give me your opinion

[Yvonne]

Right.......
I'm getting broody again!

Good points....
I love babies
I love the experience of going into labour and the giving birth and the feelings afterwards
I know Andy wants more so i will have support

Bad points
-I suffer with SEVEAR spd when pregnant and it got worse with my 2nd pregnancy so will probably be really bad if i had a 3rd
-I have retained placenta with all pregnancies which results in infection and extra hospital trips etc
-I have problems getting babysitters now for 2 let alone 3
- and i heomerage(sp) after birth due to the retained placenta

Andy said if i really wanted to have another one then we could go private as i wouldn't trust my hospital again as far as i could throw them, which i would probably trust more

I just wondered if i am nuts for wanting another one with all the problems i have.
Please be honest

 

[Arcanegirl]

If you really want another and you feel you can cope again with the problems youve had before then go for it!
You will probably get much better care going private so things can possibly be better.

With babysitters, you will always find a way.

I dont think youre nuts :wink:

 

[Wobbles]

I think your nuts biut not because of the above

I haven't voted ... I think if you could cope with another pregnancy then yer go for it hun.

Follow your heart

 

[Minxy]

I voted no (sorry )

Only because Jack is still so little, he'll still want a lot of picking up and how would you cope with your SPD?

It's great that you've got Andy's support and I know how you feel about the pregnancy/baby thing.

Is there a reason why you can't wait another year or so? I guess what I mean is by all means extend your family but maybe wait a bit. So I should've ticked Yes not No because you didn't specify a time (Duh me)

 

[Yvonne]

minxy i won't be trying til Amy starts school next september and Jack is old enough to start playgroup,

i don't mean for this to upset or annoy anyone but with Amy and Jack i conceived straight away so i don't think i will need to give it much time before.

I just wanted people opinions before i went into costs of private care etc

 

[weestar21]

it doesnt matter what anyone thinks hun, its you who has to go through the child birth and its you who has to bring the baby up so go with your heart and makesure you enjoy every second of it :wink:

xxxxx

 

[Yvonne]

I just wanted other peoples opinions thats all, i know a few people have had problems and i wondered whether i should consider it or not.

 

[Layla]

go for it!!!

I personaly think the life time of joy will outweight the 9 months of pain



xx

 

[Minxy]

You know we're all baby mad here! You may not get an unbiased opinion :wink:

 

[Yvonne]

I was thinking i could ask for a section to stop the retained placenta and extra surgery to get rid of it afterwards, but it is a longer recovery and with 2 little ones, may not be easy!

I am undecided

 

[Iwantone!!!]

go for it if it is what u want could u handle the spd pain again ?? Its worth the pain if you want a child so much go for it !!!

 

[Layla]

thats a good idea, how long is the recovery tho? could Andy take extra leave from work to help out if you did do it?

What about parents?

xxx

 

[Yvonne]

Well with me waiting til Amy is in school next sept before i TTC I wouldn't have her to worry about and Jack would then be old enough to put into playgroup a few mornings just to take the ease off him to til i have recovered enough to look after them and play with them.

i think its no strenous stuff for 6 weeks, could have changed though.

 

[Layla]

I think you will have another, hehe

xx

 

[Wobbles]

Yvonne good luck in whatever you decide hun

x

 

[Yvonne]

the other thing i keep thinking about is that i have 1 of each sex, a girl for me to deal with and a boy for Andy to deal with in puberty etc, if i had another then you can guarentee it will be another homonal girl for me to deal with

 

[Tam]

I haven't voted but..........

If you feel you can cope with the SPD, then why not?

If you have a problem with your placenta and the hospital keep an eye on you because of it, then why not?

If it is hard to find a baby sitter for 2 already, one more isn't going to make it any easier, norr harder, so why not?

You just have to weigh the pros and cons up yourself and if you think you can cope with it all......then you have your answer!

Good Luck hun! x

 

[KX]

go 4 it

 

[Iwantone!!!]

good luck whatever u deciede

 

[beatlesbaby66]

i would go for it, i would also book an early appointment before you start trying to talk to a private specialist about your concerns and advances that have been made etc...the recovery time after a section is getting better all the time because they have new techniques and private patients tend to have better care early on and so recover quicker too honey...
i cant remember who said it but i would take 9 months of pain for the years of joy too...bxox