genetic testing

[gertrude]

To add a different voice I will be having the blood test, if this baby sticks. I had a TFMR I'm January at 17.5 weeks and really don't want to leave it till that late again.

Testing, and what you do once you have results is totally dependent on the parents involved. And tbh until you're in the situation you don't know what you would do for sure but it's worth asking yourself could the results change the outcome.

I realise our decision isn't what everyone would do, but it was right for me, my family and our futures for a variety of reasons. And you must make your decisions on the same basis x

 

[jzgrace]

To add a different voice I will be having the blood test, if this baby sticks. I had a TFMR I'm January at 17.5 weeks and really don't want to leave it till that late again.

Testing, and what you do once you have results is totally dependent on the parents involved. And tbh until you're in the situation you don't know what you would do for sure but it's worth asking yourself could the results change the outcome.

I realise our decision isn't what everyone would do, but it was right for me, my family and our futures for a variety of reasons. And you must make your decisions on the same basis x

I'm so sorry for your loss. I am sure that I can agree that you are right about nottruly knowing what you would do til put in the situation. Are you going to have the maternit21 test? I'm scheduled for the 27th. I can't lie and say I'm not nervous. I have 4 days til the blood draw. And I'm not sure how soon the results arrive, but it will be a stressful wait. I pray that things go greatly with your testing!

 

[gertrude]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I am sure that I can agree that you are right about nottruly knowing what you would do til put in the situation. Are you going to have the maternit21 test? I'm scheduled for the 27th. I can't lie and say I'm not nervous. I have 4 days til the blood draw. And I'm not sure how soon the results arrive, but it will be a stressful wait. I pray that things go greatly with your testing!

hiya, I'm in the UK so if I make it to 10 weeks I will have the harmony test. It's non negotiable for me now. I'm beyond terrified. It threatens to be in every waking thought but I can't do that because it won't change anything I have an amazing DD already, and if this one was OK it would be all shades of awesome, but I can't think about any of that. So it's very much head down and get to 10 weeks now.

Thank you too, I hope your tests are all OK x

 

[jzgrace]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I am sure that I can agree that you are right about nottruly knowing what you would do til put in the situation. Are you going to have the maternit21 test? I'm scheduled for the 27th. I can't lie and say I'm not nervous. I have 4 days til the blood draw. And I'm not sure how soon the results arrive, but it will be a stressful wait. I pray that things go greatly with your testing!

hiya, I'm in the UK so if I make it to 10 weeks I will have the harmony test. It's non negotiable for me now. I'm beyond terrified. It threatens to be in every waking thought but I can't do that because it won't change anything I have an amazing DD already, and if this one was OK it would be all shades of awesome, but I can't think about any of that. So it's very much head down and get to 10 weeks now.

Thank you too, I hope your tests are all OK x

Yw! And thank you! How far along are you now? I just hit the 10 week mark yesterday. You are right it doesn't help to stress. Sometimes I just can't help it though. Especially when people in the family keep asking questions. I find myself trying to reassure them too. Lol*

 

[gertrude]

Yw! And thank you! How far along are you now? I just hit the 10 week mark yesterday. You are right it doesn't help to stress. Sometimes I just can't help it though. Especially when people in the family keep asking questions. I find myself trying to reassure them too. Lol*

I'm only 5 weeks tomorrow so very much early days, so also got to hope it sticks. We aren't telling anyone this time, not after last time. Everyone knew as I was so far into the pregnancy. Just focusing on other stuff and reminding myself to take my vitamins etc. I have a fair bit on over the next month so I'm hoping that will help.

Yay to being 10 weeks already though, have you had any scans? Because of my history we get an early scan to date, then the blood test, then the NT scan should be around the time the results come back, then we can decide where we go to from there.

 

[jzgrace]

Gertrude, I had two scans already. One at 5 weeks, then one at 6. They said everything looks good so far. But it did date me a week behind. And I know my exact LMP, and there were only 3 days of DTD that could have even come close to conceiving. I've had pains and cramping so I got the scans at the hospital emergency room. I'm a bit nervous about being behind a week. I may end up going to the hospital again because of the cramping and I will get another scan then. Finding out so early that you are pregnant I think puts a bit more pressure on. I probably should have waited to tell family but my fiance doesn't keep a thing from his mom. So I had to tell my mom or she would have been jealous and really hurt if we told Hus mom and not her. She gets very jealous of my relationships with other women, because she didn't raise me. And since I've told her she went out and bought a crib and tons of other stuff for the baby. Which made me nervous because people usually wait til further along.

 

[jzgrace]

And I'm sure keeping busy will help to make the time pass so much quicker for you!! Do you have annoying symptoms? Any worse than the other?

