First pregnancy with IC ~ Charlotte Mae 2/16/2011 ~ Lawyer update pg 7

[Jaxvipe]

I am so sorry for your loss

 

[bornthiswayxo]

Sorry for your loss my dear... Charlotte is beautiful.

 

[Ilyjaylen2011]

So sorry about all you have been through. Your story is very similar to my own. I suffered a ruptured appendix which caused my loss. A couple of days after surgery, I went for an ultrasound and was told that my cervix was shortened & that I was also 2cm dialated. I was not a candidate for cerclage because of risk of infection what with the rupture and all. So pretty much the doctors told me to sit and wait, but that they were sure my pregnancy would not last much longer. Sure enough, my water broke when I was 17 weeks. The next day I was induced.

You aren't alone & I'm here if you need to chat. Xoxo

 

[Khadijah-x]

What a awful hospital!
At a time like that you should be left alone to cuddle your precious little girl, not them being half soaked and dragging things on, just get out and leave me alone already, thats how you felt!

Im sooooo sorry for your loss. Your so strong and your beautiful little girl will be very proud of u! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

shes in heaven looking after my little angels x

 

[MiissDior]

I am so sorry for your loss
your thread was on my unread posts thing at very top
and having lost my Daughter at 42wks
I felt it was just respectful to pay my respects to you and your family

Thinking of you darling
so sorry to read you threated way you did
and lost your little girl how you did too..
I lost my daughter by hosp negligance..
really hope you get the justice you deserve

Lots of Love xx​

 

[mojobear]

So sorry for your loss x

 

[Abblebubba]

 

[Missy86]

Im sorry for your loss

 

[Alisa F]

Thank you for all your kind words.
I have contacted a lawyer and I'm making sure I haven't forgotten anything before I send her my full summary of what happened. I don't know if I have a case but if I do it is not about money. If me pursuing legal recourse helps someone else out in the future than that is good enough for me. I want the doctors to be accountable for their actions (or lack of). Also just simply knowing that I have a case (if I do) against them will give me a little peace. I know that sounds weird that being told I was wronged would make me feel better but it would.

I can’t begin to tell you how sorry I am for your loss. Our little angels are in heaven looking after each other.

If you have the emotional strength to take legal action I hope you go through with it. Every day I hate myself for not taking legal action for a similar experience I had to yours. But I’m trapped because I desperately want to have another baby and need to go to the same hospital and fear that I will get even worse treatment if I’m taking legal action against them.

You are in my thoughts and prayers xxx

 

[Semanthia]

I finally received a letter from the lawyer today and he has decided to close the case. The ob/gyn expert they consulted with said I did not receive the standard care I should have. At my 10 week 6 day ultrasound when they saw I had a shortened cervix I should have been referred to a specialist and I should have been checked again 2 weeks later not 7 weeks later. However the literature on the cerclage is so controversial that they don't feel that they can prove the outcome would have been different if the cerclage had been placed. This is not what I wanted to hear but have to accept it. I thought it would make me feel better just to be told that I had been wronged but it doesn't. I am glad I have this information though because I plan on writing my doctor a letter and will be letting her know I went to a lawyer who took time to review my medical records with an ob/gyn expert and they feel she did not provide me with standard medical care. I can not look through my medical records because it causes so much anger and honestly hatred towards the doctors I dealt with. I have honestly never experienced anger and hatred like this before, I know it is bad and I need to forgive but I struggle. I am a religious person and often ask God to give me the strength to forgive and not feel these nasty emotions of anger, hatred, jealousy... They managed to continue proving what IDIOTS they are to me after the matter. They left things out and worded for themselves. They even fubbed up the time of birth and time of death and there is a conversation in my medical records of the stupid doctor (who dug out my placenta) and the medical records department basically asking each other why the family wanted the time changed and that if the death time was at 1:35am then the birth MUST have been at 1:30am and that is what we are complaining about. NO NO you morons NO! She was born at 1:14am and took her last gasp and movement at around 1:35ish. The doctor didn't even look at her let alone check to see if she was dead or not he assumed she was dead 5 mins after birth. My husband was holding her when she died and it was very obvious she gasped and moved one last time and then shortly after that started to feel cold. It may seem like a stupid thing to care about but it means a lot to me to give my daughter's life the acknowledgment it deserves!!

 

[Nikki_d72]

I'm so sorry for your loss, and for the terrible treatment you received at that hospital. I hope you find some small satisfaction in telling them they were found lacking by a peer and I wish you gentler days ahead. I hate how little they often listen or beleive us.

xxx

 

[jennijunni]

I am so, so sorry. It is such a sad thing to go through, made even sadder by hospital staff that forget, that behind their patient, is a mother who has just lost her baby. I am so sorry. Your Charlotte is just beautiful. Lots of hugs, and prayers for your healing and peace.