Feel like OH is doubting he's babys father!

[LALSmith]

Hey girls, bit of a pointless thread as I'm not in need of advise - just want someone to talk to I guess lol. As I'm nearing my due date I'm hoping baby will come any day lol as many of us do when my OH says "well the due isn't right is it?", I say what do you mean & he says "well if it's right that would mean we would have had to have sex on the 16th December & we didn't have sex till 25th December". I just said the due date if from the scan (22.9.10), it was originally 25th September going by last period but it just seemed like he didn't understand it & is questioning how it's possible. My last period was 19th december, we conceived around new year time. Was very quick lol but it's like he's not so sure ? It's really annoyed me. I can't imagine how some women don't actually know who their babies fathers are or people that do know but lie to someone about them being the dad. I just couldn't do it so it's really wound me up that he's hinting at something like that...

 

[GossipGirl]

I think some men just don't understand the concept of due dates and taking it from the scan etc and it makes you feel iffy about talking about it then doesn't it, really annoying!

 

[Dragonfly]

Them dates are never accurate on scans you know, different babies different sizes make different dates and theres a whole week you can ovulate in they just have estimates there. The date they give isnt always the right one. I have two due dates from scans!

 

[jollygood000]

Try not to take it personally he probably doesnt mean it like that, men are just really tactless when discussing things like that... if it makes you feel better the first day of my last period was 17th December and I conceived on 27th December and Im due 2 days b4u so that seems bang onto me... tell your other half he is wrong lol xx

 

[Hoping]

Due date calculating is quite complicated, are you sure he's not just a bit confused hun?

 

[GossipGirl]

Me and OH are very confident that the baby is actually due tomorrow, 5th September as it was the only day we had sex where he forgot to pull out (sorry way TMI!) I was on the pill but forgot to get to the doctors to get my repeat and after finally going to the doctors I had my pill ready and was waiting to come on when I found out I was pregnant!

So tomorrow I will be A LOT more looking out for baby signs than I was on Thursday when it was my 'official' due date. And I'll be gutted if he doesn't come tomorrow!

But they generally say with scans that they're can be a week out either way.

 

[anna matronic]

When I told my babies dad he was the dad he asked me the maths as he couldn't get his head round it. He was counting 9 months from the date we dtd and couldn't understand how my due date was earlier.

I think with men their can be an insecurity and it isn't because they don't trust you it is because you will always KNOW that baby is yours because it was inside you for 9 months. The dad only knows cos you told him and he trusts you.

I hope he stops being silly x x x

 

[LALSmith]

I know. Another reason why I think it's irritating me is because if I do use LMP date I'm due 25th September so 3 days later than given (scan) date & I hate the thought of getting this far having 22nd in mind to be reminded it could actually be later still! Lol I know it's only 3 days but 1 day while waiting for a baby is like a lifetime! I dint actually know what he was getting at but it just felt ad if he was questioning it which is why it's annoyed me after almost 9 months of being excited about OUR baby with only a few weeks to go it suddenly becomes "well we didn't even have sex then"... Thanks for the that!

 

[EmyDra]

It's quite common for men to doubt their paternity - they don't mean that they distrust their partner I think it's more about being detached from the pregnancy i.e. watching the child they've helped create grow in another persons body.

I found an article about this once - wish I could remember where. I was really interesting.

When a man looks at a baby he unconsciously looks for ways in which the baby resembles himself - whereas woman do no such thing. It's just some inbuilt process that probably has some basis on 'passsing on his genes'.

My FOB is having a paternity test when LO is born - which is fair enough because due to some unfortuante circumstances I'd can't be 100% on the father. He's a good friend, and I hope he is the biological Dad since the alternative wants nothing to do with me in the slightest.

 

[amym]

I have been given 3 diff EDDs already and am only 22 weeks... I guess he doesn't understand how there can be so much variation and is being a bit of an arse. I agree it is insensitive at this stage in teh rpegnancy to act like he doubts you!

Am sure he'll get over it and hopefully will make it up to you x

 

[mommyheather]

I could be totally wrong but its my understanding that most (not all) women ovulate around 2 weeks after their period. Me and my OH dtd around that time lol and got pregnant However the due date is still based on the LMP (not when you actually dtd). So if your LMP was mid December and you all dtd around new years that is right on for you getting pregnant!

 

[Bexivillian]

I know how you feel, my LMP was 16th Dec, according to my MW i had to of conceived 30th, 31st Dec or 1st, 2nd Jan. Which is complete bull because I only DTD on Christmas Eve. Every women is different ! Hope you feel better soon xxx

 

[ethansmommy]

a month ago or so my hubby was a bit on the drunk side and mentioned something as a joke "how do i know if he's mine or not?" i flew off the handle at him and held it against him for about a week. he expressed to me that he was sure the baby was mine. but it still hurts. i know what you're going through.

 

[LALSmith]

I just don't think he understood that it doesn't go by when we neccessarily had sex. Like I said we didn't till 25th December but EDD is taken from LMP which I actually find quite amusing myself - does seem odd that's it's dated from before we even DTD but I understand that the actualy conceiving part takes place later on rather than when the first 'act' took place! I didn't go into with him because I swear I've been through it with him before & he just pissed me off do I couldn't be bothered to explain it to him again. We actually have no idea when we conceived, we DTD on 25th, 26th, 28th, 29th, 31st, 1st et etc lol so god knows when it actually happened! Lol

 

[nanomey]

when discussing dates with my other half he said ''hummmmm could be anyones!'' (he was only joking, i think lol - as gave a giggle and put his arm around me after) but it really peed me off!! then when i got all defensive and said ''oohh like whos then what are you trying to say'' he then said ''woah all right dont have a go at me, god your hormonal!!''
puh! men.... !

 

[minties]

Men are so silly! When i first told OH that I was pregnant, he accused me of going on fertility drugs behind his back lol! As if! Firstly I wouldn't have been able to afford to do that, secondly they wouldn't have given them to me without also assessing OH's sperm count etc to see if it was him who was having the fertility issues.

I think a lot of men blurt out stupid stuff.

According to my scan dates, I had my last menstrual period on the 18th of February (I didn't, I actually started thinking I was pregnant at that time) and ovulated on the 4th of May. We didn't have sex at all around that time, as we were both students and majorly stressing about exams and didn't feel like it for a couple of weeks.

 

[ladykara]

i couldnt go by my LMP because of a few problems but i had logged every day we had sex starting xmas day. I was then given different due dates every time we had a scan 23rd 24th 26th and 28th. i am always trying to work out which "sex day" was the winning night .. but i cant work it out.
The only way men will be a 100% sure is if they handcuffed you to the bed for two weeks while you TTC and got your BFP

only 5% of babies arrive on their due date anyway so its not like he can work it out once your baby is here..

men really shouldnt think so hard