First time moms - TTC after a loss

[showlah8]

Hi ladies, I just joined the site a few days ago. I lost my precious baby boy on 18th August @ 22 weeks ( exactly 4 months to his EDD). It has been a struggle and i think I have only recently come to terms with the fact that it actually happened bu I thank God for all the love and support He has shown me through friends and family. I started this thread so i could have some buddies that are in a similar situation as me.

I am not a mother yet - hence the topic first time moms but I am TTC. I am CD39 ( counting from the day of delivery) and I think AF has paid me a visit as I had some brown spotting this evening when I wiped. In a way I am relieved cos it means I will ovulate soon and I am likely to get pregnant in a few weeks. I did start to TTC right away once the bleeding stopped and i have taken 4 pregnancy tests which have all been negative. So heres to hoping and praying that we all get pregnant soon, have wonderful pregnancies, carry our babies to term and bring our lovely babies into this world.

 

[HopingCarter]

FIRST AND FOREMOST, I am so sorry to hear of your loss so late in your pregnancy I feel so ashamed of myself for being so down about my MC at 11+2, and here I find women who were near birth and still didn't get to have their blessing!! I truly do hope you get your blessing soon!!!!

I hope I can join you on that wait, b/c this would be my first too. I'm currently waiting on my first AF to show up. It's only been 18 days since my D&C so I'm hoping she comes soon so that I can get going on trying too.

 

[babydust1516]

Hi ladies...i would love to join you on this journey...i believe i miscarried on Saturday (I am waiting for blood work to come back tomorrow morning to confirm that my levels went down). I took a Clear Blue digital weeks predictor and my weeks have started to go down...my hubby and I are very upset, BUT we weren't that far along and we now have a little angel watching over us...I am sorry for both of your losses. We want to try again ASAP! I would love to get pregnant right away. Needless to say, this will be our first and we are very excited for the journey we hope to take very soon.

 

[HCas]

I hope all you lovely ladies get your miracles. Don't know if I really fit here since both my miscarriages were so long ago, but I just wanted to send all of you my love and prayers! I'm sorry for all your losses

 

[HopingCarter]

Thanks and I'm so sorry for your losses as well HCas . I hope you get to join us. Even though this road of TTC is kind of hard, it's always great to have women to share your experiences with who actually understand

 

[HCas]

Thank you ^^ And I completely share those feelings. I would have gone crazy and given up by now if it wasn't for all the support for the ladies on here ^^

 

[babydust1516]

Thanks to both of you ladies for your support...hopefully we will have our sticky little beans soon...i can't wait for my rainbow baby...i want to be a mommy so bad and my husband is ready to be a daddy...i think it broke my heart even more when he was staying so positive until the MC was actually confirmed and I could see in his eyes how upset he was...he was so strong for me and I wouldn't be where I am today without him...

 

[HCas]

I think there needs to be a huge "thank you" thread for all the supportive husbands out there. If it weren't for them I'm sure we'd all be six foot under with stress and worry by now.

 

[babydust1516]

I completely agree with you on that!

 

[HopingCarter]

That is an awesome suggestion HCas!! I know I would make one for my hubby, because he has truly showed me emotions and support that I've never seen from him before. He's always been a great person, don't get me wrong, but ever since the MC he's been extremely attentive. When he finally broke down and cried about it I was so shocked b/c even though I knew he was hurt, I would've never imagined seeing him that distressed! He's the main reason why I was able to move past it without going , so to at least give him that appreciation and comfort back through recognition, I would be obliged to support that thread

 

[HCas]

Haha I will have to get that up and going then. Just not sure if it should be posted here in the loss section or if there is another spot best suited for it.Probably here right?

 

[HopingCarter]

LOL! I thought you were joking haha! I mean I definitely meant what I said and I would wholeheartedly support it b/c my baby deserves his recognition, I just didn't think we could do that.
Now that I think about though, it could be posted here. I would title it something like "Giving honor and thanks to the supportive DHs for being the light in this dark time" lol or something like that.

 

[babydust1516]

I love that idea and the title sounds awesome!

 

[HCas]

I'll try to get it up tomorrow then. Right now I am in a ton of pain so I'm just gonna head to bed.

But on other topics how are you ladies doing lately?

 

[HopingCarter]

Aw I hope you feel better HCas No rush on the thread though lol....I showed him enough "appreciation" last night and this morning so that should him hold over for a couple of days

Afm--as if that wasn't enough, we are celebrating our 1/2 year anniversary tomorrow 10/9! We gave ourselves an excuse to spend some quality time, which has been much needed, and it looks like it's going to be an every year thing. Just to ground ourselves and our marriage, and make sure we're honoring each other first.

How are you ladies today? Hoping you're feeling better than yesterday HCas...

 

[tennisgirl]

hi - did the doctors give a reason as to why you lost the baby at 22 weeks i'm so sorry!

also has anyone gone back to temping? i had a miscarriage at 5 weeks on 9/8 and since then my temp has been all over the place, lower than i ever seen it since i started temping. wonder if that is normal?

i've also had rEALLY long cycles like 50 days....55 days...thats why i was put on clomid, was Oing on my own, but cycles were so long. sure enough it knocked my cycle down to 28 days and on the 2nd round of clomid got pregnant.

wondering if i'll go back to those super long cycles like i was before taking the clomid?? right now on day 29 and no sign of AF!

thanks ladies for any insight

 

[HopingCarter]

Hi Tennisgirl!! Sorry you had to go through that tragedy too. I'm glad you're back TTC though. I have never temped, no lie, so I'm sorry I don't have any info on that. I'm so dumbfounded as to when and how you temp, what thermometer is the best etc etc, so I just don't bother lol. I'm gonna use some OPKs to detect ovulation after my first AF and just let nature take it's course b/c otherwise I'll be more crazy than I already am if things don't look "normal" or what I think is normal haha

 

[HCas]

I temped for awhile but my temp is always all over the place. Never knew if it was because of my mcs or something else since I didn't temp before them. Sorry I can't be of more help tennisgirl and sorry for your loss.

HopingCarter, glad you two are having fun ^^ I'm doing slightly better but only because I went to the ER and they put me on some strong medicines. I apparently have a cyst larger than my ovary right now, which is causing my period to be delayed and intense pain that even morphine didn't fully get rid of. Blah wish my body would just work right for once.

 

[babydust1516]

I am so sorry you aren't feeling well! I hope things clear up for you soon!

I'm doing well. Just anxious to start testing already but it's easy too early. We are covering every other day so hopefully I'll have a Bfp this month .

I've never temped. I used OPKs once and it was right on but I don't want to spend the money honestly. I feel like doing it every other night is going to do just as much as if I tested.

 

[HCas]

Haha glad you're doing well. I sending you all the baby dust and good wishes I can!

Also sorry I haven't been on much. Tons of pain due to cysts and the pain killer stopped working so I had to go back to the ER early yesterday morning. Now they have me on bed rest for a few days and my obgyn may extend that as well as keep me from work for a while until we know if I have to go in for surgery or not.