guilt.

[Bellybump89]

it is amazing the amount of guilt a mother can have over leaving her child. even just to go to the store to pick up something. i feel empty, naked even!

but my husband can come and go. he just left us on a Saturday night to go drink and play poker. i haven't been "out" in at least a year and a half and i have no desire really. that is not the point though, i just wish he felt an ounce of what i feel.

is this a normal husband thing to do? he is great with savannah when hes home. maybe I'm the weird one

 

[Dk1234]

Honestly I think it's healthy to get away occassional. That being said I'm not healthy at all. My husband is gone to a football game and my son just stirred ao I immediately put him in bed with me because I wanted him close to me. I am a little too attached I think. I haven't moved him into his own room and I've left him three times total for a combination of less than 8 hours.

 

[staralfur]

Pretty normal I think for the men to have an easier time leaving the baby.

My OH loves our LO to pieces but he doesn't have issues being away from her for a few hours or a night or whatever.

 

[Indi84]

It's all relative I think, I got in touch with my dh's best mate and got him to take him out for a drink, felt he deserved some 'me' time. He works so hard and is fantastic with the baby on weekends and eves.
I've had some time away, I went to an engagement party for three hours with lo was 2.5 Weeks, Daddy loved his alone time, and my mum had him when I went to the docs, and picked up his birth certificate. I don't think I lack the mummy gene, just think I'm pretty laid back in the grand scheme of things. The rest of the time, it's just me and lo, I get cuddle time all week! When my mil visits I let her feed and change him, she loves it, and loves him so I'm happy to share.

 

[forestfire]

I feel bad I went to the cinema today and didn't have any guilt over leaving baby. I knew he was with his dad so wasn't worried.

Am I weird?

 

[Bellybump89]

Ah ! I guess I'm just being hormonal. I wish it was that easy for me when I leave her with him. Maybe I'm too attached but ill take baby snuggles over beer anyday. He does deserve a break he works hard for us.

 

[Bellybump89]

I feel bad I went to the cinema today and didn't have any guilt over leaving baby. I knew he was with his dad so wasn't worried.

Am I weird?

Not weird at all. I'm the oddball I feel like I'm not allowed to enjoy myself without baby. And feel like a shit mom when she's not with me. I really don't think that's normal lol.

 

[Indi84]

if it's normal for you then don't worry! If it feels right then go with it.
I just feel like my hubby is just as good at caring for the baby as me, as he's 50% his! But then I'm expressing and formula feeding so it's easy for dh to feed him, I think breastfeeding would be very different and hard to leave the house, at least to start with.

 

[kecie]

Shouldn't feel like a shit mum when she's not with you hun. Sometimes it is alot easier just to pop into town without bubs! =)

 

[MrsKyliePaton]

It will get easier you baby is still very young, my dh has no trouble going out without the kids and me but then again he works away so is used to it, I left my lo at 4 weeks with my mum and dad as I had my best friends party to attend I was happy to leave her as I know she was well looked after but at the same time I didn't enjoy myself as I missed her so much and couldn't wait to get home, your time will come when you feel ready to leave her xx