I am freaking out about being pregnant.. The 'What have I done?!' kind of freak out. I've wanted a baby ever since I could remember, I always thought I would be a Mum. 5 years ago, I was diagnosed with PCOS & told that I would struggle to conceive naturally. I was told to lose weight & we could try clomid. I went back on the pill at the time, so I could try to lose weight without any pressure. The thing is, I never came off the pill. I stayed on it for almost 5 years & convinced myself that I simply didn't want children any more. They were too expensive, too messy.. etc. Then my brother accidentally got his GF pregnant & it kinda stung. Why was it so easy for them?? (She was on the pill & they were using condoms at the time!!) Again, I put the thoughts to the back of my mind & reminded myself of all of the awful things they'll have to deal with, that I won't. At my niece's first birthday party, I held a 10mth old, she was adorable & I just fell in love with her, or the idea of her at least. DH & I decided to start trying again.
Honestly, I fully expected it not to happen &, despite getting AF every month, I was upset but also quietly relieved. Mostly, I guess, because in all the time I was off the pill before, I didn't have a period! It was nice to see my temps changing throughout the month, showing that each time I did manage to ovulate
In December, I had a chemical pregnancy & I was distraught. My cycle was completely messed up after that & I figured that was it. Then, by some miracle, I got a BFP in early Feb! My first ovulation since the chemical. I was so excited! I couldn't believe it! It still doesn't really feel true.
Then the sore boobs came, they were bearable, but the sickness I am really struggling with. I am freaking out about whether I even want a baby, can I cope with labour? Can I cope with a baby?? The lack of sleep? I am a person who loves her sleep, so I don't know. I had to mourn the loss of my lie-ins, as pathetic as that sounds! I've not been able to sleep in since getting my BFP I'm still overweight & I am freaking out about my weight throughout the pregnancy. I am trying not to gain too much, but I can't even stomach healthy foods right now. I feel sick most of the time! This evening, I wanted noodles for dinner, didn't work.. I ended up having salt & vinegar crisps with chocolate milkshake (which is really helping with the sickness!)
Someone please tell me they are also completely freaked out about all of this! I suffer with anxiety anyway, so I think that is adding to the problem. I had some bleeding over the last week & I was in bits at the thought of a miscarriage, but then (And I know this is so awful) I kind of came around to the idea. Oh, it's so awful to admit
I feel so ungrateful, I tried for this, I wanted this, why do I suddenly now fear it & feel like I don't want it any more??
Honestly, I fully expected it not to happen &, despite getting AF every month, I was upset but also quietly relieved. Mostly, I guess, because in all the time I was off the pill before, I didn't have a period! It was nice to see my temps changing throughout the month, showing that each time I did manage to ovulate
In December, I had a chemical pregnancy & I was distraught. My cycle was completely messed up after that & I figured that was it. Then, by some miracle, I got a BFP in early Feb! My first ovulation since the chemical. I was so excited! I couldn't believe it! It still doesn't really feel true.
Then the sore boobs came, they were bearable, but the sickness I am really struggling with. I am freaking out about whether I even want a baby, can I cope with labour? Can I cope with a baby?? The lack of sleep? I am a person who loves her sleep, so I don't know. I had to mourn the loss of my lie-ins, as pathetic as that sounds! I've not been able to sleep in since getting my BFP I'm still overweight & I am freaking out about my weight throughout the pregnancy. I am trying not to gain too much, but I can't even stomach healthy foods right now. I feel sick most of the time! This evening, I wanted noodles for dinner, didn't work.. I ended up having salt & vinegar crisps with chocolate milkshake (which is really helping with the sickness!)
Someone please tell me they are also completely freaked out about all of this! I suffer with anxiety anyway, so I think that is adding to the problem. I had some bleeding over the last week & I was in bits at the thought of a miscarriage, but then (And I know this is so awful) I kind of came around to the idea. Oh, it's so awful to admit
I feel so ungrateful, I tried for this, I wanted this, why do I suddenly now fear it & feel like I don't want it any more??