My best friend married a guy...I ended up marrying his brother so now we're sister in laws. I thought it would be great! But it's changed a lot. Especially since she's become a mother. It seems like a competition all the time and its driving me crazy. We already have the husbands sister that does this competition drama stuff and I don't need her doing it. I thought she'd be the only one to understand the frustrations of TTC since they tried for three years had MC's and had to do fertility treatments. Eventually conceiving their set of twins. Last night she called me (this wasn't the first of the things she's said about us TTC)....I gave her my book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" to try and help her with natural birth control because her hubby does not want anymore children right now....their twins are only seven months. She has wanted some more since we said we were TTC. Imagine that. Well last night I told her about the CBEFM that I got for free from a very generous member of BnB. And that I was extremely excited to use it since I'm only on my third cycle in six months. One AF was Natural...the other two were provera. so I think really only one cycle in six months. She quote said "You need to relax. you're taking all the fun out of this" Excuse me? Out of all people you should know this isn't fun after so long. And excuse me for charting to try and figure out what is going on with my body and taking control of it. Ugh. I don't say these things to her because I know it'll just create unnecessary drama...but my hubby is getting to the point of not being able to stand her. Our other competition sister in law had a MC with her second child that they weren't even trying to conceive. I know it must be difficult but my BFF said, "You know if you get pregnant before (sister in law) does again, she's going to be very hurt" Okay...sorry I didn't know you cared so much about the girl you hate. And I'm sorry I know it will be hard because she got pregnant without trying when we had already been trying a few months. I'm not going to put our life on hold to conceive our first just so she can conceive her second...which she wasn't so excited about anyways until she lost it. It's just I really would love support from my sister law who was my best friend for all these years. I don't know if it's the jealous bug or what that she's not the center of attention but it's starting to get to me....Thanks for listening.