Going to Solicitor today :(

[Welshcob]

Morning Girls. Hope you are all doing OK. Just a brief resume incase you weren't aware of background. BF stopped contact for 3 weeks when he found out we (I) was expecting - even though he planned it with me. Then he agreed to talk and when I got there decided he did not want to and he would talk when he felt like it - he pushed me - I slapped him and he then had me arrested and told the police he was my ex BF. It was all planned as he recorded me!
Solicitor and Domestic Violence Helpline told me I need to go to a solicitor to protect the baby. To be honest I am finding it very hard indeed, because this is never what I wanted and I never thought for a moment that this would happen. I am still kinda shocked. Because it came out of no where - but to be honest hes done exact same thing before. When my mum was dying he just disappeared without a word and when I went round crying begging him to be there for me because I did not understand why he had disappeared and I was totally alone. He sat in his house and totally ignored me. Six weeks later he pops up on messenger at work - which he had been off and I told him how evil he was and that he should go back home. Hes got an Australian passport but is a New Zealander. (MK) I said he had no place on this earth when he enjoys being so cruel. Next thing that happened is that my desk phone rings. I can't see who it is. I answer and they hang right up. I realised it was him. He reported me to the company who suspended me. So that not only was my mum dying but I was going to lose my job to. He lied and said I made death threats. Which was complete rubbish. So you see when he has one of these "episodes" hes capable of anything.
But I did text him two days ago to ask if he was sure he doesn't want to speak to me and was he sure he made the right decision. Because I really don't like the idea of going to a solicitor. But I know I must protect this baby. The other reason I don't like it is because I am afraid. If the solicitor is no good...then he will just go ballistic. He will tear me and the solicitor apart. It won't be physical. It will be something worse like he will get the best solicitor going and just tear me apart. I am afraid.
And confusingly alongside that. I still don't get his behaviour and I sit here trying to figure out why? But hes not normal, I know that and trying to apply normal logic won't help and won't work.

 

[tinkabells]

Good luck for today, and i hope everything goes well with you, give us an update when you can love xxx

 

[~curiosity~]

Wow that definitely is strange behaviour! Hopefully the truth will come out soon hun, its so unfair that hes putting you through this xx Good luck!

 

[babystar]

good luck can i ask... would there be any chance you could maybe ask for a psychiatric assessment to be made?? Just out of interest? Sounds like he may have some kinda problems.

 

[mom2b2009]

Your decision to visit solicitor is correct, and dont worry about what he can do, you are soon going to be blessed with a child, so dont worry at all.

I will say just ignore whatever thought about how bad hes and try your level best to make that cruel learn the lesson.

I can guarantee you, if you stick to your decision, you will win.

best of luck and lots of

update us on the progress

 

[AP]

You have to see a solicitor. he is very calculating and you cannot handle that by yourself, its scary to even read!

 

[Tam]

I hope this is looked into alot deeper for you if this is the route it is taking. x

 

[Welshcob]

Hi Girls. Thank you so much for your positive responses.. you really do help me feel stronger. I watched a movie last night and it had me in tears, it was shes having a baby!
Awfully upsetting that I am where I am right now. I know what babystar said - I wonder if I could get a psyciatric test. He really is not well. But hes happy like he is...I guess or he would not keep on doing this stuff.
Anyway, solicitor did not go great. I can't do anything to protect the baby yet. other than keep away from him - which I am ever since the 22nd. They are writing him a letter asking him to refrain from abusive and threatening behaviour and I also asked that they ask him what part he wants to play in this babies life. Which is essentially what I wanted to talk to him about on the 22nd. I still don't understand this crazy behaviour. But I just have to get over it and deal with it! I know that...its just hard esp when it came out of no where. I wanted to send him an email. I'll make it the last message I send him. But see what you guys think of it first....if you think its not a good idea, I won't do it. I don't want it to cause any trouble. That is not my intention...I just find it hard to let go of trying to figure him out.

 

[Tigger Momma]

Hi........ I am sooo sorry your going through this, I responded to the letter you want to send him on your other post. I hope it makes you feel better and to gain a sense of purpose in this situation

 

[leeanne]

I hope you can get this all sorted out. Your ex sounds like he's got some emotional issues, or something of the sort.