Hey I can really relate to you here.
We have three gorgeous boys. When I was pregnant with my second I wanted a girl I'll be honest and I thought I was having a girl bevause the pregnancy felt so different to my first, when I found out she was a he, I was mildly disappointed but happy that my eldest would have a little brother and of course most importantly that he was healthy!! When I was expecting my third (I'm going to be really honest here and people won't like it, I know it's not right but I'm being honest to help the op) I was DESPERATE for him to be a girl, I wanted a daughter so badly and thought I was having my last baby. When I found out at the scan that I was having a healthy baby boy (and we weren't even positive that he would be healthy because I had polyhydramnious and his legs where in the bottom percentile but head in the top) I SOBBED for the baby girl I would never have, I was so so disappointed and had it been at the birth I know I would only have been so so happy to hold him and him be ok because he birth was touch and go. So on that hand it might have been better to wait. On the other hand though as gutted as I was when I found out, it probably only lasted an hour or two! After that once it sank in I was just happy to be having him.
Since then, we have had a vasectomy, then regretted it and had it reversed, tried for 20 months to get pregnant, been told by the NHS that antibodies meant that DH was not highly likely infertile....then got pregnant with our 4th!! Complete shock and because pregnancy has no longer come so easy to me and bevause I have longed for the chance to have another child for what feels like such a long time, I can genuinely say that this time I don't care about the gender! It's a brilliant feeling to not care. Yes obviously I will smile a little wider if I come out at 20 weeks with the news we are expecting a girl but I'm begging to realise that some of that is because of the disappointment from other people. So many times they have said "oh maybe next time" or "oh well you can't have Anytning I guess" or "aww what a shame, was so hoping for a girl for you this time"
If I get that this time, I think I'll lose my shit. I know it's hard honestly I do remember from last time, but just remember how much of a blessing a healthy baby is at all. Let me know what you decide! I'm definitely going to find out just because I like to plan and would be such a shame to me to only be able to buy neutral clothes. If I'm honest I'll probably start buying boy things before we even have the scan lol bevause I just kind of presume at this point that we are having another boy lol X