superp123
Super Auntie to 3 + 1
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Holy cow! I've just had the longest 4hrs (with breaks) with my first grader, Chris and 4 stinky little math assignments!!! He's been diagnosed with ADHD, ODD and is being treated for bipolar. I'm so tired of doing the same damn thing every time. Every day with homework is like instant replay from the day before. It always plays out the same. Homework out of the folder, I sit down to start homework with him, he writes his name, and then starts the whining, tantrum, arguing, and general resistance. Most of the time he'll pretend that he doesn't know how to do it, and when that fails he'll resort to all out 3yr old type tantrums screaming "I don't wanna do this!!" "This is boring!", and the like.
It all gets so damn exhausting sometimes. ARGH! How many time outs can we give? I even took away 'chips' tonight. (chips are earned and accumulated for privileges and rewards) Nothing seemed to work. I even tried to ignore for a bit, but then he only gets louder and more outrageous.
To help matters my hubby has a different opinion on the matter than I do. I think that after reviewing his work with him, he should be able to independently complete a math sheet titled "Minute Math". Meaning it's meant to be completed in one minute or less during class. Well Chris refused to do his schoolwork today and so he's got homework this evening, including minute math, 3 stinking sheets of it. Tonight he's tried every tactic in his arsenal to avoid doing these math sheets. Hubby, just keeps trying to help him. Which is nice... but Chris knows this work and has had my help since coming home. The whole thing is all an act tonight. So hubby's help is actually contradicting me. His math tonight is all review of the past three weeks... of which Chris and I have worked hard to master.... tonight though he's just NOT going to do his work and that's that. And hubby keeps making things harder by coddling the boy. He thinks he needs help and I think he needs to stand on his own two feet. Now, I'm reasonable enough to know that Chris probably has picked up on this and is in fact playing one side for the other. BUT My hubby is totally oblivious or just being downright disrespectful. I'd prefer the former but who knows.
All and all, nothing was accomplished tonight and now I've got a tension headache. I quit and sent him to bed early.
P
It all gets so damn exhausting sometimes. ARGH! How many time outs can we give? I even took away 'chips' tonight. (chips are earned and accumulated for privileges and rewards) Nothing seemed to work. I even tried to ignore for a bit, but then he only gets louder and more outrageous.
To help matters my hubby has a different opinion on the matter than I do. I think that after reviewing his work with him, he should be able to independently complete a math sheet titled "Minute Math". Meaning it's meant to be completed in one minute or less during class. Well Chris refused to do his schoolwork today and so he's got homework this evening, including minute math, 3 stinking sheets of it. Tonight he's tried every tactic in his arsenal to avoid doing these math sheets. Hubby, just keeps trying to help him. Which is nice... but Chris knows this work and has had my help since coming home. The whole thing is all an act tonight. So hubby's help is actually contradicting me. His math tonight is all review of the past three weeks... of which Chris and I have worked hard to master.... tonight though he's just NOT going to do his work and that's that. And hubby keeps making things harder by coddling the boy. He thinks he needs help and I think he needs to stand on his own two feet. Now, I'm reasonable enough to know that Chris probably has picked up on this and is in fact playing one side for the other. BUT My hubby is totally oblivious or just being downright disrespectful. I'd prefer the former but who knows.
All and all, nothing was accomplished tonight and now I've got a tension headache. I quit and sent him to bed early.
P