FEBRUARY HEARTS Due in February 2015 , open group all welcome!

[RaspberryK]

I hope this pregnancy will go to term and that I'll find out!

Amen to that!!! After the mc's I've had I don't care if it's a boy or a girl, I just (sincerely) want a healthy baby!!!

This is going to be the one! Nothing could go wrong with all this positive energy xx

 

[bridgetboo62]

right now we have a $200/mo car payment (still owe about $3000) and $1500 on the computer we have to pay off before 10 months from now and OH has debt he needs to pay off to get his credit up so we will qualify for getting into a place currently making $250/ month payments on a $2000 debt
and he has medical bills he has to get on payment plans for but hopefully we can make the minimum payments on those i think the lady said like $20/mo
then some other random debt too
my sister is paying OH $1500 to paint her house which will really help
and we are in the middle of a lawsuit because his buddy screwed him over on a dirt bike and we are trying to get the title to it so we can sell it. once we do we can sell it for $2000 which will really help. and our third car which we are trying to get the title to the previous owner has it tied up in a bankruptcy but hopefully it will be resolved soon and we can see that for about $1200 and that will be a big help

so hopefully we will be in a place where we are able make rent before baby comes

but on top of all that buying stuff for baby and preparing ect

its all just very worrisome and stressful

sorry everyone i just felt the need to vent its weighing pretty hard on me

i dont work but i want to. there is a gas station down the street that is hiring which is really convenient because i could walk to and from work but i dont know if it would be good for baby with the fumes and all. (here in oregon you cant pump your own gas its illegal we have gas station attendants who do it for you) i emailed midwife about it but she hasnt replied yet i think im going to email my OB/GYN about it if i dont get a reply soon. i made a thread about it on first tri and someone found some information online a study that shows it can be harmful. but i dont like to trust what i read on the internet. other people commented on my thread and said that they would feel uncomfortable with a pregnant lady pumping their gas and would go to a different gas station if that was the case.

i do have a job at the zoo as a cashier and food services worker but now all the temporary employees have to pay $6 a day to park and that on top of gas money doesnt make it worth it since its only minimum wage. (im taken off the schedule right now you only have to work 1 day a year to stay on the payroll and not have to reapply and you can call them anytime and say hey i want to work this one day or hey i want to start working regularly again pretty cool and whether im working regularly or not i get a 25% discount on all food and merchandise and can get anyone i want in for free no limit on how many) plus we only have one car working at the moment and my OH needs it to drive to work. he also needs to pay $230 a fine next paycheck because his license was suspended and we didnt know and since it was suspended for a certain amount of time he needs to pay like over $100 to take the driving and written test again and get it reinstated

we need to buy a $100 fuel pump for our other car to get it running then we need to register it
and get maybe get tags for it and insure it
hopefully my mom will put it on her insurance and we can just pay her to save us money

OH makes about $1800/mo

but he is hoping to get promoted to a salary position at his company soon
but he was super close to being fired a few weeks ago so idk about that
but im still hopeful

and we are both going to apply to be longshoremen at the end of this month
which is $25/hr to start out and after 5 years could be making 150k+ a year
so hopefully one or both of us gets into that
my dad use to work for them so he is going to try and pull strings

maybe i can get assistance from the state too since im pregnant and not working?
but idk how that works

again sorry everyone
i know you probably dont care at all
i just dont have anyone to talk to and im really stressed and worried

 

[eme]

I hope this pregnancy will go to term and that I'll find out!

Amen to that!!! After the mc's I've had I don't care if it's a boy or a girl, I just (sincerely) want a healthy baby!!!

This is going to be the one! Nothing could go wrong with all this positive energy xx

thank you so much for that!!!!

 

[RaspberryK]

right now we have a $200/mo car payment (still owe about $3000) and $1500 on the computer we have to pay off before 10 months from now and OH has debt he needs to pay off to get his credit up so we will qualify for getting into a place currently making $250/ month payments on a $2000 debt
and he has medical bills he has to get on payment plans for but hopefully we can make the minimum payments on those i think the lady said like $20/mo
then some other random debt too
my sister is paying OH $1500 to paint her house which will really help
and we are in the middle of a lawsuit because his buddy screwed him over on a dirt bike and we are trying to get the title to it so we can sell it. once we do we can sell it for $2000 which will really help. and our third car which we are trying to get the title to the previous owner has it tied up in a bankruptcy but hopefully it will be resolved soon and we can see that for about $1200 and that will be a big help

so hopefully we will be in a place where we are able make rent before baby comes

but on top of all that buying stuff for baby and preparing ect

its all just very worrisome and stressful

sorry everyone i just felt the need to vent its weighing pretty hard on me

i dont work but i want to. there is a gas station down the street that is hiring which is really convenient because i could walk to and from work but i dont know if it would be good for baby with the fumes and all. (here in oregon you cant pump your own gas its illegal we have gas station attendants who do it for you) i emailed midwife about it but she hasnt replied yet i think im going to email my OB/GYN about it if i dont get a reply soon. i made a thread about it on first tri and someone found some information online a study that shows it can be harmful. but i dont like to trust what i read on the internet. other people commented on my thread and said that they would feel uncomfortable with a pregnant lady pumping their gas and would go to a different gas station if that was the case.

