Feelings about FOB.

[xVAP]

So I'm not with my FOB, we're just best friends. But he's not allowed in my house anymore cause my mum isnt too happy with it. But I still spend most of my time around his now.

Earlier this evening he kissed me. And I pulled back when he did it, but he went in again and I just couldnt help myself. And idk, he knows I have feelings for him, and recently he's said he has feelings for me too. But Idk if this is just because he thinks he owes it to us to be a family now I'm pregnant? But I dont want that. I guess I'm just worried if we become a couple, we're going to argue more and it's going to be harder to get through the stressful parts of this pregnancy and when the baby is here.

Was anyone not in a relationship when they got pregnant, or hadnt been in one long? Any advice you can give me?

 

[xforuiholdonx]

My advice to you is that if you both have feelings or one another, give it a go. It obvious you both care for each other, and though at times a relationship is difficult, it's nice to have that extra support of it!

 

[MummyMana]

I'd say talk to him and find out,whether,it's because he,wants to be with you or because of the baby communication is very important.
Me and my boyfriend had only been together 4 months when I found out I was,pregnant, and we're ,still just as strong the pregnancy hasn't put pressure on our relationship as we're open with each other and support each other,as a team

Also I can't understand why your parents won't let him in the house, surely they'd want him there supporting you :s

 

[xVAP]

Thank you both.

Also I can't understand why your parents won't let him in the house, surely they'd want him there supporting you :s

My dad doesnt really have a problem with him being there. My mum is furious about the whole situation. I think she just resents him, or is punishing me. I dont really know, I think she wouldnt have such a problem had we been dating before getting pregnant. My mum will barely talk to me anymore, when I asked why he wasnt allowed she just said, "because I dont want him here." So we'll see what happens.

 

[ClairAye]

I'd been officially with my OH for about 2 weeks when we found out! Here we are now 15 months later
Tbh I don't think he is doing it just because he feels he has to, having a baby with someone really will make your feelings for them a lot stronger

 

[haydenmummy]

Same as clair I was with my OH 2 weeks when fell pregnant and now 4 and half years down the line and another child lol u have to talk and see what he feels really and give it ago if you both have these feeling you can't just switch them off xx

 

[xVAP]

I will talk to him, but not tonight, haha. He really hasnt been feeling well these last couple of days. And he had his first day of work at Wetherspoons today, but it didn't go too well Apparently they didnt train him enough, so he just got shot in mid day on a Saturday and had no clue where anything was or how to work the tills or anything. Think it's really knocked his confidence. But I'm hoping tomorrow will go better.

 

[xforuiholdonx]

I would just ignore you mom at the moment and go about your normal business. She will get over it sooner or later! Though I do think it's a bit immature of her not to want him around when you are already pregnant...kwim?

 

[xVAP]

Yeah, that's exactly what me and FOB said! I was talking to my older brother and dad and saying I don't understand why he can't be around anymore. My brother was like, "yeah, what's he gunna do? Knock her up?" But my dad didn't quite find that funny. My dad says she just thinks he's bad news, and has ruined my life. But I don't get it cause she got on really well with him before. I know Scott (FOB) is upset that she's rejecting him now, even though he won't admit it.

 

[lizmageeful]

I was with Trevor for 3 months when I got pregnant. To be honest, I'm really not sure we would still be together if I hadnt gotten pregnant because we both have tendencies to get out of things quickly at the first sign of trouble, but we've been forced to try and work out differences because of the baby. I think it actually brought us a lot closer together.