sillysaurus
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first, i want to apologize for this being so long.. this is unrelated to ttc, so maybe it will let your minds venture from the stress of ttc for a few minutes at least. lol. here goes..
my fiance has a 14mo old son whom he has had temporary custody of since he was 2mo old because the mother took off and moved to florida.. (we live in virginia).. and hasnt been back since. ive been the only mother this child has known, and now he calls me mom.. the mother got angry when she found this out and decided she is gunna come back and take custody. well, she never came.. and now she is saying she is coming back this month and first she told me she had her plane ticket, then she said she didnt have it, and now she doesnt even have anything of the child on her myspace anymore..it used to say (cams only mommy no matter what, not you, bitch) and stuff like that, and she would send me tons of nasty messages. my fiance doesnt think she is gunna be back in time for the next court date which is march 23rd. but i dont know.. my question is, should i go about this as if he were my own child? as ive been doing..(my fiance always tells me that just cuz he isnt biologically mine, doesnt mean that im not his mother..and to look at him as if ive adopted him..and that maybe this is meant to be this way because we have been ttc like crazy and its not happened yet..) and im just scared that is she does come back, im gunna lose my roll as mommy and get hurt, but he says he isnt gunna teach him to call her mom, he is gunna refer to her as casey because she isnt a mother, he says. but i dont know. there isnt a way she could get custody i dont think because she hasnt been there..ever. even when she was here, she was cheating on my fiance and was never around the baby. she has no job, no car, no place to live.. and on the contruary, my fiance works his ass off, im a CNA, going to school for RN, and we have a very loving enviornment raising the child.. so i guess what i am asking is am i doing the right thing by calling him mine, and going by mommy, or what?? any opinions are welcome.
my fiance has a 14mo old son whom he has had temporary custody of since he was 2mo old because the mother took off and moved to florida.. (we live in virginia).. and hasnt been back since. ive been the only mother this child has known, and now he calls me mom.. the mother got angry when she found this out and decided she is gunna come back and take custody. well, she never came.. and now she is saying she is coming back this month and first she told me she had her plane ticket, then she said she didnt have it, and now she doesnt even have anything of the child on her myspace anymore..it used to say (cams only mommy no matter what, not you, bitch) and stuff like that, and she would send me tons of nasty messages. my fiance doesnt think she is gunna be back in time for the next court date which is march 23rd. but i dont know.. my question is, should i go about this as if he were my own child? as ive been doing..(my fiance always tells me that just cuz he isnt biologically mine, doesnt mean that im not his mother..and to look at him as if ive adopted him..and that maybe this is meant to be this way because we have been ttc like crazy and its not happened yet..) and im just scared that is she does come back, im gunna lose my roll as mommy and get hurt, but he says he isnt gunna teach him to call her mom, he is gunna refer to her as casey because she isnt a mother, he says. but i dont know. there isnt a way she could get custody i dont think because she hasnt been there..ever. even when she was here, she was cheating on my fiance and was never around the baby. she has no job, no car, no place to live.. and on the contruary, my fiance works his ass off, im a CNA, going to school for RN, and we have a very loving enviornment raising the child.. so i guess what i am asking is am i doing the right thing by calling him mine, and going by mommy, or what?? any opinions are welcome.