FOB is just a cruel person

[Terukki]

I'm so sorry honey, this is why I deleted my ex husband off my Facebook, so i can't see who he's talking to... Mine gave his number to a girl when I was 3 months pregnant and we were still very much together.. lied to her about me, lied to me about her.. they were shopping together, getting lunch, he even had a second number to text and call her with.. ended up leaving me home alone 7 months pregnant on my birthday to hang out with her until 5a.m. with condoms in his pocket.. then came home to me and lied about where he was, kissed me, apologized for being out so late.. even had sex with me the next day... Men are scum. I was cooking his meals, dragging his laundry to the laundromat, doing all the shopping, the cleaning, etc while he was showering another woman with the affection I was begging for.. how do we even begin to trust men again?

I was told recently "someday a man will thank your ex husband for leaving you, so he could be lucky enough to have a chance to love you properly." Try not to let your pig of an ex get to you, its his loss.

I'm so sorry to hear that happen to you. I'm not even sure if my ex was evening using condoms with the girl he was cheating on me with. I like what you typed down, "while he was showering another woman with the affection I was begging for..." I felt the same way he was acting so different towards me and one day he even told me he wasn't being a very good boyfriend. I asked him why he would even say that and he said along the lines of oh I thought I wasn't supportive you enough as I should be. Which I should of took that as a red flag.

 

[Dezireey]

I'm so sorry honey, this is why I deleted my ex husband off my Facebook, so i can't see who he's talking to... Mine gave his number to a girl when I was 3 months pregnant and we were still very much together.. lied to her about me, lied to me about her.. they were shopping together, getting lunch, he even had a second number to text and call her with.. ended up leaving me home alone 7 months pregnant on my birthday to hang out with her until 5a.m. with condoms in his pocket.. then came home to me and lied about where he was, kissed me, apologized for being out so late.. even had sex with me the next day... Men are scum. I was cooking his meals, dragging his laundry to the laundromat, doing all the shopping, the cleaning, etc while he was showering another woman with the affection I was begging for.. how do we even begin to trust men again?

I was told recently "someday a man will thank your ex husband for leaving you, so he could be lucky enough to have a chance to love you properly." Try not to let your pig of an ex get to you, its his loss.

Thanks Men really do some nasty stuff don't they? I'm sorry yours was such an ass, like me, you are better off hun.

I had enough of my FOB and e-mailed him exactly what I thought of him and asked if he had any decency he could at least wait till I had the baby before 'dipping his wick elsewhere'. I also told him that if I see anything posted in any public domain that my relatives or friends see where he is denying his kid or making up stupid stuff then I will let all his friends know exactly what he has done. He then sent nearly four e-mails and messages back (I didn't respond to the first two) apologising, saying it was all a piss take and that the woman he was flirting with was his mates mother etc, etc. He then proceeded to tell me all about what was going on his life as a 'catch up', no mention of me or the baby, just 'him' for about two pages and how he was feeling better. He has a tendency to say how much he misses me yet does absolutely squat all about it.

I seriously think he's a bit unbalanced as he just does not behave rationally at all. One minute it's 'I miss you, I miss you' the next, its silence for weeks or just acting like I never existed or that there is no baby? weirdo.

 

[ZombieQueen]

Terukki mine also said things like that, of course I never imagined what was really going on.. I thought he just felt bad about not being as emotionally supportive as I needed.. turns out he was saying it because a tiny part of him felt a tiny amount of guilt, but not enough to do the right thing.

Dezireey, mine is similar, tells me he still loves me in a lot of ways and misses me. But I know its just because he feels a bit lonely at times after being waited on hand and foot for 3 years, he's obviously going to miss the attention I gave him. He kept nagging me about getting off his phone plan so he didn't have to pay for it, but as soon as I told him he would not be getting my new number and he would have to contact me through my mom, he decided to keep paying for it so "we can keep in touch"

They want their cake and they want to eat it too. They're selfish, its all about themselves. No real man will abandon their child for no good reason aside from an itch in their pants. These guys are worthless, they are pathetic and cowardly. Don't listen to his crap, if they can do this to us while pregnant, who knows what else they're capable of.