i do have a job at the zoo as a cashier and food services worker but now all the temporary employees have to pay $6 a day to park and that on top of gas money doesnt make it worth it since its only minimum wage. (im taken off the schedule right now you only have to work 1 day a year to stay on the payroll and not have to reapply and you can call them anytime and say hey i want to work this one day or hey i want to start working regularly again pretty cool and whether im working regularly or not i get a 25% discount on all food and merchandise and can get anyone i want in for free no limit on how many) plus we only have one car working at the moment and my OH needs it to drive to work. he also needs to pay $230 a fine next paycheck because his license was suspended and we didnt know and since it was suspended for a certain amount of time he needs to pay like over $100 to take the driving and written test again and get it reinstated

we need to buy a $100 fuel pump for our other car to get it running then we need to register it
and get maybe get tags for it and insure it
hopefully my mom will put it on her insurance and we can just pay her to save us money

OH makes about $1800/mo

but he is hoping to get promoted to a salary position at his company soon
but he was super close to being fired a few weeks ago so idk about that
but im still hopeful

and we are both going to apply to be longshoremen at the end of this month
which is $25/hr to start out and after 5 years could be making 150k+ a year
so hopefully one or both of us gets into that
my dad use to work for them so he is going to try and pull strings

maybe i can get assistance from the state too since im pregnant and not working?
but idk how that works

again sorry everyone
i know you probably dont care at all
i just dont have anyone to talk to and im really stressed and worried

Is there any way you can consolidate your debts? Get some temporary work? Even leaflet distribution? Maybe look online for at home admin data entry type work?
I am a fan of swapping to 0% interest credit cards, pay the minimum on everything and then pay more off on the thing that charges most interest or fees.
Could you do cleaning or take on ironing, dog walking, baby sitting? Anything like that.
I make money by selling at car boot sales and on eBay. Xx

 

[readynwilling]

says boy for me. Which is actually what im hoping. But tempted to stay team yellow as i have one of each already.

you mean you may keep it a surprise till birth?
my sister is doing that she is going all natural and having her baby at home and not getting any ultrasounds or anything
i could never do that even if i already have one of each gender

yes not finding out the gender till birth. I am pretty OCD and im sure by 20 weeks i'll change my mind LOL.

Yay for more recruits, I'm glad people are finding the group, please feel free to spread the word and don't forget to add our banner.

Anyone else expecting to go overdue? I imagine I'll still be fat and round on valentines xx

I expect to go to at least my due date. One of my pet peeves is people who try to "evict" the baby at 37weeks cause they are "full term". BABIES NEED TO BAKE lol! I mean some have their babies early, and thats fine. Its those who start an eviction process LOL. I was 3 days over with my 1st and 6hours past my edd with my 2nd. And actually the only reason i was 3 days over with my first is my OB changed my EDD. I told them March 7th based on conception date, they sent me for a scan and said March 4th. Guess what - i had her on the 7th LOL

 

[bridgetboo62]

i would love to be able to work from home
but i dont know how to go about it
so much of those online work from home opportunities are scams
and i am not good at selling things

i wouldnt mind answering phone calls

the thing is where i work would need to be within walking distance because we only have one car at the moment and i have no idea when we will get other one running, registered tags and insured. ive be checking and checking for places hiring within walking distance and the gas station is the only one i found.

i dont know what you mean by consolidate debts or 0% interest credit card thing

 

[bridgetboo62]

i dont believe in those who get their water broken to speed up the process or anything at all like that
its natural 99.9% of the time it will happen just as its suppose to without any intervention

im having mine the hospital only because we cant afford a midwife and at home birth and i have insurance where every appointment and hospital stay is $5 and every prescription is $3 because my mom works for kaiser so i will be on her insurance until im 26 and so will baby
but im not going to be hooked up to any monitors
not going to have any drugs
im not going to let them check on me 24/7 at all
no one is going to be in the room except OH when baby is born and OH is going to catch baby and be the first to hold baby

 

[readynwilling]

They will let you have an unattended hospital birth?

If you are in established labour nothing wrong with breaking your water. I didnt have it broken with my first labour was 12 hours with 2 hours of pushing, waters still intact. when they busted she slammed into my tailbone, broke it and was born 10 mins later. I asked them to break them at 6cm with my second, and he slid right down the birth canal and was born 10 mins later after a total of 5 hrs labour.

