he wants to threaten me with court

[Dream.dream]

Sorry for the long rant guys but im livid

So with his lovley new baby mama whispering in his ear like a parrot , the baby daddy decided today to try and tell me that the amount he was paying for child support ( which is based on his taxe return and a government mandated pay scale) is wrong and he shouldnt be paying that much. That his research says he shouldnt have to pay that much, even after i sent his the website that gives the governement calcualtions

also that he believes hes entitled to everyother weekend unsupervised and everyother holiday. WTH

im sorry but over my dead body will a boy who is abusive and irrisponsible be taking my son over a weekend unsupervised so he can play house with a girl who was stupid enough to get pregnant within days of dating him. She honestly thinks this is going to happen, but has no clue that he has no gaurdian ship rights and minimal vsupervised visitation because he was deemed dangerous to my son if left alone with him

Honestly he wants to lower his support payments to the bare minimum because he got her pregnant and needs to support her ( because she decided to quit work and school until the baby comes in 5 months) and they are getting a new palce that he should not have to support the child who is already here

but at the smae time he wants to have more time and rights?
if he doesnt want to support him he can sign over all visitation rights and be done , ive already said i would gladly absolve him of all responsibility if he would leave us alone.

My son deserves a better dad then this and honestly the only thing standing in the way of my OH being that dad to him, is his sperm donor who wants to have my son as a trophy to show off but doesnt want to support him. he deserves a dad who cares about his childs well being and not just him self

 

[Laura2919]

In this country if FOB has another child that he lives with then they will recalculate his money because he should be able to afford both even though he lives with that child and his GF's income would come into it.
Do you have anything like CSA over in Canada? We have CSA and they calculate the money and they do all the paperwork and then you can decide whether you want FOB to pay your directly or if you want CSA to collect the money and then pay it to you.

Your right, your LO does deserve a better dad, it is a shame that there are women out there who stop their FOB's from seeing their children when those dads really want to see their children and then there are FOB's who completely take being a dad for granted.

 

[SilasLove]

Huge

If you see no benefit in your son knowing his father, then I know this must be very hard. I don't know your full situation with FOB so do not want to pry or anything. But I wish you the best and hope you all can resolve it in a way that makes everyone (or atleast your little boy) happy.

 

[Miss_Quirky]

that sucks He deserves a real dad, not someone like that. I am sorry you have to go through this.

 

[aliss]

I'm sorry hun but here in Canada he cannot sign over his rights and absolve himself of child support unless your husband (if you had one) was willing to adopt (and even then he would still be responsible for all payments until the final date).

He can walk away and you can walk away but if you ever need government assistance or one of you changes your minds, it goes right back to before.

Likewise, he cannot reduce payments to you because he got another girl pregnant, the courts do not care, he must fulfill his first responsibility no matter if he got 20 girls pregnant tomorrow.

Wow, she won the booby prize didn't she?

 

[Dream.dream]

thanks guys, everything i needed to hear.

My OH would love to adopt my sons hes wishes he could only thing standing in the way is his bio-dad

and i know he cant change his payment because shes having a baby,hes still responsible for the child whose already here. i belive the way it works is he has to prove his child support is an "un due hradship" meaning it takes more then 50% of his income.

and i feel sorry for her she thinks shes getting this perfect pre made daddy whos got all this experience, but honestly he has zero baby experience and has no idea how to handle a toddler past playing with them. hes going to be no help, hes going to be stressed out and when hes stressed his abusive side comes out, I honestly just hope he hurts her and not the baby as bad as that sounds.