Father To Bees

[Jinty]

For all you pregnant mummies out there, how is your partner treating you? I've always heard that the father is meant to be all nice and treat you like 'china'. I've been with my partner for nearly two years he's 'thrilled' I'm pregnant but all he does is go on his computer He does a IT course at college and when hes at home hes playing computer games >_< drives me mad. When i talk to him about it hes like 'I'm enjoying the free time i have left' While I'm still suffering from morning sickness...
I wouldn't mind if hes actually working on his IT course but hes not. Not only does he play games 24/7 when he actually pays me attention hes too rough with me. We've spoken about it loads of times but nothing works and now that I'm more emotional I want to leave him whenever he does hurt me. I love him and everything but hes just too rough, I don't want to leave him over it but one day i'm just gonna burst out and snap at him.
Anyone is or has been in this situation?
Sorry if this post is way too confusing

 

[lily24]

Sorry to hear you feel left out by OH

My OH has been great I suppose im just lucky..
He certainly doesnt treat me like 'china' i wouldnt want that anyway.
At the end of the day im pregnant not ill lol

He respects the changes in our relationship and the upcoming ones in our lives, i cant complain to be honest.

Im sure it must be hard for the men aswell, they dont quite understand how we are feeling and what we expect from them at this important time. Maybe what you need to do IS expload and let him no exactly how you feel..?

 

[greenkat]

My OH is constantly on the pc too (warcraft!) so I know how you feel. He has the same excuse - the time he has left, but I doubt he'll cut out gaming after the baby's born.

I like playing games too but he's on ALL the time and I do get fed up with him and tell him to spend more time with me, which he does for a bit at least. Just alot of the time I can't be bothered doing anything anyway cos of the tiredness, lol, I just want him to show more interest and talk to me about the baby cos it's all I can think about!! Though I know he's excited too cos he keeps putting his head on my belly and being all happy!!

 

[Serene123]

My OH is a complete moron most of the time. He has his nice moments though

 

[ella170]

my bf just loves his ps3 & football, all boys love their games. he doesnt give me any more attention than he did before we found out i was pregnant. hes not happy about me having the baby and never wants to talk about it. he never brings it up and acts like everything is normal and im not pregnant..

 

[mBLACK]

Yes, I have been in a similar situation. Sorry to say, the outcome was we broke up. But those were under different circumstances. He was an asshole! And involved with drugs + gangs, so that makes the situation a little different than yours. Sorry your OH is being that way, it takes men a little longer to get the idea in their heads that they are going to be a daddy.

 

[Jinty]

My OH is constantly on the pc too (warcraft!) so I know how you feel. He has the same excuse - the time he has left, but I doubt he'll cut out gaming after the baby's born.

I like playing games too but he's on ALL the time and I do get fed up with him and tell him to spend more time with me, which he does for a bit at least. Just alot of the time I can't be bothered doing anything anyway cos of the tiredness, lol, I just want him to show more interest and talk to me about the baby cos it's all I can think about!! Though I know he's excited too cos he keeps putting his head on my belly and being all happy!!

OMG! I hope my partner doesn't know your's on WoW! XD
Thats all mine goes on >_< very annoying...I said to him one day if i said its either me or the computer and he said me but i doubt that alot!
At least yours will put his head on your belly lol thats sweet mine hardly touched mine

I should think of a revenge to keep me busy ^_~

Thanks anyway guys! Nice to know I'm not the only one

 

[Jinty]

Yes, I have been in a similar situation. Sorry to say, the outcome was we broke up. But those were under different circumstances. He was an asshole! And involved with drugs + gangs, so that makes the situation a little different than yours. Sorry your OH is being that way, it takes men a little longer to get the idea in their heads that they are going to be a daddy.