 

[gertrude]

Urgh giving things back In jan was awful
If it goes ok I will get an early scan, a scan with the harmony and the NT. In some ways it's nice, but I saw my baby in jan before the amnio and it was hard reconciling it all really. I just hope (I'm not religious so won't pray) that this time it is a better outcome, that said if it's not I will make the same decision again

 

[gertrude]

No no symptoms really. A bit of an upset tummy but that's it. I rarely am sick so sometimes I get it the other end (sorry tmi!!) but at 5 weeks it is very early still
You?

 

[jzgrace]

Urgh giving things back In jan was awful
If it goes ok I will get an early scan, a scan with the harmony and the NT. In some ways it's nice, but I saw my baby in jan before the amnio and it was hard reconciling it all really. I just hope (I'm not religious so won't pray) that this time it is a better outcome, that said if it's not I will make the same decision again

I can only imagine the pain that you endured. If you don't mind me asking....what's your age? I'm going to be 35 in a couple weeks. So they offered me the testing. I'm not sure if I will get a scan with the blood test. Is that a regular thing with the testing or do indeed to request it? Im not sure what nt scan is. I hope I can get one though.
I am a religious person. I have a close relationship with god. I pray several times a day. I'm not a "freak" about it, its just like talking to myself only its god that I'm talking to. And asking questions as well.
I do too hope the outcome is different for you this time!! I would hate for you to go through that pain again. Do they provide counseling for you? I would need it for sure!

 

[jzgrace]

No no symptoms really. A bit of an upset tummy but that's it. I rarely am sick so sometimes I get it the other end (sorry tmi!!) but at 5 weeks it is very early still
You?

Lol that's not tmi! I feel very nauseated , itchy , tired , bb's are so sore. I have almost all of the symptoms. I'm hoping they will be gone soon. 5 weeks is a bit early for the extremes. I was queasy though too at 5 weeks. That has only gotten worse. Funny how we want the symptoms for confirmation then when they came its like "enough already!"

 

[gertrude]

I'm 38 now, was 37 when I had the TFMR. I have one healthy child so never thought it would happen to us. But I hadn't settled with the pregnancy at all. And when the quad results came back 1:5 I knew we were the 1. It was weird, I just knew, it explained everything really.

No symptoms as yet though I'm sure they will hit at some point. My first I was only sick once at 7 weeks so will see what happens with this one! I just want to be able to be excited without all this worry

 

[jzgrace]

Is that 1 in 5 chance? Have you looked to see if maternit21 is available to you? I heard from a girl in the UK the other day who said she got it and it took 15 days to go from there to California and back. I thought that timing was amazing too. I've heard that with maternit21 they give a yes or no answer, which seems a lot more settling. I can't believe they have come up with these blood tests. It so great. I think she had to pay out of pocket though for the m21 but well worth it.
Man you are lucky! Only sick once! I have 2 dd and was severely sick with both almost all the way through. I was hospitalized with my first. I haven't got sick yet just super nauseated. I'm hoping it stays that way! I've gained almost 17 pounds so far (a little over a stone) , I don't understand why I'm not eating like mad , I was thinking it could be twins. We will see at my next scan. But they said they only saw one baby.

 

[gertrude]

Sorry the 1:5 was last time, before the tfmr. I will be having the blood test as soon as I can this time and we are not telling anyone until we know. The earliest they do the blood test is 10 weeks, so just 5 weeks to go.

I'm not going to go bonkers. Oh no.

I also seem to have jinxed myself about nausea, felt dreadful earlier today. Hoping it was just a bug though!! Still it's kinda nice to feel something.

I see my Dr on Tuesday so start the ball rolling. Rather anxious tbh.

 

[jzgrace]

I'm rather anxious too. 3 days to go for the blood draw. I'm not sure when I'll get the results. My dad told me not to worry that things will be fine. But its easy for people to say. I've told almost everyone, because my soon to be dh told his mom because he tells her EVERYTHING.. My mom would have been super jealous and mad if she knew we told his mom first. She gets really jealous and angry about my relationships with other women because she left when I was two. Some weird feelings she has about that.

Try to be relaxed and calm, keep busy to keep your mind active. You will be surprised how fast the time goes by

 

[gertrude]

After last time we are not telling. I would like to tell my bf but tbh I'm not sure it will help. At least if no one knows they can't keep reminding me.

3days is great though, in the UK it is between 10-14 WORKING days to hear that's up to 3 weeks

 

[gertrude]

So I jinxed myself. Nausea rules now from 11am until about 4. Bah!

 

[jzgrace]

Lol! Not fun! If you get some spiced ginger and eat a slice a couple times a day that should help. I'm nauseated all day too. And the prenatals don't help either.

 

[harlantr1]

I'm not getting tested. I'm 36. My husband and I talked about it and we wouldn't terminate regardless of what tsting MIGHT tell us anyway. No reason to stress myself out and put my husband and I through all of that if it doesn't make a difference to us anyway.

 

[LadyHutch]

Not likely. I'll possibly do the harmony to find out gender early, and will do the NT scan, but it isn't likely I'd pursue more testing as it would amount to beans. I'm having the baby regardless of any anomalies.