I am not angry with my ex, I have forgiven him, but I will never give him another chance, even though I still love him deeply, I know I deserve a million times better, and so do you hun.

 

[Lemonflower]

"someday a man will thank your ex husband for leaving you, so he could be lucky enough to have a chance to love you properly."

Aww, I like this!!!

I'd love to get with a kind loving man one day who'll treat me and my son well and love us unconditionally.
I want to be able to look back and think that my ex leaving me was actually a blessing and the best thing that could of happened.
I'd like to forgive him though I don't think we'd ever be friends again.

xxxxx

 

[ZombieQueen]

We are blessed to be rid of these pigs. I often joke and say now that my worthless husband is gone I can find myself a rich older man to treat myself and my baby girl like the princesses we are

 

[Dezireey]

Thats the one thing I keep telling myself. If this poor excuse for a man can do this to a pregnant woman, he is capable of anything really. I have no evidence or knowledge of him cheating on me during our 3 years together but after all this kind of behaviour, I wouldnt put it past him. Like you Zombie, I still love him but there is no way on earth I could go back to someone like that, baby or no baby. I have to battle with the idea when LO is born of not being with his Dad and him having a step dad in the future but that is a far better option ( loving, nice step dad) than that loser of a real father he has.

 

[pinkreality]

GRRRRR!!! I know exactly how you feel, around valentines day I was going through a lot of hormonal changes and randomly missed FOB so I took a sneek peek at his fb and he posted that he was so relieved after getting some good p*ssy. Are you serious? Wow, so basically having another woman stuck at home pregnant with YOUR child means nothing. They just go on with life as if thats okay. I was so tempted to comment and say "I hope you ladies force him to use a condom because next thing you know you'll be pregnant and alone." But I didn't do it and I texted him to tell him that regardless of whatever goes on between us I would like if he would just be supportive for LO, he texted me back saying to leave him alone and to never text him again! (I was so hurt)

But a few weeks later he had the nerve to delete me from FB because he met some guy who's girlfriend had the same name as me and FOB thought the guy was talking about me! He texted me asking if I had a new man in my life and I reminded him that... NO, I'M FAT AND PREGNANT, not on the prowl for new men. HELLO!!!! These men can be so immature, I swear.

 

[Dezireey]

Ha! thats typical. Thats similar to the last two days for me. Firstly FOB deletes his posts off FB and tells me 'sorry' and out of respect for me, he wont do it again but adds a little dig at the end that i was over reacting anyway over a joke! - idiot! Then he asks if I am seeing anyone else?? I was just about to say 'yes and he has a bigger willy than you!' but I burst out laughing and put the phone down on him instead.

Now that i am not contacting him anymore or if i am, its just to tell him what a twat he is, he is now acting all sorry and contacting me and realising i dont care anymore, if I suddenly started saying things like ' i miss you or can we be a family etc' he would do a 180 and run for the hills again. Predictable or what!

 

[pinkreality]

They aren't supportive or there for the woman carrying their child, or their unborn babies but they want to know if we are seeing anyone new? I don't even know why they even ask as if they have the right to know anything!

I can't wait to see what FOB is like after LO is born because his true colors will really show. I made a new thread earlier today about when FOB should be allowed to even see LO. If you ladies get the chance I would like you're opinions since you are going through some of the same things I am.

 

[pinkreality]

I'm so sorry honey, this is why I deleted my ex husband off my Facebook, so i can't see who he's talking to...

Best move ever! After FOB deleted me the last time, he tried adding me back after I told him no I wasn't seeing a new guy but I never accepted him and won't because theres no point. We aren't friends, family or even lovers so... I feel so relaxed not being able to stalk such a loser.

 

[MommaAlexis]

this quote is pretty much how I feel:

I wish you no ill will, but that is the most you will ever get from me.

 

[v2007]

Getting sex from women on facebook.....oh how classy!!!



V xxx