Dawnlouise30
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Hi.
My son has always been a very confident child. But recently he has begun saying things that make me worry.
For example :
I'm thick
I'm stupid
I'm an idiot
I'm rubbish
You don't love me because I'm........ Insert any of the above.
I can't do it because........ Again insert above.
It's so hard to hear him speak negatively about himself.
He is so loved. He is told frequently how much we love him. He is praised, he is encouraged and supported if he finds something hard.
Of course he demonstrates testing behaviour and sometimes we have to use time out but it's always explained to him, he however says he did such and such behaviour because he is stupid. We have an effective reward system in place.
He calls us stupid too and idiots and horrible mummy and daddy.
After his emotional outbursts he then asks do you love me, Are you happy with me, I always tell him we always love him regardless of the behaviour but sometimes we don't like the things he does (hitting, throwing toys, ignoring us, shouting insults etc.)
It's so hard hearing him say these things. Is it just him exploring new words and feelings. Or should I be worried about his low self worth?
Any thoughts appreciated.
My son has always been a very confident child. But recently he has begun saying things that make me worry.
For example :
I'm thick
I'm stupid
I'm an idiot
I'm rubbish
You don't love me because I'm........ Insert any of the above.
I can't do it because........ Again insert above.
It's so hard to hear him speak negatively about himself.
He is so loved. He is told frequently how much we love him. He is praised, he is encouraged and supported if he finds something hard.
Of course he demonstrates testing behaviour and sometimes we have to use time out but it's always explained to him, he however says he did such and such behaviour because he is stupid. We have an effective reward system in place.
He calls us stupid too and idiots and horrible mummy and daddy.
After his emotional outbursts he then asks do you love me, Are you happy with me, I always tell him we always love him regardless of the behaviour but sometimes we don't like the things he does (hitting, throwing toys, ignoring us, shouting insults etc.)
It's so hard hearing him say these things. Is it just him exploring new words and feelings. Or should I be worried about his low self worth?
Any thoughts appreciated.