I know how you feel. Unfortunately my parents are not hands on/involved. They are not sympathetic or loving towards me. More sarcastic and if they do have dd for a day (probably 4 times a year) they make out they are top grandparents. I never realised till i was pregnant with my dd how alone i was. It is hard. Oh parents moved away when his sister had a baby 3 months older than ours!! She has had everything her house cleaned, her dogs walked, regular child care, help with nursery runs, dogs looked after so they can go out whenever they want. Her mum has bathed her child so many times ive lost count. Her mum sleeps over when her hubby is working. Yet heres me over here struggling abit with morning sickness and my house is upside down, yet nobody has saved me not even for one day.
I do get anxious at times about coping. When im ill i just have to hope oh can work from home etc. i worry about who will have my dd when i go into labour because my parents dont have a bed or anything and oh parents say they will help, but if i go into labour 3 weeks early and there precious daughter needs them i dunno how they would be able to help me first. It really is hard. Despite all this they all love telling me what they want to control in my pregnancy. Its not easy! I hope you feel better soon. Feel free to talk anytime x
I think the saying "daughters in law are the same as your own daughter" is a load of crap. No, seriously. My in laws live overseas, so I have no experience, but from what I've seen, a daughter in law can never be compared to your own daughter who you carried for 9 months, raised, and love your entire life. Your daughter in law is only the woman your son chose as his wife, and nothing else. The relationship between a mil and dil is a respectable one, they respect each other and may develop a friendship but it will never be at the same level as a mother/daughter relationship. With that said, even if my mil were near, I would never expect anything out of her. Whatever she does for me is a bonus and I would be grateful but of course I know that her daughter will always be the princess of the house. Thats were our own biological mothers come in, and we're both screwed because we have crappy ones.
Some parents can be total asswipes lol. I have a civil relationship with my mom, but she is no where near the mother I wanted. She's done nothing for me except allow her husband to cause me misery. I hate my stepdad but try to remain civil with him as well for her sake since she is so submissive towards him. When I had my first 8 weeks early, we had no one to take care of our dogs because dh had to be in hospital with me. My mom agreed to take care of our dogs for 2 weeks, well less than a week later, the stepdad called us and left a voicemail saying to come pick them up because they were barking and he couldnt sleep. Our baby was in the nicu and the first week was critical, but that asshole had no sympathy. Hubby ended up pickign up the dogs and having to drive back and forth, nearly an hour each day to walk and feed them. If they cant even take care of my dogs during a very important time in our lives, I doubt they'd take care of our kids. I worry about where our two boys will go when I go into labor as well, and have considered briefly asking my mom to take them for 1 or 2 days, but that thought quickly went away as fast as it came as I recalled back on how they treated us. So we have decided that we will bring kids to the hospital and dh will probably stay outside with them.
