First time moms - TTC after a loss

[HopingCarter]

Hi Ladies

HCas, I'm sorry to have to go through that type of pain It really does suck being a girl sometimes. I hope they can get it resolved for you. Just take it easy as best as you can hun. You will be in prayers

babydust, FX for your bfp and sticky bean!! I'm not a "tester" either, mainly because I think I'll do something wrong or it won't turn out right and I'll just panic more lol, but I understand how you feel. I was going to do the opks for the first time to know when we needed to pick up our frequency of BDing, but that's about all. Every other day was our plan as well because that's what my OB suggested. I know once I start buying packs and packs of opks or hpts, I won't stop and we're on budget right now so my DH wouldn't be too happy about that lol

AFM--AF finally came Friday evening in full effect. I knew I wouldn't be lucky enough to get the "light and problem-free" first AF. I've always had heavy ones so it was inevitable. Granted these cramps are much worse than any other ones I remember and my ibuprofen isn't working on them like normal, but it should be over in a few days (hopefully). CD4 today, so we'll..

 

[babydust1516]

Stupid AF! My cramps are usually very intense when she comes around...only thing that really works is a heating pad for me...I just bought three packs of HPTs haha...I usually don't do that but I know I am going to be testing like crazy when the time comes and if I get a positive then I am sure I'll be testing every day to make sure the line keeps getting darker!

 

[Laska5]

Hoping to be a mommy as well one day. My first pregnancy ended early August around 7-8 weeks. Had a d&C on August 15th & my body still hasn't healed completely- having to take progesterone this week!

 

[HopingCarter]

Stupid AF! My cramps are usually very intense when she comes around...only thing that really works is a heating pad for me...I just bought three packs of HPTs haha...I usually don't do that but I know I am going to be testing like crazy when the time comes and if I get a positive then I am sure I'll be testing every day to make sure the line keeps getting darker!

I hear ya 100%!! I told myself my limit is going to be 10 each (hpts and opks) this month! I'm going to follow the SMEP as recommended, and then for the HPTs I was going to test at 11,12,13,14,15 dpo like I did with my last pregnancy when I got my bfps, and then if I get a bfp use the other ones to confirm then that's it! If not I'm saving them for next month. I have to limit myself, because last time I went crazy with POAS lol!! That was my first time being pregnant so I peed on every HPT I saw in the stores (after I bought them of course) lol...

Laska, how is the progesterone working for you? Has the bleeding stopped or decreased at all?

 

[HCas]

SO EXCITED! Got my first confirmed ovulation ever. My obgyn says if I don't get visited by AF by the 27th I can start testing. And since hearing that I have gone a little baby crazy XD

Laska, Sorry to hear about your loss. Hope the progesterone helps. Sending tons of baby dust your way.

 

[HopingCarter]

Woohoo for Ov HCas!! I hope the stays away!! I'm sending dust your way too

 

[HCas]

Thanks ^^ This is the first confirmed ov since starting to try. I literally jumped when she told me... which was a bad idea since I was still hurting XD

 

[HopingCarter]

HCas what has been your method? Even though you haven't been ov, were you still just BDing just in case and how often did you do it?

 

[aPharmD]

hi ladies! just jumping in here! I had my D&C after a MMC on 8/20. I should have been about 12 weeks. this was my first cycle TTC again and unfortunately ended in BFN with AF starting again today. just hoping to make a few friends in my boat. Its nice to have the support and to obsess with others who get it (my DH does not lol). and yea I went POAS crazy this cycle. so mad at myself for how much I spent on them!

 

[HCas]

Welcome to the crew a PharmD. Its nice having people to talk to and get excited with and depressed with. We're happy to have you.

Carter, Well..... We tried temping at first and got confused and angry. Then we tried OPKs and got like 15 positives in a cycle before being told that they aren't that accurate for women with PCOS. So then we tried the every other day approach. That was great but it wore the DH out pretty fast and then it became just a chore. So then we went with the idea that our bodies would know and just BDed whenever we were in the mood.

That lasted until Monday when we found out for sure about the ov then we did it every night to now.... Now we got my niece so we have to give it a break for a day XD

 

[aPharmD]

Anyone in here temp and think it helps? I'm not sure if it's going to make me crazier and more obsessed or if it will actually give me good insight into my cycle...

 

[aPharmD]

HCas today I cried Bc I got my period. Like I get no girl wants her af but is it something a normal sane person would cry over? And after my d&c I begged to get it back. Just hard knowing I have to wait another month to try again. It seems like forever when you are ttc!

 

[HopingCarter]

Hi aPharmD, you are sane lol!! Any woman that's not TTC would not cry, but I think we are the exception because we're actually trying to get pregnant so I think crying is appropriate when AF comes. That just lets me know how passionate you are about being a mommy soon! This is going to be my first cycle after the MC and we start our SMEP on friday (CD8) and if it doesn't work I might cry too.
I don't temp or chart, but I do see that it helps a lot of women on here. I've never did it so I wouldn't even know how to anyway. I normally would just track my periods.

Well I definitely have my FX for you HCas, and I'm sending you buckets of GO GO

Afm--Me and Hubby couldn't hold out until Friday. I swear to you ladies, as soon as I sat on the bed he was like "so when do we start?" Sooooo we decided to DTD last night. It wasn't like we were adding it to the plan, we were just both in the mood....BAD. We tried to not do it but, oh well. I just hope this doesn't affect our plan to start our every other day method tomorrow. Hubby said it wouldn't "trust me".. so I trust he'll still be ready to go.

 

[HCas]

aPharmD, you are not insane I know I cried the first twenty times and I most likely will every time. I actually cried the first period after my first MC and I wasn't even trying back then. Its completely normal. Specially for us since we are wanting a baby so bad.


As for my update... I'm 3dpo and yesterday I had light pink when wiping. Today I woke up to light bleeding and cramps. Don't know what to think. You can't have AF show up this soon can you? I thought maybe implantation bleeding, but I'm not sure if you can have bleeding like this for it. When looking it up on google I either find implantation bleeding or chemical pregnancy. Not sure what to think and I can't get in to see a doctor for a month. What do you ladies think?

 

[HopingCarter]

HCas I'm thinking, and hoping, IB that's for sure. When is AF suppose to show up? Because if I'm not mistaken IB can start anywhere betweeen 7 and 12 dpo or so, so if you're in that range, we could be looking at a BFP

 

[HCas]

The doc said I should be expecting it around the 27th making me only like 3dpo. I really hope that's all it is. I'd be ecstatic! As of right now DH suggested we go to a walk-in and get their opinion

 

[HopingCarter]

It wouldn't hurt to check it out! I sure would if had the option

 

[aPharmD]

I have read that some people get light bleeding with ovulation. I would guess it's not a cp that soon after ovulation. I had ib on 5dpo last time. I hope it is ib for you! But could still be too soon for that. Might just be hormones.

 

[HCas]

Turned out to be a ruptured cyst, though the doctor was a bit dumbfounded at the light pink from yesterday though they said most likely it was ov bleeding.

 

[HopingCarter]

Oh no HCas!! Did the rupturing damage anything?? I hope not. That sucks..