Has anyone had people trying to force them into abortion?

[Sam86]

My OH was dead set on an abortion when i was pregnant too.
And like a few people have said, it was all about him. HE doesnt want it, it will ruin HIS life, HE cant cope. What about me? I was gonna go along with the abortion, we had the appointment booked and everything. Then 4 days before it, i had the M/C. I think baby knew it wasnt the right time. Oh god though, the RELIEF to have miscarried rather than to have had to have an abortion i DID NOT want.. i kinda felt happy my baby had got out before having being forced out.
Poor little thing
xx

 

[csmummu]

aww sox i hope you can make the decision you need to make for you and your baby you can do this on your own!

on the depression side of things you are right an abortion with depression will break you. if you go through with birth and end up with post natal depression there is some AMAZING support having been there i got pretty low! I hope you find peace soon

massive to you!

 

[orange-sox]

I had exactly the same problem. Rich even threatened to cut her out of me.

It hurts doesn't it?

Oh sweetheart, I didn't mean to make that come up

Thanks for all your comments girls, I really appreciate you all taking the time to help me through this, I knew I wasn't being selfish thinking that this baby doesn't deserve to be just cast aside.

We have agreed to talk on Friday when he gets home, and I'm booked in to see the doctor next thursday (his response to that was "so we can get it all booked then" - i said "no you muppet, I have to see the doc regardless of what I decide"... he simple said "Oh")

I have told him that he needs to see what this is doing to me, and that he has to respect my decision. I just don't think that he realises how this will break us apart, he seems to think it'll all be hunky dory and go back to how it was, when in reality I'd never ever forgive him from forcing me to kill our child.

 

[mz_jackie86]

Hey Hun,
Bit of a poo situation ur in!
I fell pregnant when i was 18 and when my family found out they automatically said your to young get rid of it and so did my the BF he said he wasnt ready and he didnt want it.
They convinced me that it was the right thing to do, then i had a miscarriage and i was heartbroken, but their reactions were "you didnt want it so why do u care"!!
Which made me so angry cos i did want it and the only reason i chose not to keep it was bcos of them!
As of then i decided i NEVER wanted kids and if i ever get pregnant while i was young im gunna get rid of it and not tell anyone about it...i dnt n why i sed this but i just did!
Then i fell pregnant 4 years later funnily enough by the same guy and i told my mum after about a week and said i dont want ur opinion whatever i decide is up to me, u put me thru so much last time and im not going thru that again!
She was an angel after that, and now is so excited!
Then i told the babies dad and straight away said an abortion isnt happenin, i want nothing from you just you have a right to no!
And from then he was fine...been arsey few times but is as good as can be expected.

My point is if you show your strong and no-one is going to break you or influence your decision then people will back off a lot more, dnt let people make you hide what you want at the end of the day its YOUR life not theirs if they dnt like it they dnt have to be in it.But most of the time you'll find once their over the shock they will want to be in it!!

Sorry its a bit long.
xxxx

 

[orange-sox]

How old is your OH if you dont mind me being nosey.

He's 22

 

[TheyCallMe...]

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[elmaxie]

Hey

Silly question but I thought you guys were ttc or am I being stupid and confusing you with someone else???? Sorry if I am.

At the end of the day you appear to want this baby and if babys dad doesnt then its up to you what you do.
I work in operating theatres where abortions take place surgically and the amount of ladies/women that come in that genuinely want an abortion is very few. Alot of the women realise after the procedure or once its too late as they give you a pessary to soften your cervix.
I know that docs will need to know reasons and most can tell if there is any doubt. So all I say is at the end of the day its your descision and just be certain of it before making a final descision.

Good Luck!



Emma.xx

 

[orange-sox]

Hey

Silly question but I thought you guys were ttc or am I being stupid and confusing you with someone else???? Sorry if I am.

