Has anyone given up completely only to get a bfp?

[silarose28]

Hi everyone

I seriously need cheering up. I have given up all hope of a bfp. Then I just feel worse because I know being negative doesn't help.

Is there anyone out there who felt like me and like there wasn't a hope of getting preggo - only to find out they were! I thinks stories like that would really cheer me up at the mo!!!


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[sparkle83]

yes, but unfortunately it ended in mc.

We'd given up, were using the withdrawal method... one night, we ummmm didn't withdraw lol. and bam, that was it. we'd been ttc 6 years by this point, and I was on cd#89. so yup, it most definately can happen!

 

[ally87]

There is hope i promise. Thought i would share the story of my friend with you. (she isnt that good with computers lol). She has been TTC for 6 years. she was diagnosed with pcos. All fertility treastments possible before having to try ivf and nothing. Then IVF. Still nothing. Anyway she decided enough was enough and she couldnt take the pain anymore. They decided it was meant to be and they wernt going to put their lives on hold anymore. Any way the hope happens here. She has just had her first scan and is 14 weeks pregnant. No IVF no nothing. Just nature. She thinks the not thinking about it or stressing has made it happen. Chin up miracles do happen we just need to keep believing.

 

[CareBear]

I've given up hope too, sorry don't have a nice story to follow but maybe one day.

 

[lady blush]

ive lost all hope too its been 6 years and nothing i have lost hope and faith all together and now i just think it will never happen..............its very hard to be positive at times and miracles do happen but they dont happen to me

GOOD LUCK hope you get your miracle soon.xxx

 

[SophomoreJinx]

my auntie had given up on being a mum after 9 years of trying, 3 early miscarriages and a stillbirth :/ she was so upset about her last pregnancy that she decided that would be her last, sometime the following year, she found out she was pregnant and gave birth to a gorgeous baby boy :] she has another little boy now using the "not trying, not preventing" method and she swears that once she stopped stressing about it and worrying, everything sort of fell into place. i truly hope that the same will happen for you and everyone else who's struggling to conceive. baby dust to all :] x

 

[Blue12]

I was thinking that maybe this question would be better asked in the pregnancy section - since we are all in this section - trying - and trying to have hope lol.

Best wishes... and hope you are feeling better or more positive and hopeful.

 

[silarose28]

Hello everyone

Thanks for all of your responses. I'm trying really hard to put things to the back of my mid this month as so may say that it helps - but it's soooo hard! Good luck to all of us here who are waiting patiently (or impatiently!) for our bfps xxxxxxxx

 

[annmc30]

i had my son at an early ages then i got with my soul mate n we have been ttc for 14yrs, i also been gyno for 3yrs got pcos blocked right tube got refered for ivf in june 09 got refused so started an appeal only 2 get a bfp in augs which ended in mc a few weeks later i was heart broken but then we got ivf funded on 23rd dec n now im starting on the drugs 8th march so hopefully il get a bfp 27th april

 

[kglo]

There is hope, sometimes just giving up makes you relax.

I had 8 cycles of Clomid which failed, I gave up as the disapointment was to much, I'm also 40 years old.

We booked a holiday and went to the caribbean.

On return I went to the GP as I thought I had a urine infection, low and behold he told me I was pregnant.

I think it was the fact I had given up, I was more relaxed, stopped charting, I think stress makes it so much harder to conceive.

Good Luck

 

[FBbaby]

Argggg, the problem is that reading those encouraging messages means that we know there is always hope and therefore we can't give up completely and so can't stop it being on our minds!!

I supposed one of the step to really being able to move on would be stop coming on BnB! My problem is that I am the type of person who never give up hope, if there is one chance, however little, I will cling on to it. I think the only way I would truly be able to move on would be if I was told I had officially gone through the menopause or my OH was producing no sperm whatsover, and even then, I might still hope that he will one cycle!

The best I can do is to concentrate on other aspects of my lives that bring me satisfaction so ttc doesn't become an obsession, but stopping listening to my body to assess when I am ovulating or when AF is likely to show, I can't imagine doing. Saying that, I haven't ttc for that long and I can respect that after a number of years, you might indeed get to that stage of truly giving up.

 

[Jem88]

i hadn't given up but few months before my last mc(chemical) i wasnt even thinking "oh i might be preg this time" or looking for any symptoms etc, i'd kind of given up but we were still ttc but now since the chemical i cant stop thinking about symptoms and looking out for implantation bleed at around 9dpo lol. i kind of wish it hadnt happend coz i was relaxed and fine before then

 

[DragonMummy]

Hi everyone

I seriously need cheering up. I have given up all hope of a bfp. Then I just feel worse because I know being negative doesn't help.

Is there anyone out there who felt like me and like there wasn't a hope of getting preggo - only to find out they were! I thinks stories like that would really cheer me up at the mo!!!


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well everytime you talk about TTC with people who AREN'T TTC they ALWAYS know someone who stopped trying and BANG! pregnant with quads!!

Some of those stories must be true. xxxxx

 

[Blue12]

Lol dragonmummy!!! So true - I am not really sure if the stories are true lol - at least not all of the details.

I know that I am not sure that I could ever give up - haven't in 4 years ttc plus 10 year ntnp...

 

[Try Rocking]

There is hope! My husband and I had been trying for 7 years, we had been seeing a fertility specialist, I had exploratory surgery done to try and figure out the problem, I was on fertility drugs and nobody had any idea why it wasn't happening.

After so many negative tests we stopped trying, we just did our thing and finally last year we got our BFP.

I wish you ladies all the luck in the world, I know how hard it is.

 

[Trying4ever]

How can I give up? With every AF I say that's it....no more. i cant stand the heartache every month...in fact some of the stories here are really nice and give hope....like just not stressing and relaxing might make it work.....but that possibility makes me stress every month even when we 'aren't trying' that maybe just maybe there was a miracle....but it never happens.