Urgh just a little rant really,
I often find myself feeling judged because Im a young person wanting to start a family, it drives me insane.
Its odd as when i found out i was pregnant, about this time last year, i was at university and it was a total shock, I hadn't planned at all on becoming pregnant and was on the pill. But i decided to have the baby, finished my year at uni, came back home, moved into my own place with my fella, got a Job and starting saving for our little arrival.
Everything was going fine but then at one of the check ups they couldnt find a heartbeat and we found out our baby had passed away. I was 22 weeks at the time.
I was devastated, so was my fiance Jordan. He wanted to try again as soon as possible but it wasnt what i wanted. Its only in the past few weeks that I've decided that i want to try again.
I'm a totally different person since my pregnancy, i cant think of anything better than having a child and becoming a parent. Financially both me and jordan are in a position to be able to provide, We're both mature enough to be able to provide emotionally so i dont understand why people make such a big deal of our age? Surely we're in the same position as some 30 odd year old couples. Young parents get so much bad press and i think its a real shame.
During my pregnancy, i was shocked at how i was treated by some of the midwives because of my age. On one occasion one of the midwives made a comment about "people my age getting pregnant and expecting everyone else to clear up the mess" and i was furious and ended up having a massive argument with her, When she found out i was 19 she apologised for the comment and said she thought i was alot younger ( i look alot younger than my age when i dont have my make up on) But even then i thougt what has age got to do with it?! It was no excuse.
What are your views on the reception you get from other people?
Sophia xx
I often find myself feeling judged because Im a young person wanting to start a family, it drives me insane.
Its odd as when i found out i was pregnant, about this time last year, i was at university and it was a total shock, I hadn't planned at all on becoming pregnant and was on the pill. But i decided to have the baby, finished my year at uni, came back home, moved into my own place with my fella, got a Job and starting saving for our little arrival.
Everything was going fine but then at one of the check ups they couldnt find a heartbeat and we found out our baby had passed away. I was 22 weeks at the time.
I was devastated, so was my fiance Jordan. He wanted to try again as soon as possible but it wasnt what i wanted. Its only in the past few weeks that I've decided that i want to try again.
I'm a totally different person since my pregnancy, i cant think of anything better than having a child and becoming a parent. Financially both me and jordan are in a position to be able to provide, We're both mature enough to be able to provide emotionally so i dont understand why people make such a big deal of our age? Surely we're in the same position as some 30 odd year old couples. Young parents get so much bad press and i think its a real shame.
During my pregnancy, i was shocked at how i was treated by some of the midwives because of my age. On one occasion one of the midwives made a comment about "people my age getting pregnant and expecting everyone else to clear up the mess" and i was furious and ended up having a massive argument with her, When she found out i was 19 she apologised for the comment and said she thought i was alot younger ( i look alot younger than my age when i dont have my make up on) But even then i thougt what has age got to do with it?! It was no excuse.
What are your views on the reception you get from other people?
Sophia xx
