Feel totally consumed by trying again

[Ivoryapril]

At my 11 week scan last week i found out i miscarried at 6 weeks 1 day. I had a D&C on Tuesday and just feel totally consumed by trying again. The midwife said its fine to go for it without having a normal period, which we are only considering as my husband goes away from late feb til late may and again early next year, meaning if we don't get pregnant again before he goes then we can't try again til August (for him to be here for the birth).

It's causing slight problems between us though as my husband is a bit reluctant since i would be due in november and he goes away again in dec/jan but i just can't wait til August. I feel so down and likie nothing else matters. Do other people have to wait a long time because of life style reasons? How will you keep occupied to ignore the constant nagging of wanting to TTC?

 

[jen1604]

This might be better off in the WTT section hon..
I am so sorry for your loss
If i was you I would just focus on getting my body and home as prepared as I can....
But as I said,come on over to Waiting To Try where you will find plenty of girlies in your position

 

[susan_1981]

I'm feeling obsessed with trying again. I had my ERPC on 29 December and we've been trying again already. I think I ovulated on Monday/Tuesday but I'm taking my temps again and Fertility Friend hasn't marked my ovulation yet. And now I'm symptom spotting, like I'm peeing a lot and my boobs are hurting a bit. I wish I could be more laid back about this TTC.

It must be worse for you to have time frames of when you can TTC. I'm not in the same position as you but I'm definitely obsessing again. I hope things work out for you x

 

[Orange lady]

I think this is normal. I had my ERPC on 16th Dec after a missed miscarriage. We were advised to wait for one cycle which we did. I am pretty keen to try again and OH says he is. I bought some OPK but then found I thought of nothing else. So have decided not to use the opk's and just try as we did before by alot.
However, my husband is ultra keen for this not to take over our lives, and is being really wary of me and which isn't good.
So, I guess patience is the only way to go for me.

 

[becky77]

I know what you mean its like the only important thing in the world right now is to be pregnant again and everything else can wait.We were advised to wait for our first af which we did and are now on cycle one. i know what orange lady means about wary dh to ,mine said he is staring to feel like a sperm donar ( he is joking i think), so must try not to let it take over too much.
good luck whatever you both decide to do but i can totally relate to how you feel
x

 

[chanel]

Sorry for your loss april

I was/am exactly the same!

We were recommended to wait for first a/f before trying again which we did. At the time OHs work wanted him to work away and i was like a woman possesed, totally irrational and told him he couldn't! (what if a/f arrived and i was ready and he wasn't there, that would be the end of the world right!?) well i didn't exactly tell him he couldn't but huffed a lot .... this is really not like me. Normally i am really laid back and support him in whatever decisions he makes but I was like there was no tomorrow!!!

Anyway, he didn't go away but my a/f didn't turn up for 8wks! My cycles are not yet back to normal.

If you don't get lucky straight away would his work not allow him to come home for the birth if you tried in may?

As for taking your mind off ttc again, please let me know if you find out so i can do the same.

take care x

 

[Drazic<3]

Im so sorry for your loss
Like Jen said, Why not try joining us WTT girlies whilst you wait? We are all waiting for all different reasons, and we all try and support each other.

Much love -x-

 

[Ivoryapril]

No he couldn't come home for the birth as its armed forces and they don't bend the rules! Think hubby is coming round to trying now so we'll see what happens. If not, we're booking a nice holiday for july to try to focus on x