SATINDOLLS1
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Hello all...this is my first time posting and I just need some advice/opinions on whether I'm over reacting or not. Long story short, my husband and I have been trying to conceive for two years now and recently have starting fertility treatment. I made the mistake of sharing these details with my future sister in-law (who lives very far away). Well, a couple of months later she had apparently had gone of BCPs and was bragging to me about how she has a perfect 28 day cycle...THEN last month I got a text from my husband letting me know that they are pregnant. I'm not going to lie; it felt like a huge kick in the gut. All I could do was muster up the nerve to congratulate them both and tell them how happy I was and very excited to be an auntie (which I am). She then went on and on about how she can't believe 3 months after going off BCPs she got pregnant and how she was doing, etc. which I didn't ask about. She also went on to let me know how difficult this must be for me and to please be honest with her! I mean what the heck!? I wasn't going to be like, "yes I am very envious of you and it's very painful". I just reiterated that WE are very happy for them and left it at that. Then every week like clock work she checks in with me and asks hows the baby making going and I just ignore her and text about other things. We are not judgmental but I think the thing that made us the most upset is that they are getting married in 5 months and they couldn't wait to get pregnant until after they were married. They are older than us and I think it just felt like a race or something. Also, they are super religious and we are not so much so we just both felt like they were being hypocrites. I dont know
Ive been very polite to her and would never want to make her feel badly about being pregnant but I just felt like it was all rubbed in our faces and is continually even though I thought she would take a hint when I ignore her. I feel like I just need some space but Im a nice person so I keep replying but keep it short and non-personal. If anyone has experience with this type of situation I would love to read your thoughts on the matter
thank you!