Feeling sexy/confident HELP!!! LOL

[HearMyPrayers]

Late night DH has me to do a sexy little number for him, like a little show you know, but I haven't been feeling very sexy or confident with my body. Every since my surgery and all the clomid/triggers Ive put on about 10 lbs Anyhow, I'm not really feeling comfortable in my own skin. Like I feel like an awkward weirdo when I'm naked around dh and I can't even fake being sexy, I just feel like I look stupid, fat, ugly all wrapped into one. I feel like when I'm trying to be sexy he is thinking "ugh she is so hideous!". Ok a little harsh on myself I know but, its hard to do this when you feel like

I felt bad because I want to give my DH everything he wants but how do I get out of my own head and start visioning myself as sexy or womanly? This infertility business sucks the sexiness right outta ya!!

 

[weebubba]

I completely understand how you feel. I've gained a lot recently and feel vile OH on the otherhand has gone from being a horny devil to a complete maniac! He loves the new curves and wants to several times a day, every day - its exhausting just thinking about it.

My weight gain has knocked my confidence in the bedroom and where I was happy to get "dolled" up and have fun I have found that my compromise is to still make the effort with saucy undies but I won't take them off until the light is off and we are in the bed.

So maybe you guys could find a compromise too that makes it fabulous for you both.

Good luck and have fun

 

[Molae06]

Right there with ya....kind of. In my case, dh doesn't even want to bd anymore. He will if I ask or he "knows it's time", other than that sex life sucks. I have put on a TON of weight since I met him and we started ttc. I met him when I was 18 and I was 5'1" and 115 lbs. Now, 7 years later I am 5'1" and 180lbs (last time I checked). I started gaining the weight right around the time we got married when I was 21. I think it is the combination of being depressed about ltttc and also the PCOS. Last year in January me and dh started dieting/exercising together and I lost a good amount of weight and was starting to be able to buy smaller sizes in clothes etc, then in March last year I got my first BFP ever. M/C a couple weeks later and I haven't been back to the gym/dieting since. Gained all the weight back plus more.

I know for a fact dh doesn't find me sexy. No one could. I know I should start dieting/exercising again, I know I need to, it would definitely help with the ttc, but I just can't. I have no desire to do it. I am so pissed of at life and I know I should get over it, but I just can't. I would love to be the woman I know my husband finds desirable again, and I would love to do it for myself, I just don't have the will power anymore, and feel like I have given up.

How do you ladies find the strength to keep going?

 

[PinkPeony]

Right there with ya....kind of. In my case, dh doesn't even want to bd anymore. He will if I ask or he "knows it's time", other than that sex life sucks. I have put on a TON of weight since I met him and we started ttc. I met him when I was 18 and I was 5'1" and 115 lbs. Now, 7 years later I am 5'1" and 180lbs (last time I checked). I started gaining the weight right around the time we got married when I was 21. I think it is the combination of being depressed about ltttc and also the PCOS. Last year in January me and dh started dieting/exercising together and I lost a good amount of weight and was starting to be able to buy smaller sizes in clothes etc, then in March last year I got my first BFP ever. M/C a couple weeks later and I haven't been back to the gym/dieting since. Gained all the weight back plus more.

I know for a fact dh doesn't find me sexy. No one could. I know I should start dieting/exercising again, I know I need to, it would definitely help with the ttc, but I just can't. I have no desire to do it. I am so pissed of at life and I know I should get over it, but I just can't. I would love to be the woman I know my husband finds desirable again, and I would love to do it for myself, I just don't have the will power anymore, and feel like I have given up.

How do you ladies find the strength to keep going?

Molae! I had to chime in and give you

I would say don't look at things like you have to fix everything all at once right away. It's too much. LTTTC is rough. I've gained weight too over the course of this winter and I've been so down. It's totally emotional eating and I know it. I'm just starting small though. I make sure I eat a super healthy breakfast in the morning but that's all. Hopefully that'll set the stage for the rest of the day and put me in a positive frame of mind but I'm not going to force myself to follow any diet plan... Or even force myself to feel shiny happy all the time. It ain't gonna happen. So try to start with one thing that's totally doable and hopefully you can build on it eventually.

 

[HearMyPrayers]

Right there with ya....kind of. In my case, dh doesn't even want to bd anymore. He will if I ask or he "knows it's time", other than that sex life sucks. I have put on a TON of weight since I met him and we started ttc. I met him when I was 18 and I was 5'1" and 115 lbs. Now, 7 years later I am 5'1" and 180lbs (last time I checked). I started gaining the weight right around the time we got married when I was 21. I think it is the combination of being depressed about ltttc and also the PCOS. Last year in January me and dh started dieting/exercising together and I lost a good amount of weight and was starting to be able to buy smaller sizes in clothes etc, then in March last year I got my first BFP ever. M/C a couple weeks later and I haven't been back to the gym/dieting since. Gained all the weight back plus more.

I know for a fact dh doesn't find me sexy. No one could. I know I should start dieting/exercising again, I know I need to, it would definitely help with the ttc, but I just can't. I have no desire to do it. I am so pissed of at life and I know I should get over it, but I just can't. I would love to be the woman I know my husband finds desirable again, and I would love to do it for myself, I just don't have the will power anymore, and feel like I have given up.

How do you ladies find the strength to keep going?

Molae! I had to chime in and give you

I would say don't look at things like you have to fix everything all at once right away. It's too much. LTTTC is rough. I've gained weight too over the course of this winter and I've been so down. It's totally emotional eating and I know it. I'm just starting small though. I make sure I eat a super healthy breakfast in the morning but that's all. Hopefully that'll set the stage for the rest of the day and put me in a positive frame of mind but I'm not going to force myself to follow any diet plan... Or even force myself to feel shiny happy all the time. It ain't gonna happen. So try to start with one thing that's totally doable and hopefully you can build on it eventually.

I hands down agree with you on this!