born2bamama
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Hi girls,
I just wanted to share with you my story of the day as it brought hubby and I some much needed feelings of reassurance.
So after spending time with our friends who are expecting, and getting the whole "when are you guys going to have kids.. I figured you would have a couple by now" from some other friends and coworkers this week, And getting confirmation that we have yet again failed to get pregnant for the 19th cycle, today we spent some good time together playing golf all by ourselves and just relaxing and having fun. As we tried to find some motivation to move on with cycle 20 and put the feelings as though it will never happen to rest, we focused on having a great time together not thinking about it.
Anyway, golf was great and we both had a good time, but on our way home we decided to go out for dinner as we were both exhausted. At the restaurant we ended up sitting beside a family; there were two girls apx. age 15 and 9 and their parents. The girls were chinese and the parents caucasian, so obviously the girls were adopted. While sitting there we could hear there conversation and how normal and loving and typical it all seemed; it's hard to explain but the way they were just melted our hearts.
After dinner, on our way back to the car, we both just looked at each other with tears in our eyes and said "that's what it's all about". They were a family, and that's what we are working towards, and some day, some how we are going to have that too.
We didn't even have to say anything to each other to understand exactly what we were feeling; although we are far away from a decision on adoption, it still gave us a peaceful feeling and an end result, the most important part of all of this, to keep in mind and a reason to keep moving forward, hand in hand.
Had to share, and I hope this helps someone else feel a bit better tonight as well
I just wanted to share with you my story of the day as it brought hubby and I some much needed feelings of reassurance.
So after spending time with our friends who are expecting, and getting the whole "when are you guys going to have kids.. I figured you would have a couple by now" from some other friends and coworkers this week, And getting confirmation that we have yet again failed to get pregnant for the 19th cycle, today we spent some good time together playing golf all by ourselves and just relaxing and having fun. As we tried to find some motivation to move on with cycle 20 and put the feelings as though it will never happen to rest, we focused on having a great time together not thinking about it.
Anyway, golf was great and we both had a good time, but on our way home we decided to go out for dinner as we were both exhausted. At the restaurant we ended up sitting beside a family; there were two girls apx. age 15 and 9 and their parents. The girls were chinese and the parents caucasian, so obviously the girls were adopted. While sitting there we could hear there conversation and how normal and loving and typical it all seemed; it's hard to explain but the way they were just melted our hearts.
After dinner, on our way back to the car, we both just looked at each other with tears in our eyes and said "that's what it's all about". They were a family, and that's what we are working towards, and some day, some how we are going to have that too.
We didn't even have to say anything to each other to understand exactly what we were feeling; although we are far away from a decision on adoption, it still gave us a peaceful feeling and an end result, the most important part of all of this, to keep in mind and a reason to keep moving forward, hand in hand.
Had to share, and I hope this helps someone else feel a bit better tonight as well
