feeling a little guilty

[LovingYou]

my OH has a good job. Him and his dad own a sign company- they make and install signs and banners for all the big companies around town. They also travel a couple hours away for customers.

I've been feeling a little guilty lately, because i stay home with our daughter. My mom and i also own a small company but we do trade shows, so i don't work everyday. (we usually do trade shows on the weekends)

Last night my husband worked until 7, and got home at 7:30. He's usually home by 5:30. When he came home, we had dinner, then i went to the store to get milk, and when i got home i went to bed because i was SO exhausted from staying home with karinna all day.

When he got home, he picked up karinna and gave her kisses and said "hi princess i love you so much. I missed you so much today and i'm sorry i'm home late, but i do it for you and mommy, so you can have nice things"

I felt so guilty. He works so hard for us, and always makes sure we have what we need. He always tries to make us happy and goes out late at night to get brownies and ice cream if i'm craving it.

I want to do something nice for him in return. Please don't say clean the house and cook dinner, lol. I do that every day so that wouldn't really be any different. How can i show him how much i appreciate him?

 

[Lisa83]

I feel the same as you do my other half works 6 days a week at least 12hour shifts each day just so i can stay home with the kids and im so grateful for this

Maybe you could have your little girl watched for a few hours and cook his fav meal for him have a nice dinner together and his fav movie even if u hate it ha ha .. im pretty sure u could even get a nice foot massage while watching the movie for your efforts .. Therefore your both appreciating each other

Good luck and keep us bnb mums updated of what u decide and how it goes xxxx

 

[Sealgirl]

He sounds absolutely lovely, what a lovely hubby you have and a great daddy. I bet you he totally appreciates and is in awe of you for everything you do for him and your family.

I'm sorry I don't have any great ideas - my hubby is similar and I have already bought him a nice watch he has always wanted, on credit eek, but its his present before the baby comes and I'm gonna try hard to get it paid off before xmas so when he gets it its all bought and paid for and he doesn't have to worry about the money.

That's because he never buys anything for himself, has never been on holiday, never does anything for himself, so this is my big thank you. Is there anything similar you could do?

Or perhaps does he have a favourite place, you could arrange to take him and LO (or get LO watched) while you have a romantic night and you can tell him how much you appreciate him with his favourite meal, favourite surroundings and favourite people?

xx

 

[em1021]

hmmm, depends on what he likes! for instance mine LOVES football, so i bought him some football tickets and got a sitter and we went and watched the game. or maybe if thats not the case you could write him a letter telling him how much he means to you etc. or make something to him from your daughter. or take him out to his favorite place and do something just the 2 of you afterwards and YOU pay for it, my hub loves that, its like a little treat that i pay for once lol. or maybe a romantic back massage and some extra special loving ;]

 

[Gretaa]

Hug him, give him a passionate and wet kiss and show him that you love him just as much as he loves you two (three now) and that you'd do anything for him no matter what. Cuddle up on the sofa in the evening, tell him you love him and that you really appreciate all he's doing for your little family. Men love kind words and that they are indeed understood.

 

[disney doll]

He sounds lovely...very thoughtful of you to want to do something nice as well..I agree with other posts get a babysitter and head out for dinner or to somewhere special to you both...late evening romantic picnic. Think he will just be so pleased you wanted to do something special and acknowledge what he does. Good luck x

 

[fizzypop]

Swap with me!!!!! Mine is the complete opposite!!! lucky girl xxx

 

[bumpbear]

He probably knows you appreciate him already, which is why he continues to make so much effort. It's not like you're doing nothing by being at home with his daughter all day and keeping the bun warm. My husband sounds very similar to yours and whilst he always makes me feel like a queen, I reciprocate by being affectionate and constantly reminding him how grateful I am to have him. He seems to like that better than pressies! he also likes it when I go to the effort of planning an evening out for the two of us.

 

[ovetta2001]

I think one of the things to remember is that even though its your family and its second nature to do things like cook and clean (for some of us) imagine what it would be like if no one was there to take care of your child or if no one cleaned and cooked...keeping on top of everything. It is a job in its own right

By the sounds of it though the best thing you can give the OH is some quality time...just the two of you

 

[EngineerGirl]

The thing is, if you guys traded jobs for a week from everything I heard he'd be thinking the same about you (especially when your #2 gets here!). My BIL watches his two daughters while his wife is working one Saturday every 6 weeks or so and I know he respects what she does as the primary caregiver most days SO much.

But...it's a great idea to try and say thanks to your OH. Does he like a specific beer or liquor? You could pick it up for him while you're running errands - especially if it's nicer than he'd usually spring for himself. There's also making sure your physical relationship is as great as you can, I hear that's really encouraging and of course it brings you closer. Thinking up a special date night, even if it's just after your daughter is asleep at home, shows how much you think of him. Also if he has e-mail access during the day e-mail him things like a picture of your daughter holding up a sign saying "thank you Daddy" and that sort of thing as encouragement.

 

[YoshiPikachu]

Aww that's so sweet. I agree with what others have said, go out to dinner just the two of you.

 

[aidensxmomma]

One of the best ways I can show my OH how much I appreciate him is by watching a movie that he loves that I absolutely hate (and there's a lot of them ) He knows which movies I don't like, so he feels special when I'll watch one with him just because he likes it. It's simple things like that that mean the most to him.

I think a date night would be a great idea, too. Plus, you'll both get to relax and enjoy yourselves.

 

[MommyJaan]

The fact that you feel this way is enough love for him =). Just be happy with what you have and never take him for granted.