Butterfly89
Mama of 1
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To make a long story short, I don't have the financial or emotional means to support a child. After a lot of long, hard thinking, I have decided I have to give the baby up for adoption. I have some questions about the process.
Do I have any say in who gets the baby? Can I be a part of the screening process or do they just take the baby and run away? Can I have access to information about the new parents and their history, references, etc?
I don't want an open adoption, I don't want my child knowing about me in any way or ever contacting me. I just want them to tell the child they were wanted and loved from the beginning but that I wanted to give them a better life. That's all.
But I am so afraid they will be placed in an abusive home or something terrible like you hear these stories of. Is there any way I can be involved? I am even thinking of hiring a private investigator to check them out. Is that illegal?
Do I have any say in who gets the baby? Can I be a part of the screening process or do they just take the baby and run away? Can I have access to information about the new parents and their history, references, etc?
I don't want an open adoption, I don't want my child knowing about me in any way or ever contacting me. I just want them to tell the child they were wanted and loved from the beginning but that I wanted to give them a better life. That's all.
But I am so afraid they will be placed in an abusive home or something terrible like you hear these stories of. Is there any way I can be involved? I am even thinking of hiring a private investigator to check them out. Is that illegal?