FOB acting weird

[purpledahlia]

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[suzanne108]

Ooooooh sounds to me like he's having second thoughts!!!

What would you do???!!!

 

[purpledahlia]

update, now hes like so i dont really know what you want me to do.. i said well you can come up as long as you want but i dont want you to get mad when i have to leave and go do other things know what i mean?! Like i cant leave my sister ALONE for 4 days and evenigns to hang out with him... ? thats not fair, she doesnt need to get caught up in this and she would feel awkward if he was here. So i mean i said well it depends what your expecting? I have to step in for her my mums on holiday.. so it depends if hes ok to sit on his own or if hes gonna get mad about it?! i dunno!? what should i suggest?!

 

[purpledahlia]

second thoughts about what?!

on msn he asked if i had any pics for him... and he told me the time before that on msn that he asked his friend to show him my pics on FB (cos i have his friend but not him) and i was like.. thats not fair you deleted me so you shouldnt be allowed to see them! You shoudlnt of deleted me then!! and hes like oh well i was curious hehe ... wth?!?!

 

[purpledahlia]

another update, i told him it depends what hes expecting from his visit etc, and he said ' of course not silly.. i dont expect you to be there all the time i enjoy spending time alone anyway but would be nice to spend enough time with ya x '

what?!
is he up to something?

 

[McLovin]

oooooohhh tough one! What are your feelings on him?
Were you originally in a long term relationship?

 

[purpledahlia]

no not been in a long term with him, we were just getting to know each other? Do you think he wants to get to know MORE and maybe MORE?? aaaahh

now hes said of course you do what you need to do, Maybe we can go out to eat and you can bring your sister... !?

i dunno if she'd go.. ,might feel uncomfortable, but hes being like.. extra nice!?

 

[suzanne108]

Sounds to me like he's HINTING at a relationship....or something? I could be wrong??!!

Didn't he look at your pregnant pictures on FB (via his mates profile) and say you were looking good?

Good for you if you do want to make a go of it...but if it was my FOB I'd be telling him where to go! Depends what the situation is I suppose.

Any more updates??

 

[purpledahlia]

he did say i looked good, very cute and complimentary honestly.

well after i was very blunt about having other things to do aswell he said that fine, i thought he wud go mad like usual and say i was just being difficult and making it harder etc... but he didnt he was nice.. ?! ahh

told my mum and she said to be wary of bringing him to the house because she doesnt want him to see that my parents have money, i said yes fair point but he knows I dont have any money and im not staying here... he knows its a temo thing, but i also said i didnt know i was allowed to bring him here.. she said i could but he wasnt staying etc, but maybe he could come down once for a bit, and my mum said shes not sure if shes even going on holiday yet.. not decided. so if she doesnt and shes here.. i wont even hve the car lol.

 

[lou_w34]

Id say just be carefull

It sounds like he is maybe hinting at giving things another go, and if your happy with that, then go for it.

Yet he has let you down before, so id be wary at first, but if he keeps it up... you never no, he may be trying his best

 

[purpledahlia]

aahh

im scared

 

[lou_w34]

Ahhhh dont be!!!

Im always pessamistic lol, but thats only because my FOB is only nice if he wants something, so i just assume there all like it!!

After all, you never no what will happen in the future... Would you give it a go with him, If you knew he was being genuine and what not?

 

[purpledahlia]

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[lou_w34]

Yeah i do! And deffinatley make it come from him! Just wait and see what he says/does, it will soon become clearer then!

God they dont half make life difficult, dont they?? lol

 

[McLovin]

sounds so hard... duno if it's the same for you, but i feel so vunerable now when it comes to them. You don't wana let em in again in case they change their' minds again

 

[babybaillie]

Id say if ur still interested give it a go. Especialy if it means the baby having 2 parents. Just take it slowly at ur pace NOT HIS!!!

Good luck i hope it all works out for u chick xx

 

[xxannxx]

I'd say wait and see what he's like when you see him in person, but would also say be cautious, good luck.

 

[purpledahlia]

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[SweetNothings]

I tend to agree with your mother. If he turns out be a scumbag he could hold your parents money against you and say that he doesnt need to pay child support....unless you are willing to spend a lot of money in court then just heed ahead with caution. I've seen single moms (including my own mom) get torn apart because their ex husbands were ruthless and manipulative assholes.

However, if things turn out opposite and he has had a change of mine and you want to give it another go then I'd say sure try it out and see how it works out...and if it goes well then the LO's daddy is back in the picture

 

[purpledahlia]

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