felling confused and releaved

[pinkgem100]

hi i am writing this to see if anyone has felt the same and if it is normal to feel this. I burried my little boy Harry yesterday 8 weeks after giving bith to him at 20 weeks. Its been a horrible wait for the funeral, and not know whats going on, and yesterday was proberly the hardist thing that i have had to do.

Th thing is that i have woke up today and i feel a sense of relief cus i have no more waiting, i know where he is and i can visit him and look after him the only way i can now (taking flowers and keeping his grave tidy etc). The problem is is that my partner and family are all very upset and can not understand my sense of relief, i miss him so much and do cry and want him back but i have excepted that it is not going to happen. Is it normal to feel like this??

xx

 

[jen1604]

So sorry to hear about your little boy
Everyone grieves in different ways so no one is the same.But I can understand what you mean about the relief.Dont be afraid to grieve in your own way hon,dont worry about it being 'normal' xx

 

[1st_baby]

Its sounds normal , although you will never forget your son ..you must go on ..as you said you are relived that now you know where he is and you can look after him ..dont worry about how others think hun , you grieve the way you need to .

 

[celine]

I suspose the relief is that the worrying period is over, you know where he is and that he is at rest. Im so sorry for your loss x

 

[becky77]

I think your handling it wonderfully ,and now you can start to piece things back together now you have laid him to rest.Everyone grieves differently there is no normal.
so sorry for your loss.

 

[Orange lady]

Sorry for your loss. It sounds normal to me to feel relief. Now is the time to rebuild your life and look to the future.

 

[oxSarahxo]

hi i am writing this to see if anyone has felt the same and if it is normal to feel this. I burried my little boy Harry yesterday 8 weeks after giving bith to him at 20 weeks. Its been a horrible wait for the funeral, and not know whats going on, and yesterday was proberly the hardist thing that i have had to do.

Th thing is that i have woke up today and i feel a sense of relief cus i have no more waiting, i know where he is and i can visit him and look after him the only way i can now (taking flowers and keeping his grave tidy etc). The problem is is that my partner and family are all very upset and can not understand my sense of relief, i miss him so much and do cry and want him back but i have excepted that it is not going to happen. Is it normal to feel like this??

xx

I would tend to agree with you on this.

After my daughter's funeral I felt so relieved - the waiting was over and I could attempt moving on.

4months after her death I feel different again and am on anti-depressants and really struggling to deal with her death.

I think you'll be up and down with your moods/emotions for a while to come. That's to be expected.

Everyone grieves differently, just do what feels right for you, not what other people think you should do.

 

[Drazic<3]

Everyone copes differently sweetheart. I am glad you are feeling a little better - doesnt mean you dont love her with all your heart, please try not to feel guilty.
Im so sorry for your loss

 

[mammag]

everyone grieves differently. but i strongly believe that everyone should respect the way anyone around them chooses to grieve. the way you feel is perfectly normal. you have put your child to rest. you know he is safe and in gods hands and being upset about it isn't going to bring him back. no matter how hard people would like it too. being strong and moving on is all you can do. but do make sure you are dealing with the loss of your son properly, even though it sounds to me like you are, because if you don't the grief could strike you all at once, and cause unnecessary pain. and i do know the relief at knowing that it is finally over. when the waiting and the worrying stops, and you know how everything is going to turn out, that is the best time to put your chin up, and plow forward as best you can. i'm so sorry for your loss.

 

[pinkgem100]

Thank you everyone for you messages, they mean a lot. xx