Hi ladies
We had our baby on saturday - we had a beautiful baby boy and decided to call him jacob. He was perfect size for his age and perfectly formed - he actually looked like his dad. I just don't know how to feel - I feel like I'm losing my mind with guilt, guilt that I failed him. He died in the last few days before the scan and I'm terrified that it was my body that starved him of oxygen or something because before this tragedy he was a bouncing baby on his 12 week scan and he had a strong heartbeat at 16 weeks. No matter how many times the doctors tell me protein and slightly raised BP or UTI had nothing to do with it I can't see how this is right - how can a baby just die for no reason. I read on my notes that the scan revealed his brain was too small and I've googled this and a cause for this is being starved of oxygen which can be a result of BP problems etc.... I don't know Its like I need to blame someone and the only person is me and my stupid, incapable body I feel like this is gonna happen again and again if we tried again but alls I want is to be pregnant again xx
We had our baby on saturday - we had a beautiful baby boy and decided to call him jacob. He was perfect size for his age and perfectly formed - he actually looked like his dad. I just don't know how to feel - I feel like I'm losing my mind with guilt, guilt that I failed him. He died in the last few days before the scan and I'm terrified that it was my body that starved him of oxygen or something because before this tragedy he was a bouncing baby on his 12 week scan and he had a strong heartbeat at 16 weeks. No matter how many times the doctors tell me protein and slightly raised BP or UTI had nothing to do with it I can't see how this is right - how can a baby just die for no reason. I read on my notes that the scan revealed his brain was too small and I've googled this and a cause for this is being starved of oxygen which can be a result of BP problems etc.... I don't know Its like I need to blame someone and the only person is me and my stupid, incapable body I feel like this is gonna happen again and again if we tried again but alls I want is to be pregnant again xx