Getting fed up with waiting (rant)

dan-o

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:grr: Rant alert! :grr:

I'm still waiting for my MMC to arrive & it's driving me up the wall :hissy:

I know I chose this path to avoid an invasive procedure & it's my own fault for not having the D&C on the 27th.... but it sure is dragging!!!

I have my next epu appt a week on tuesday, when I'm 13+0, I think that's long enough to leave it isnt it?
My baby might have died as early as 8 weeks (last time I saw a heartbeat) so I dont think I could bear to wait any longer than that!! (plus it's probably not healthy)

My boobs have started to deflate, my MS & most of my aversions have gone, so surely my hormones must be dropping by now? :wacko:

I never thought I'd be happy to have a MC, but right now the sight of blood will be a welcome relief!! :help:

Sorry... rant over xxx
 
hiya hun,same thing happened to me, i went for scan at 12wk and baby had died at 5wk,but cos the sac was 12wk in size a wk later i chose to have a dnc cos she told me there was lots yet to past, this was the best choice for me, when af arrived we wanted to start TTC asap , i had the dnc in march and proper af in may , maybe u shud have a dnc, have they offered to scan u in a few wk to make sure everything has pasted?
takecare xxx
 
Oh hon, you've been through so much. I don't know how you've coped. No one is going to think any less of you for opting for D&C now. The wait must have been agonising. Its natural that you just want to move on now. My thoughts and love are with you.

:hug::hug:
 
Morning Dan-O! Sorry to hear you are feeling glum, it will come... have you had any cramping or anything? Are you tempted to move your appointment forward?

I think mine is starting- but I'm not entirely sure. Woke up this morning, and have sludgey brown discharge (sorry if TMI)... but not sure if/when it's going to turn to full onto bleeding. Am very scared, and the opposite of you, as I just don't want to MC naturally. However, rang the EPU unit, and they're shut over the weekend. They have gone down even further in my estimation now!

I think if your symptoms have dropped away then it should happen soon. Chin up, I'm going to be about all day... so we can chat. Thinking of you.
 
hiya hun,same thing happened to me, i went for scan at 12wk and baby had died at 5wk,but cos the sac was 12wk in size a wk later i chose to have a dnc cos she told me there was lots yet to past, this was the best choice for me, when af arrived we wanted to start TTC asap , i had the dnc in march and proper af in may , maybe u shud have a dnc, have they offered to scan u in a few wk to make sure everything has pasted?
takecare xxx

Thanks honey :)

Yeah they said the same to me, that it will be like labour & there is a lot of tissue to pass. I'm just being stubborn I guess, I wanted to do this myself.
I have a scan booked for tuesday 17th, they did expect me to MC before then & the scan is to check it's all gone.

I will definitely seek medical assistance if it goes on much longer, I'm too weak to wait it out.

Damn it, why did I wait so long before TTC, I feel like my fertile years are draining away! :hissy:

(think I'm just having one of those days, lol)
 
Morning Dan-O! Sorry to hear you are feeling glum, it will come... have you had any cramping or anything? Are you tempted to move your appointment forward?

I think mine is starting- but I'm not entirely sure. Woke up this morning, and have sludgey brown discharge (sorry if TMI)... but not sure if/when it's going to turn to full onto bleeding. Am very scared, and the opposite of you, as I just don't want to MC naturally. However, rang the EPU unit, and they're shut over the weekend. They have gone down even further in my estimation now!

I think if your symptoms have dropped away then it should happen soon. Chin up, I'm going to be about all day... so we can chat. Thinking of you.

See now the brown stuff it what I'm on the lookout for, thats what I'm told usually comes first. Ugh. I'm sorry hun :(

If you have any problems there will be an emergency gyne ward somewhere near you, just go to your a&e. They should have given you the numbers really (your EPU need a slap, lol) can you google it or call the local midwife team so you have them at hand?
Failing that, just call an ambulance if it gets too much. That's what mine told me to to do if I'm on my own & distressed, as they can give pain meds for the contractions etc if you're admitted xxx
 
If all your symptoms are starting to abate, then yes, your hormone levels are dropping. From what my nurse practitioner told me when I asked her about it, apparently as soon as the baby passes the hormone levels start to drop because they're no longer needed for the uterus.

I'm sorry that this is dragging out for you and that you're going through this.
 
A few more things to add....

With mine, my symptoms faded about a month before the brown stuff started, so at about 8 weeks (when the foetus died), then the gunge at 12 weeks.
If thats your symptoms only going away now, it could be a while?
Have you taken a hpt recently?
I guess the fainter it is the closer to m/c you are?
I know the sac still triggers some pg hormones in you, but not all.

Also, after my m/c, my boobs leaked for a few nights.
Just something to look out for. I had never heard of that before. I made me really sad :(

:hug:
:hug:
:hug:
 
Hmm, maybe I'm waiting in vain then, my symptoms have only just started to fade recently. 2 weeks ago when I went for a scan, I still had all of them, as if nothing was wrong.

I just did an IC HPT, it's about the same colour as the one I did at 28dpo. Possibly lighter than one I did a couple of weeks ago, but I could be imagining it. It's hard to say.

I thought I was stronger than this, but if I wait much longer I'ts going to start freaking me out! I've spent all day thinking about it. If I knew it was going to happen in say, 10 days, then that would be fine, but it's the not knowing. I read about one lady who went to 16 weeks, ugh, no thanks.

I need to get a grip, lol!
 
:hug: No you don't Dan-O its just awful the waiting around.....I really feel for you its just cruel! :hugs:
 
i defo think i had a dnc cos i wanted to get bk to "normal" asap,i didnt want reminding everyday wot i was going thro x
pls pls if by monday nothing much as pasted,pls think bout a dnc x
 
Hi dan-0

I started to miscarry on holiday last week and have been bleeding quite heavily for 10 days already. Had a scan this morning aNd sack is still present so I'm waiting too.
It's not very pleasant but at least it's started, I have to decide whether to have erpc or manage on my own- if you hVent event started bleeding yet it could be weeks yet.
I'm so sorry this is happening to you. Be strong xxxxxx
 
you've been so strong already, please don't be annoyed with yourself for not thinking you are 'strong enough for this'. :hug: you need to do whats right for you at the time, and if that has changed from waiting to going to the drs to have it done then theres nothing wrong with that. Hope you are able to get through this quickly though. xx
 
dan-o it isnt about bing strong or the right or the wrong way-just do what feels right and that will help you cope with what you have to face, i think you have ben amazing to hang on like you havei had two mmc, the first my bean stopped growing at 6wk and the 2nd at 8wks-both times i started bleeding at 13wks, nothing before-1st time i started bleeding on wednesday and had a natural m/c on the monday whih i found very tough-the 2nd time i started bleeding on the wednesday and had a d/c on the monday because i didnt want to go through a natural m/c again-if you are having doubts,see if you can get an earlier appointmnet,you dont have to go to it unles you want to but at least it would be there:hug::hug:
 

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