We were WTT hun, so you're about there

Thanks for the I sure need them

 

[navarababe]

My ex partner is doing the same thing to me at the moment and trying to get me to get a abortion, he said if i dont get a abortion he wont talk to me again, and he says that as he knows im not strong enough to let go. I am planning on keeping my baby, and telling him after 25weeks, as then theres nothing he can do. please make the choice for urself chic, xxx

 

[TashaAndBump]

Have you tried the approach of, "I'm keeping this baby. Are you with me or not?"...

I think that will make things a lot clearer in his mind and hopefully he will come around to the idea. It's not you forcing him into being a dad, he already is. It is just forcing him to take responsibility.

Do not allow yourself to be pressured into having an abortion - you know what that will do to your mental wellbeing.

Your OH will hopefully shut up about the abortion once he knows that you are not having one. Then you unfortunately just need to sit tight while he decides whether he will stand by you through the pregnancy or not...

So sorry that your OHs reaction was not better. Congrats on your pregnancy, regardless. xx

 

[Dream.A.Dream]

So sorry your OH didn't react better.

I'm just gonna repeat what others have said, don't let yourself be pushed into an abortion, especially if it's not what you want. Which it clearly isn't. xx

 

[orange-sox]

Stupid man, I have found us a great house to rent, next door to some friends so it means we wont be totally alone, and all he said was "Getting a house won't change our situation"

I've told him that while he has a say whether he is in this babies life, that I will continue with this pregnancy with or without him. His answer was "it's both our decision, and we need to think it through properly, it's too soon" like he's waiting for his head to *ding* and go "time for a baby"

 

[Mommyy2be]

Dont let anybody tell you what to do..Do only whats best for you and the baby.. Your other half is obvioulsy not man enough and responsable enough to go through some thing that both of you had apart of. Just do it yourself sweetie..If you got family that you can turn to,turn to them.. If you do decide to keep it, you should let him know that he doesnt have to be there for you.. Just to do one thing and dont give you stress. You dont need all that extra stress on you.. Its not good for you or the baby.

Best Wishes Hun,
Ashley

 

[maybethistime]

U only have to listen to ur self and you know what you want,

I have a friend who got pregs, and he bf succeded in forcing her into an abortion and they split a few months after, all she wants not is to be a mum. So do what u think is right not anyone else xx

 

[PixieKitty]

BOLLOCKS TO HIM!
It's your body, only YOU have the right to say what goes on. I had the same with the baby's father, thank f**k he's out of the picture now. I'm so glad I didn't give in and do it, I loved my baby from the start just like you do and I'm telling you now, don't worry that if you kept bubs he'd leave, cause if he's the type of f**ktard to do something like that then you're better off without him!
x

 

[Sophie1205]

NOBODY can force you into having an abortion.
My Mum tried to force me into it.
Dont do anything you dont want to
x

 

[Diamond14]

I know what you mean. i haven't taken a test yet but i'm pretty shure i am .my bf wants me to get one i'm just not shure and i haven't told my mom .cause I've been scared i was once and told her the test came out neg. Now she always calls me a little slut. I hate it.

 

[Mommyy2be]

I know what you mean. i haven't taken a test yet but i'm pretty shure i am .my bf wants me to get one i'm just not shure and i haven't told my mom .cause I've been scared i was once and told her the test came out neg. Now she always calls me a little slut. I hate it.

Your mother calls you little slut??.. Hunni i would not put up with that. What makes you think your pregnant, Missed period?

 

[mBLACK]

In these cases, don't listen to your OH. I know you love him unconditionally.. but having a baby changes everything. If you get an abortion or not, everything from here on out is different. I know you may not believe it but men have been known to just walk away from parenthood - if you get an abortion for him and you split up how will it affect you?

 

[missjess]

Like all the other girls have said hun, DO NOT LET ANYONE FORCE YOU INTO GETTING AN ABORTION. Not even the person you love the most. This is your body, your decision.

When I got pregnant, I went to my GP to confirm I was really pregnant (I really couldn't believe my home BFP) and when she came back into the room she gave me a list of a few abortion clinics. It hurt me so badly.

When I think about how much Josh changed my life, how great he his... When I get up in the morning and he gives me the biggest smile when I pick him up, I couldn't imagine if I didn't have him. He's the love of my life.