I'm now 5 days overdue so expecting this little one any day now. My parents are staying with us for two weeks and arrived yesterday, so they will be around the baby 24/7 for approx. the first two weeks of his/her life. The problem is is that in recent years my dad has taken up smoking cigars, he probably smokes about 5-6 a day. He goes in the backyard to smoke them but definitely smells of it when he gets back.
I had told him at Christmas that he would not be allowed to smoke once the baby comes while they are here. When he arrived yesterday I saw he was still smoking so I told him again that as soon as I bring the baby home there will be no more smoking. He said, don't worry I'm smoking outside the baby isn't getting any second-hand smoke. I tried to tell him about third-hand smoke and that the chemicals are embedded in his skin and clothes. I told him if he didn't stop that he would not be allowed to hold the baby during his two weeks here. He just rolled his eyes. I then said that fine if he was going to continue that before holding the baby he would have to change his clothes (although I'm sure all of his clothes have the chemicals in them), brush his teeth and wash his hands. He again just rolled his eyes.
Am I being unreasonable? Does anyone else here have a parent who smokes? What do you do if they want to hold the baby? I obviously don't want to not let me father hold his grandchild but I'm not willing to risk my babies health when it is most vulnerable in the first two weeks of it's life.
I had told him at Christmas that he would not be allowed to smoke once the baby comes while they are here. When he arrived yesterday I saw he was still smoking so I told him again that as soon as I bring the baby home there will be no more smoking. He said, don't worry I'm smoking outside the baby isn't getting any second-hand smoke. I tried to tell him about third-hand smoke and that the chemicals are embedded in his skin and clothes. I told him if he didn't stop that he would not be allowed to hold the baby during his two weeks here. He just rolled his eyes. I then said that fine if he was going to continue that before holding the baby he would have to change his clothes (although I'm sure all of his clothes have the chemicals in them), brush his teeth and wash his hands. He again just rolled his eyes.
Am I being unreasonable? Does anyone else here have a parent who smokes? What do you do if they want to hold the baby? I obviously don't want to not let me father hold his grandchild but I'm not willing to risk my babies health when it is most vulnerable in the first two weeks of it's life.