lilwelsh1
3 happy kids+2 angels
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i dont mean to sound like a whiney lil kid but people in my family really seem to make me feel like they arent interested and dont care. No one asked about my dating scan or to c the pictures, when i showed them they all went hmm and walked off or talked about something else.
When i first announced i was pregnant i was met with either total silence or told i was mad, granted getting pregnant 2 months after a mc is scary but not mad or a reason to be negative. I thought it would settle by now and the family would relax a little bit cuz i thought they were just worried it would happen again. Now i just feel like im not allowed to talk about anything baby or pregnancy related. I dont c anyone very often so its not like they could say its all i ever talk about cuz theres no point, eyes glaze over, the kettle goes on or phones r played with.
When i mentioned no one actually asked about the scan or anything i was simply asked 'oh so u only got pregnant to be fussed over?' charming! This child is their family too and i feel like its a taboo subject. Sometimes i feel like not bothering at all and when im either admitted to hospital to be induced or go into labour i might not even mention it, i'll probably be called a drama queen, like one relative kindly called me when i mentioned i was already under a consultant, classed as high risk and looking at early induction as with the first 2.
Then i think am i being childish n silly? I've done this twice before so maybe i dont need to excitedly discuss how i want everything to go, my plans and wishes. Maybe asking for baby name suggestions is silly and it is 'too early'' to be thnking about these things? I was even taken the pee out of when i mentioned i use bnb, some relatives think its ridiculous and im broadcasting my pregnancy all over the internet!? i dont understand the weirdness, is it me? Or r they being ridiculous?
When i first announced i was pregnant i was met with either total silence or told i was mad, granted getting pregnant 2 months after a mc is scary but not mad or a reason to be negative. I thought it would settle by now and the family would relax a little bit cuz i thought they were just worried it would happen again. Now i just feel like im not allowed to talk about anything baby or pregnancy related. I dont c anyone very often so its not like they could say its all i ever talk about cuz theres no point, eyes glaze over, the kettle goes on or phones r played with.
When i mentioned no one actually asked about the scan or anything i was simply asked 'oh so u only got pregnant to be fussed over?' charming! This child is their family too and i feel like its a taboo subject. Sometimes i feel like not bothering at all and when im either admitted to hospital to be induced or go into labour i might not even mention it, i'll probably be called a drama queen, like one relative kindly called me when i mentioned i was already under a consultant, classed as high risk and looking at early induction as with the first 2.
Then i think am i being childish n silly? I've done this twice before so maybe i dont need to excitedly discuss how i want everything to go, my plans and wishes. Maybe asking for baby name suggestions is silly and it is 'too early'' to be thnking about these things? I was even taken the pee out of when i mentioned i use bnb, some relatives think its ridiculous and im broadcasting my pregnancy all over the internet!? i dont understand the weirdness, is it me? Or r they being ridiculous?