Fuming at stupid people!

[rm16]

I am pregnant again after a MMC at 11 weeks and a horrific D&C.
I've just heard about someone I know who is 3 months pregnant and thinks its perfectly ok to go skiing. If she'd ever experienced the pain of a loss there's no way she'd do that!
I am terrified to move in case I hurt the pregnancy.
Last time I was determined to do loads of exercise, kept walking 40 minutes a day, hiking up mountains etc, and look where that got me!
Does anyone else get really frustrated how some people seem to get it so easy and then totally take it for granted while some of us have to try month after month and then when we finally do get there, every day is terrifying?!!!

Sorry for the rant, but I'm feeling SO annoyed with stupid, naive, people that get it too easy!

 

[robbo1]

Aaw l know what u mean but try not to get stressed about it, u look after yourself!! As u say some people just don't realise how precious their pregnancy's are and take it all for granted. It's just the heartache we've gone through which makes us feel like this. Take care xx

 

[rm16]

Thank you
I know, its just bitterness that I have had to go through so much pain and even now when I should be happy again I don't dare enjoy one second of it. And I get very angry towards people who haven't felt that pain, especially when they do stuff that I think is dangerous...pregnant people smoking nearly get a punch in the face from me too! And then there are those of us that try to do everything perfect, and it still goes wrong
It's a strange world we live in!
Trying to stay positive but it's bloody hard! Thanks for the support xxx

 

[Islander]

me!i know people who r smoking/drinking/flying etc and im just like...ARGH!!!i dont want any1 to ever go through what I did but I just feel like they dot get how special it is and how lucky they are...

 

[Luscious Lou]

I so understand how you are feeling i hate it when people moan about pregnant and drink and smoke. really winds me up. Am 5 weeks pregnant and have had 2 mc's and analyse everything i do even worry about doing much round the house will bring on anothe mc. its daft but when u go thru something like this it really hits h

 

[Luscious Lou]

Home and altho i have a 3 yrd old its still scary. all the best of luck xxx

 

[shirlls]

I totally get what you are saying. I feel like that all the time, people who haven't suffered a loss, or losses, like we have just don't get how lucky they are and how precious pregnancy is. I saw a thread recently on the first trimester forum which really made me see red, someone was asking when she should stop doing some activty (I'll not say the details as don't want to bring attention to it) and it was something which was pretty obvious you should stop doing completely pregnancy and this girl was pregnant and still doing it, I felt so compelled to post a reply as I couldn't believe someone could be so naive but I held back and just put it down to fact she had never suffered a loss or understood.

I know it is hard but we just need to ignore people who say what seems to us as silly things when pregnant and remind ourselves it is just the difference between those who understand and those who don't.

Congrats on your pregnancy, wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months

xx

 

[MightyMom]

I feel that everyday. So frustrating!! And I get mad that I am so careful but some people just put their babies at risk and NOTHING HAPPENS. It's unfair, and it sucks.

 

[PrincessTaz]

I know how you feel, I have 3 friends pregnant and they are all still smoking while pregnant and one is still drinking. It upsets me more than anything else because 2 of them have already lost babies. I'm sure they love their babies as much as anyone else but I wish they would actually sit and have a real look at all the risks rather than just saying they know loads of people who smoke and have healthy babies. I love my friends and don't want any of them to the unlucky person that something does go wrong, I would never want to see any of them go through the heartache of losing their baby.

to you, how you feel is completely normal

 

[flubdub]

 

[rm16]

Hi everyone, thanks for all your replies, its good to know its not just me that gets so annoyed.
I can never work out how it works that other people who announce their pregnancies all over Facebook and are just totally happy and excited can possibly have not considered that it could go wrong...even the first time I was petrified, although at that point I didn't know what loss was like.
I don't think I'll ever dare announce it to the world....
Best of luck to all of you, I hope all our dreams can come true

 

[Loui1001]

Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy

I know exactly what you mean, when I got pregnant after my MMC I was really aware of how some pregnant ladies I know acted, it literally made me furious that some of them took risks while I was petrified to cough in case it did something!