Girls In Charge

[Pyrrhic]

I was just wondering if there were any other ladies out there who are the ones putting the stops on TTC? I do get my broody moments, but the older Nim gets, the less I want to TTC and just spend time with her. I do want a big family, so will get there eventually, just not now.

OH has asked that we start TTC this time next year, which I was fine last year but now it's too soon

So it feels like I don't really belong properly in WTT, and was wondering if anyone else is in the same situation?

 

[Amygdala]

I'm kind of putting the breaks on for us but not voluntarily. DH's ready emotionally and professionally but we're waiting for me to get to a better point in my career.
I still think you belong in wtt though, you're just waiting for it to feel right. I don't have a child yet but I've heard from many people that they couldn't imagine having another for a while after the first. At some point you'll change your mind and it'll feel right.

 

[princess_bump]

us! although our wtt is dictated by the wedding too, before we booked and decided to get married sooner, he was all for ttc, and still is, i however, don't want to start ttc until we've sold up and brought some where bigger.
i am a big like you too nic cos i feel the older maddi gets, the easier it will be when we do have another one, and i think, well i've waited this long, i can wait i bit longer, if that makes sense!!

 

[Sooz]

Yep, I am and have been for the past few years. DH is a good negotiator though and has talked me down from June to March....getting sooo close now!

 

[plutosblue]

Yep thats me

OH has been pressing to TTC since we were 18! But I knew I was waaaay too young to even concider it, now we are getting married and have both decided to wait until september (I shall be 22 so he has had a four year wait ), but even then I may put the breaks on TTC since we really need to get to grips with our finances and try to pay everything off!

 

[Kimboowee]

OH would of had me pregnant as soon as Josh popped out if he had it his way! Im the one with the sensible head. I want to get the wedding out the way and have a little nest egg set up before #2

 

[tasha41]

OH is excited to have more children ASAP, I am the one saying "no more kids until we get married" and wanting to go to school or sort a career for myself and an ideal living situation before we try again. Like, OH agrees the 3 of us should be living together before we dream of trying again, but I think OH would try in a 2 bedroom apartment, I'd rather have a place with 3 bedrooms or at least an extra room to use as a playroom if he wants to try

 

[Blah11]

OH would have liked us to have had another one by now However sibnce I'm the primary carer I decided I didn't want to have 2 children that are still babies which is why we're hoping to have another when Amelie is just over 2.

 

[celine]

I think my dh wants to ttc sooner than later..and I too get my super broody moments especially since a few ladies on here recently have gotten bfp's with their lo's under 1 years old and it makes me think about it...
BUT then i have some hard days and think how can I cope being preggy AND do this? Plus my af's arent back at all due to bfing so thats my excuse why we cant ttc just yet

 

[KimE]

Me!! OH has been approaching the subject since Pops was 2 weeks old!! He wanted to try just before he went away 2 weeks ago and it scared the sh$t out of me!! He rang the other day and said he wants to start trying when he gets back in April .... so I suppose we are officially WTT in April (although I think I may freak out again). I am happy with Pops and at the moment don't want another baby although we've always said we'd have two ....... Doesn't help that he's not around much to help either

 

[Pyrrhic]

It's easy for guys though, isn't it? They can still have their career, their fun, etc while we're the ones who have to give up our bodies for about a year and put up with MS, stretchies, aches, pains, night feeds, etc.

atm OH wants next January. Tooooo sooooon!

I guess it feels weird being in WTT though, because I'm the one putting the breaks on. So I can't really contribute to a lot of threads.

 

[KimE]

It's easy for guys though, isn't it? They can still have their career, their fun, etc while we're the ones who have to give up our bodies for about a year and put up with MS, stretchies, aches, pains, night feeds, etc.

atm OH wants next January. Tooooo sooooon!

I guess it feels weird being in WTT though, because I'm the one putting the breaks on. So I can't really contribute to a lot of threads.

I so agree!! The thought of being pregnant again scares the hell out of me cos I feel like I've only just got my body and life back!! I've been floating around WTT but don't/didn't feel committed enough to post before but since the convo with hubby the other night .... hmmmm we'll see xx