Feeling a bit down as my angel baby's due date approaches

[sil]

Hi ladies,
I guess I just needed somewhere to talk with some ladies who understand. My 2nd pregnancy ended in miscarriage at 6 weeks. I know 6 weeks isn't very far along, but I was very attached to my baby and the idea of him/her and had a really hard time when I miscarried.

I was fortunate enough to get pregnant in the cycle immediately after miscarrying and am now 33 week pregnant. However, my angel baby's due date is approaching in 8 days. This also happens to be my DS's birthday.

I'm really afraid that I won't be able to enjoy his birthday the way that I want to because there is sort of this dark cloud hanging over it that nobody really talks about. I tried bringing it up with a friend once, and she said I should be happy that I have a healthy son and another on the way. While I am of course happy about this, it doesn't take the sting out of losing my second child. I just wish she/he could be here with us too.

I guess I just need a good cry as the date approaches. I feel silly for being upset almost 9 months later and when I do have a happy healthy son and new pregnancy, but I just can't help it

Thanks for listening

 

[Spudtastic]

Sil - I'm sory for your loss and congratulations on your new pregnancy. I do hate to write those togther myself as I feel it's goodbye baby hello new one but I hope you know what I mean.

I am writing but I would have been due on 18th june. I was also very attached to baby and I have found myself crying alot this week. I am also nearly 10 weeks pregnant.

I think woman are strong and we can find the strength to be happy for our ohs when they need us to. Our little angels maybe be gone but mine will live in my memory as long as I live.
It's a difficult week. Bug hugs. X x

It's not silly to be upset at all. And I know friends who say things like that just don't get it. I had all sorts of terrible comments from well meaning friends but don't take them to heart. Yes we have a healthy child but we still lost one. x x x

 

[laughingduck]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I just had one at the same stage almost exactly. I know my due date January 30 will always be a day I will remember. It's ok to appreciate what you have and feel sad for your loss. Congrats on your new pregnancy too.

 

[sausages]

The dates are always the hardest to deal with. And being happy elsewhere in your life doesn't take away the sadness you feel for your angel baby. In fact, it can only emphasise the loss sometimes. I have had two children after my losses and each time i rejoice in their milestones I feel a pang because their older brother and sister didn't get to do those things.