Question for you ladies: If your child had a half sibling (same dad) and you knew that child was out there, would you want to be contacted by mom of that child?
Back story (will keep it short)...My dd's father has never met her (his choice). He has a child older than dd and one younger. He is not in those kids lives either, although he has at least met them. I know of them through FB. The mom of his youngest puts a lot out there and that's how I even learned of the older kid. I know she knows he has another child (mine) from what she has posted. She doesn't know me or my name. DD has started asking lots of questions and I'm answering age appropriately as they come up, and it's been suggested I contact this other woman so my dd can know her half sibs, and also so she can see that her dad leaving is not about her bc it did it to them too. Opinions? I jsut want to do what is best for dd in the long run. I should also mention that I have and appt with a child therapist on the 15th and will talk this thru with her too, but in the mean time I wanted to know what other women, especially if you've been in a similar situation, would do. thanks.
Back story (will keep it short)...My dd's father has never met her (his choice). He has a child older than dd and one younger. He is not in those kids lives either, although he has at least met them. I know of them through FB. The mom of his youngest puts a lot out there and that's how I even learned of the older kid. I know she knows he has another child (mine) from what she has posted. She doesn't know me or my name. DD has started asking lots of questions and I'm answering age appropriately as they come up, and it's been suggested I contact this other woman so my dd can know her half sibs, and also so she can see that her dad leaving is not about her bc it did it to them too. Opinions? I jsut want to do what is best for dd in the long run. I should also mention that I have and appt with a child therapist on the 15th and will talk this thru with her too, but in the mean time I wanted to know what other women, especially if you've been in a similar situation, would do. thanks.