Our baby is taking the OH's name.
I personally wouldn't have the baby take my name as we fully intend to get married eventually and so my name will be changing anyway. Not just that, I don't see what gives me the right to decide over the OH, our daughter is 50% Mummy and 50% Daddy.
He deserves at the very least some recognition for being the father. Baby is just as much his as mine, doesn't matter who carries her for the 9months, it took us both to make her.
I'm also very proud he's the father and so I take great pleasure in our baby taking his name.
Babies aren't things, they're little people. If you think there's a chance family's will fight over the baby and stuff like that, then I think everyone is looking at it from the wrong angle. Children are not possessions to throw at each other in an argument "well you do that, you wont see your kid" or "well I want maintenance" ... Its views like that that cause the problems. I don't see what would give a Mother more "rights" to the baby than the Father. <--- Personal Opinion so don't get offended.
Yeah they are 50% mommy and 50% daddy, but at the end of the day, your the one whos stuck with that baby for life. Your partner could (not saying he would ) run anytime he wants, when you least expect it. Yeah ok he will have to pay towards the child, but thats it.
I have both views on this subject which is why its so hard for me to choose. I do agree that the father should have some recognition and having the fathers last name is good, but then again, if something did happen and you split up, that baby is stuck with their daddys name forever.
At the end of the day , if 2 people are that sure they are going to be together and get married, why not give the baby your name, and just change both of your names when you get married ?
if your names changing anyway, why not the babies too ?
Because that's making twice the work, common sense says why do something twice when you only have to do it once.
Also,
Mothers can just as easily dump the baby and run, mine did it and my Dad brought me up.
Why try and take everything away from the Father? He doesn't get to carry the baby or know how it feels to go through the 9months of pregnancy, so why strip him of the one thing that shows the baby is just as much a part of him as it is you?
Its back down to the possessions thing again, you see? Babies are not possessions.
Why do you say the baby is "stuck" with Daddy's name like its a bad thing, Daddy is and will always be their Daddy, you can't take that away from them regardless of what happens.
Why's everyone so against Dad's as if Dad's are the only ones to up and run and be sh*t parents, I don't have enough fingers to count the amount of bad mothers that I've been made aware of in my life.
im not at all saying babies are possessions. Im just saying.
I find that teenage dads have too much pressure put on them. You get all this help for teenage mums and pregnant girls, but hardly anything for teenage dads. Ive witnessed with my own eyes a boy who has run away from his baby and his babys mother just because he thought no-one would be there to help him. And that is a big problem as too why teenage boys do run away, they are afraid of responsibility and scared they arn't getting the support the mothers do.
Teenage boys dont mature as fast as girls, which is another reason why they are more likely to run. Also the peer pressue off their friends of being a 'dad' at such a young age. Boys get popularity points for getting it on with any girl he can, and become the centre of attention, but as soon as responsiblity hits them, they run.
The amount of support there is nowadays for teenage mothers, you dont hear half as many storied of them abondoning their babies, because of the help they get. Whereas boys its a completely different story. And although they might swear to the mother they'll do all they can to do well by her and the baby, as soon as he realises he cant be going out with his friends everyday, and is having to get up 3/4 times a night and changing dirty nappies, they soon realise its not what they wanted.
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