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FOB can no longer support the kids ***UPDATE PAGE 4***

CAS did refuse to do anything more than tell him to take the photos down. According to him, they've also been telling him the exact opposite of what they've been telling me they are telling him.

I ended up calling the police and they did investigate.
Because no one believed the photos were taken in malicious intent, there were no charges laid, but the officer DID threaten to charge him with distribution of child pornography if he didn't remove the naked photos.

My lawyer also sent him a letter threatening to take him to court for contempt of motion, and he's smartened up his act.
 
Stop comunicating with him regarding CAS etc. Just keep it about pick up/drop offfs. Don't allow for any personal discussion or talk of CAS, court, police. He will just use it as a form of mind control.
 
Omg I don't even know what to say....I'm so glad you went to the police!! Those are most definitely inappropriate photos and your kids wouldn't understand the sadistic intent behind them. Hopefully you have just avoided something that could have been so much worse!! If I were you. I'd make a fake fb account pretending to be a 50 year old man and mentioning he saw those pictures but that hes sad he took them down and ask if he had more and you'd be willing to pay..... But I'm evil like that!!!

Good luck girl!!!!! Keep those babies safe! There's nothing out of bounds when protecting those kids!!!!!
 
sorry you are going through this,sending virtual hugs~ My first question is what were the kids doing in the pictures? were they just taking a bath? or standing there nude? My next question is what is the hold up? file for full custody,something is not right and you have to protect your babies.As far as your daughter putting toys in herself is tricky.....I am at a loss for words,but please get the ball rolling,contact a social worker maybe? That needs to be investigated....that is flat out weird and I would suspect something....omg

totally agree and they cannot protect themselves....you need to call child sevices and tell them and show them everything have them interview your children if they drop the ball keep at it.... these kids need a voice and as harsh as it may sound your it.....and he a nut!!

:hugs::hugs:
 
It was short-lived. He sent me a message that he is willing to break the law if he thinks he is doing right by the kids. Today, my son said some VERY disturbing things to me, and I am scared to death. On the term of our court order, I'm seeking a third party professional opinion tomorrow for my son, and meeting with my lawyer on Friday afternoon.

We are skipping the contempt motion, and going straight for sole custody. We're not going to ask for any changes in the access arrangements, just to give me sole custody so I can get my kids the help the need without jumping through hoops, but I wouldn't be surprised if the judge decides to change access too
 
Oh no =( I was hoping things had settled back to normal for you.in what context was the things your son said?i hope the process is fast and you get your little ones the help they need
 
I'm really hoping that it's just the overactive imagination of a 4 year old child, but when your 4 year old son tells you that his cat talks to him and tells him that he's going to kill your son, and your son asks you to get rid of the cat that he LOVES, you know your child needs SOMEONE to talk to. I know all I let him watch and listen to here is Diego, Cars, Little Einsteins, whatever is on Treehouse and kids music, but I know he is forced to listen to violent death metal and watch death metal concerts and horror movies at his fathers.
 
Oh no =( that sounds absoloutley aweful.you are doing the right thing.that poor boy needs some professional help to counter what his father is doing to him!
 
Oh my goodness your poor son :(how heartbreaking. I am so sorry you and he are going through this!
 
that is scary....:(


i dont know what to say but if you need to talk pm me...
 
Doing well, overall. Thank you for asking. Things are getting underway. Just waiting on a few more documents and we can get the process started.
 
Social worker just left. Apparently she had been on the verge of closing the file because there had been no activity in a few months. I showed her the pictures of the kids, including the captions he posted them under on Facebook. She also spoke with my son who told her everything he has told me. He is being spanked at his dad's house, whether he is being good or bad, he doesn't want to go there, his dad calls his a bad kid, but what nearly had me in tears what that my son said he would rather be spanked by his dad than have a time out, because the spankings hurt, but the time outs hurt more. Apparently my son is also spanked by his dad while in bed. She is going to call him in the morning to meet with him. She had previously recommended that he attend a parenting class, and now she is ordering it, and he can't say no, because he is ordered by the court to attend any program as recommended by Children's Aid.

My son also told her that the reason he wants to sleep at my house is because I don't spank him, and I'm nice to him.

She can't say right now that I can keep the kids away from him, not until she speaks to him, and starts the investigation (tomorrow), but according to the custody agreement, the kids are to sleep at my house for the next week, so we should be okay for a few days. Based on this program she's ordering him in to, that will be the deciding factor on whether or not they back me up on a pursuit of full custody.

wow, im so happy that there finally doing there job...and it made me cry that your son said that...poor baby@!:(

I am going through some crap with mine right now and Im so stressed I cant even put it to words.....i just wish they would do what there supposed to do here too.....

but im so glad things look like there moving forward for you and for now at least your babies are safe...(hug)
 
So last night, I tucked my kids into bed. This routine consists of me giving my 4 year old son a big hug and saying, "I love you, Handsome. You're my favourite boy." To which he normally replies, "And you're my favourite girl, Mommy." Last night, however, he said to me last night, "But Daddy says you don't love me". My blood started to boil. So, I asked my 5 year old daughter (she has special needs and is developmentally delayed), if Daddy had ever told her that Mommy doesn't love her, and she said "Yes, every day".

This situation played out after I was late to pick them up because I was a witness to an attempted robbery at a drug store and the police asked me to stick around for an interview. I had to run home and pee after that and asked if he could bring them to me, because I was low on gas. Instead, he decided to play games and tell me that I shouldn't have left my kids there all night and if I truly wanted them, I could come get them. It got to the point where he began to refuse to give me my kids and I needed to call the police and have them speak with him. It was my night, according to the custody agreement, so essentially, by refusing to give me my kids, he was kidnapping them. He then agreed to give me my kids. Tonight, I offered to let him have access, and he refused to come get them, but said if I "wanted to get rid of them", I could bring them there. Needless to say, they're asleep in my house tonight.

I am SO BEYOND PISSED! I CANNOT stand him. I want nothing more than to get my kids away from him and hug them, and love them, and protect them, and let them be HAPPY!!!

So, I applied for legal aid today, and got a certificate, and I have an appointment with a lawyer. I will be filing my motion to change next week. I'm getting this show on the road. Hopefully we will be happy from now on.


:( mine does this with my kids....and it makes m blood boil....as i hate him forf what he does and everything else I never ever speak ill of him as no matter what he is there dad...and they will figure it out as they get older on there own...


wow that really does make my blood boil!! what an arse he is!
 

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