could ever have for myself". yes, i have had obstacles and bad things happen in my life (quite a few), but never anything that hurt like my MC and felt so robbing of MY life, my body and my baby. i went to church on sunday morning (first sunday after my MC). i felt that God was tellingme that i needed to be there and He had a message for me. the message sunday was about how difficult this time of the year can be for people that are struggling with grief. it was a very clear message that i needed to hear and to know that there are many others who have lost a loved one, whether it be through a MC, an accident, a terminal illness or even natural causes. those people feel the same pain. i am sure that it is not any easier for a mom to say goodbye to her son at the age of 16 than after many weeks of carrying him insider her body. it just really hit home. the pastor asked anyone that was experiencing a time of grief or needing prayer to stand and asked others to come to us and just lay a hand on our shoulder and pray for us. ironically, i was there alone, as my OH was home with our dog who had to be rushed to the emergency vet the night before (she's okay now). maybe it was good that i was alone and it gave me more courage to stand. it felt very freeing as the tears streamed down my face and i knew that God does have a plan for me....one bigger and better than any plan i could have for myself. He does feel my grief and pain and confusion and terrible heartache. He cares about me and He loves me, but i may not always understand what His reasoning is. i realized that i may never know why this happened and i may never look back on my MC and see what the "plan" was for me, but i don't have to. i don't have to worry about why because God will take care of that for me. He has always blessed me and i know that he will continue to do so. i believe that if you pray earnestly for your heart's desire, He will hear you and will provide. one day, i will have my baby (i wish it were the one that i lost and i wish it were now, but one day it will happen) and one day i will be reunited in heaven with my angel baby and be able to hold him in my arms and tell him i love him. it will happen. in the meantime, i am here for God's purpose and His will and will have to trust that He is working His miracles in my life. ironically, catfromaus mentioned the poem "footprints"...my mom and i were just shopping a couple of days ago and i told her that i wanted something as a memory and remembrance of my baby. we walked into a jewelry store and there was a charm with little tiny footprints. immediately, i thought that they were baby footprints and thought that it was so perfect. but, when you turn the charm over, the back reads "when you saw only one set of footprints, it was then that i carried you". i know that God had intended that charm for me and to make me realize that He is still in control of my life and truly loves me. His plan is going to be worth all of the pain and i do believe that! i hope that you can find solace and peace in knowing that God has an amazing plan & journey or you, also. it is so difficult to see when something hurts as bad as this does, but i promise you that He has not forsaken you!