He still wont talk!!

[Leanne020807]

So i thought today would be the day he would talk!! but... nooooo!!

I had a MC in April and would have been due today he has said nothing at all to me about it!

So i thought maybe today would be the day!! I said it loud and clear 'our baby would have been due today' but nothing just completely blanked me again!!

since no one knows i had a MC it would have been nice to speak to him but yet again im on my own thinking about it in my little head

 

[tinybutterfly]

sorry he's still not talking

is it just about the mc he won't talk, or in general as well?

 

[hb1]

No advice really just so sorry you are going through this essentially alone

hx

 

[marnie79]

Im sorry hun, i wish he would open up to u xx

 

[Pretty Please]

I am sorry - some men just cant talk about upsetting things. Sounds bad but a bottle of wine/beer tonight and maybe he will open up????

My husband is exactly the same absolutely nothing about all 5MC until we drink a lot.

I completely know how you are feeling and you just want him to cuddle you, burst in to tears and tell him precisely how he is feeling and chat.

Maybe next week he might after all he will be hurting too but maybe wants to be the "strong man" to support you. Also, with a new one on the way maybe he is scared to talk and wants just to focus on the little one.

He will talk eventually but god men are slow!

 

[Leanne020807]

sorry he's still not talking

is it just about the mc he won't talk, or in general as well?

It's just the mc he has never blanked me before just if I say anything about the mc!

The wine is a good way to get people talking but he don't drink!! So can't get him drunk to talk!! Lol

 

[marnie79]

maybe he just doesnt see it in the same way as u do iukwim so he just doesnt know how to react or what to say, and being male lol really dont help when it comes to the feelings talk xx

 

[iluvmyson]

sorryy

 

[Pippin]

I'm sorry My husband admits he sees our mc in a very different way to me which I totally understand. He said being a man means he doesn't have the same connection, he can't feel the symptoms and didn't go through the mc first hand, he see it clinically like it was a non starter there for end of story. I feel more like he does now time has passed but it won't stop me wondering what if on the 20th April next year. It might be that your husband just doesn't see it as a big deal, which of course it is to you, so might just be worth you forcing him to talk about it so he's aware of your feeling and supports you rather than the missing baby. Hope that makes sense, sorry if it doesn't. Hope you feel better soon and get to talk.

 

[rainbow29]

My husband is the same, just doesn't see it the same way as me. He won't remember that it would've been due Xmas Eve and if I reminded him I doubt I would get a huge response. When he has spoken about it he has said that it must've had something wrong, but mainly the silence has been deafening. I think he has been terrified of upsetting me, so thought it was best to avoid the subject. I hope he talks to you soon, loads of hugs xx