Sorry it turned out that way. Men just don't understand >_<

 

[Pixie5120]

when he actually pays me attention hes too rough with me. We've spoken about it loads of times but nothing works and now that I'm more emotional I want to leave him whenever he does hurt me. I love him and everything but hes just too rough, I don't want to leave him over it but one day i'm just gonna burst out and snap at him.
Anyone is or has been in this situation?
Sorry if this post is way too confusing

My oh does this. when he gets hyper (which is alot due to slight ADHD) he can get quite rough, doemean to be. but still. we have talked about it too, but he doesnt really listen. i undetstand what you mean about it making you want to leave him but not want to aswell. my oh only REALLY realises what he's been doing when i do explode at him or burst into tears (which isnt often coz its so big)

i think maybe just let your emotions flow and let him see how you are really feeling. and then after that talk. try and compromise. hope you feel better soon

 

[Roxie]

my boyfreind was really happy when i told him i was pregnant, he pretty much cried with happiness.
he tries to be nice and make me feel good about getting so huge by saying silly things like yummy mummy etc lol

and he kisses my belly in the morning and pretends to have conversations with the baby through my belly

but the bigger i get i think the more scared he is of my bump and hurting me.





(but as for computers, my boyfreind doesnt know the password on the pc lol)

XXX

 

[leeanne]

Mine has been the most remarkable through this pregnancy compared to the others. I guess he's growing up.

For the past two weekends, he's cleaned my house for me. Actually, I am so independent and I should appreciate it, but in some ways I feel like maybe I don't clean as good as him. LOL

Also, he's been so much more patient and understanding.

I am amazed at how much he has changed over the years.

 

[AppleBlossom]

My OH is lovely and treats me really well. He does most of the housework and cooking too =]

 

[youngmomma100]

my fiancee is excited to become a dad! hes been doing most of the baby shopping lol altho he trys to treat me fragile but 5 years of being together he does play rough sometimes but i just tell him nicly to stop lol! but yeah he cant wait for the babies to come

 

[JJ44KK]

The father doesn't know, i'm scared of how he would react, as most guys run away

 

[susiewusie]

My OH is being an absolute moron lately, I went to hospital last week to get LO checked as he wasn't moving, and whilst i was getting monitored OH fell asleep and starting snoring really loud had to wake him up i was so embarresed, Showed how much he cared. Then he sat moaning he was hungary and his seat was umcomfortable so i gave him my padded seat and i sat in the hard one and told him to go and get something to eat, Just to shut him up

Then today had to go for a scan as LO had static growth and all he did was moan about how long we would be there and how hard it is to get parked

Feels like i have no support

Sorry for the long rant and hijacking thread

 

[Becky]

My boyfriend has become better after a little chat from my mum!! he didnt really know how to handle me being so emotional and tired! now he is great and helps me with everything!!

x

 

[14yearoldmomi]

im 14 and my bf just turned 16 he knows and i really think he is excited
he is so worried though like anywhere i go he tells me be extra careful with my belly lol but if i am then the baby would be born an exact week after my birthday..so ill atleast be 15
i am just scared at how my parents are gonna take it....my dad is in iraq at the moment though he is 34 and his fiancee and him have a 1 year old kid so it would be kinda weird

 

[sweet lady]

my OH is good 2 me even through i let all my angry out on him i still love him n he loves me

 

[trishawootton]

my OH is always on the computer, down his mates smoking weed, or at work it just seems he dont wanna spend anytime with me

when he is at home (in bed) he dead sweet stroking my tummy tlkin 2 lo (this is kinda funny somtimes) and saying sweet things

but i just cant convince him to stop smoking weed he just says he aint gonna have it once baby is here but he also said he would stop once he started back work which he aint so i dont no weather to believe him

 

[armychicmkm]

Depends on which day you ask me.
He's not very supportive of pregnancy issues. He basically feels that any symptom is mental and not physical.
He seems to carry the attitude that because he works 40-50 hours a week that he shouldn't have to do anything else even though I also work 40 hours and I'm taking classes full-time.
He nags for sex just a little (lot) too much.
However, he is excited for the baby to come and does show it. That's more than a lot of women have and I am grateful for it. He completely stands behind me in the decisions I/we've made (home birth, etc.).