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Anyone else already feeling possessive of their baby??
I feel like such a cow, but for the past couple of weeks I've been feeling really possessive over my LO and she's not even born yet! I don't have a problem with the thought of people cuddling her, seeing her etc...I know people love cuddling new babies, and I plan on encouraging people to hold her as long as they're not ill and have washed etc.
What gets me more is the comments I'm getting from MIL especially. Our relationship is very good (after a rocky start) and she's GREAT with kids and babies so it's not a trust issue, but she keeps saying "our baby" and that "we're almost there" etc I don't mind her (or anyone) touching my bump as I know it's a gesture of love, but there are times when she just stares at it and it makes me uncomfortable! I know she already loves my LO, but the way she stares at my bump makes me want to put my hands on it to make her stop!
Maybe it's because I'm a FTM and had such a hard time getting pregnant, but I just want to tell her that it's not "our" baby. It's MY baby! I'm the one that begged and cried for this LO for three years, I'm the one that had to go through the entire IVF process, and I'm the one that's been growing her inside me...but then I feel like a bad person for thinking like that since all she's doing is showing love for my baby. I'd never ever mention it to her since it would hurt her feelings, but sometimes her comments really annoy me!
Does anyone else feel like this? Is there someone in your life that makes you feel possessive over your baby, or are my hormones starting to make me weird?
I feel like such a cow, but for the past couple of weeks I've been feeling really possessive over my LO and she's not even born yet! I don't have a problem with the thought of people cuddling her, seeing her etc...I know people love cuddling new babies, and I plan on encouraging people to hold her as long as they're not ill and have washed etc.
What gets me more is the comments I'm getting from MIL especially. Our relationship is very good (after a rocky start) and she's GREAT with kids and babies so it's not a trust issue, but she keeps saying "our baby" and that "we're almost there" etc I don't mind her (or anyone) touching my bump as I know it's a gesture of love, but there are times when she just stares at it and it makes me uncomfortable! I know she already loves my LO, but the way she stares at my bump makes me want to put my hands on it to make her stop!
Maybe it's because I'm a FTM and had such a hard time getting pregnant, but I just want to tell her that it's not "our" baby. It's MY baby! I'm the one that begged and cried for this LO for three years, I'm the one that had to go through the entire IVF process, and I'm the one that's been growing her inside me...but then I feel like a bad person for thinking like that since all she's doing is showing love for my baby. I'd never ever mention it to her since it would hurt her feelings, but sometimes her comments really annoy me!
Does anyone else feel like this? Is there someone in your life that makes you feel possessive over your baby, or are my hormones starting to make me weird?