 

[RaspberryK]

Consolidate your debt basically means to get them into one place so you only need to pay one minimum payment, usually on lower interest rate.
There's some jobs I have seen that just send you paperwork and you have to typev it up into database ors something similar.

I'm booking in for a homebirth, I actually wish my waters were broken, a pocket of water was stopping ds heas from helping my cervix to dilate, they popped really suddenly and painfully hours and hours later and I went from 5cm to fully dilated instantly at which point I was abandoned by my midwife and dh rushed me to hospital where ds was born in half an hour. It would have saved me 12 hours of labour! Xx

 

[confuzion]

Presuming I make it that far (just can't imagine it right now), the plan is drug free, generally intervention free birth with a midwife at a hospital. They've got a tub among other things to help you cope. Weirdly enough I'm looking forward to giving birth. Lol. Might be because I've never done it .

 

[bridgetboo62]

if they dont let me have a unattended birth then i will leave
i dont want anyone else to hold baby first or be in the room when he/she is born except me and OH
its a special moment for only me and OH
and i dont want to be hooked up to monitors they have to respect that
for all they know my religion could prevent it

thats a good idea about consolidating debt. i will talk to OH and my dad about that one. (my dad is like our accountant and life couch he tells us how to do things how to go about things)

 

[bridgetboo62]

Presuming I make it that far (just can't imagine it right now), the plan is drug free, generally intervention free birth with a midwife at a hospital. They've got a tub among other things to help you cope. Weirdly enough I'm looking forward to giving birth. Lol. Might be because I've never done it .

yes same here. this is what i want. they can come in and check on me once in a great while see if im not dying but for the most part i want it to be me and OHs experience

 

[RaspberryK]

Confuzion I'm looking forward to birth too, and I've done it before, 26 hours of drug free labour. I had a birthing pool set up in my lounge xx

 

[Wnt2beAMom]

Ugh! Feeling awful today! Feels like the flu...I have chills but feel warm. So nauseous! And dizzy. Headache is so bad. Not my day...wish I could go home...but I'm at work

 

[bridgetboo62]

Wnt2beAMom

im so sorry
maybe you are coming down with something

and im looking forward to birth too guys
im having mine at this brand new kaiser hospital

they have the best rooms and birthing tub and everything

 

[Jbaby90]

I wish we had birthing tubs here, I think they are pretty rare in our hospitals and there are definitely none close to me!
The only reason I'm looking forward to birth is cos then I'll finally have a baby at the end of it

 

[readynwilling]

i had my son at the birthing suite at the MW office. Its directly accross the road from the hospital, large double bed, huge tub, arm chair for dh to hang out it in. I told them i'd be doing that again. It was like a HB but no mess at home LOL!

 

[Camichelle]

Hi ladies. Thanks for posting all your beautiful lines earlier. They made me feel much better about my faint lines Did blood test today and was hoping for results today for 100% confirmation but I'll have to wait until tomorrow as dr didn't call and is now closed here. Based on lmp my EDD is 2/10 but I have a feeling it will be later than that. Chinese calendar says girl for me which is what I want but it also said girl for my son. Lol
Welcome to all the new BFP's! Sorry about the stomach bugs that seem to be going around.

 

[swanxxsong]

Thanks for the warm welcomes ladies!

I have no inkling toward gender so far. We'll see if I develop one in time. We'll definitely be finding out what we're having.

My daughter came a month early. I am praying this one tucks itself in a little longer than that... I was barely prepared for her but there was no stopping this one -- and that has NOT changed! Once she gets an idea in her head... forget it!

BridgetBoot: I do some secret shopping on the side of my working in-home job. There's a mystery shopper organization website that can hook you up with legit shopping locations. It's not a TON of money, per se, but you can make as much or little as you want, depending on how often you can/want to shop. It has helped me pay some of my things. Also re: unattended birth, you'll prob want to check with the hospital about that ASAP. Around here, it's impossible to obtain a birth without monitors or someone else present unless you go to a birthing center and even then, they usually insist on a midwife being there. But you def have time to research it, which is nice! I know many insurances cover some portion of a midwife to deliver at-home but I only know that through multiple friends of mine who've done them.

My current hope is to deliver with a midwife at the local birthing center. Hopefully a water birth. We're getting a tour and session about the center next week. I'm praying I like it since my birth in hospital was not ideal, but didn't go terribly. I would much prefer a birth and delivery with fewer interventions. But that was my original plan with A and then it backfired when things got nuts. So I'm keeping my mind together this time and hoping it works out better! LOL

 

[ZombieKitten]

Hi ladies! Just found out I am pregnant, cautiously so for the time being.

My EDD is February 12th. This is my 4th pregnancy -- I have a two year old daughter and had two losses.

I am 28 and over the moon! I am anxious and nervous but also enthralled! 😊

Can't wait to get to know all of you!

Bump buddies again!!!!