Heavy Bleeding - 8th-9th week (1st Attempt Miscarried, 2nd Attempt Heartbeat!)

[hopefuldaddy]

Hello mostly ladies and few gentleman.

I come here with my first post with a severe concern for my wife and our potential child.

my wife is in about her 8-9th week of pregnancy and over this past weekend she had cases of severe bleeding for several days. We went to visit the OBGYN this morning but they couldn't confirm if it was a miscarriage based on sonogram from the stomach. We have a transvaginal sonogram scheduled tomorrow morning but time cannot go any slower.

Saturday she had heavy bleeding, Sunday none, Monday mild bleeding and, today heavy bleeding.

She told me her usual period is associated with cramping but she has no cramping what-so-ever.

She's going through depression right now because she's absolutely certain that it's a miscarriage, as she says she no longer feels pregnant.

I try to be optimistic and tell her let's think positive until we find out for sure, and even if it's miscarriage, it's not a big deal. We'll just try again. Obviously, girls are different because it doesn't seem to help her much as she's still feeling very down.

I really pray and hope that the baby is ok but I'm preparing for the worst.

Has anyone had experiences similar to this but the baby came out healthy?

Thank you for any advice.

 

[KS1977]

Hi hun,
Hope your OH is ok and baby will be fine. It is so nice that you are so supportive. I believe there is a thread on here very similar where the lady had bleeding but she then had a scan and it showed her baby was fine. I'll find it for you and post the link x

 

[AreIn83]

I wish you and your wife the best of luck. My bleeding never meant anything good, unfortunately. One day at a time, it's devastating but not an impossible hurdle.

 

[UkCath]

Sorry, can't help, but I really hope things work out for you all.

 

[KS1977]

Hi there...again.

If you scroll down to a post that says ' Sorry don't mean to scare but I had a bright red bleed UPDATE! SCAN WAS AMAZING '

It ends in a good story. I believe it is on the second page. Hope the post helps. I am sure the lady who posted it would answer any questions you have. Good luck xxx

 

[natty1985]

Hiya,

My 9th week of pregnancy i had severe bleeding, enough to make paramedics think that i may need a blood transfusion !! Mum called paramedics and i spent the night in A&E Dr said it was a miscarriage but i had to wait until Monday for a scan as it was Saturday !

All weekend it felt like an age and Monday came and baby was very safe and snug ! What a scare ! apparently it was a hemmorrage area or possibly a twin but couldnt be confirmed. I had no pains but alot of blood and clots.

My little fighter is now 3 years and old and starting school Thursday x

With this pregnancy i also bled at 9 weeks sometimes its just unknown and totally baffling...

I hope all goes well xxx

 

[hopefuldaddy]

wow thank you all for your quick reply and support. i will cross my fingers and hope for the best tomorrow and give an update when we find out!

KS1977, I will check that out. thank you so much.

natty1985, that's an amazing story. I guess you really can't give up hope until it's FULLY confirmed.

 

[lousielou]

All the best to you and your OH x

 

[natty1985]

nope you cant !! 90% of pregnant women bleed i was told by my Dr ... No pain is a good sign. Its so very stressful , you have to cling on to any bit of hope possible , i know i did x

GOOD LUCK X

 

[Tonnilou]

Hi there...again.

If you scroll down to a post that says ' Sorry don't mean to scare but I had a bright red bleed UPDATE! SCAN WAS AMAZING '

It ends in a good story. I believe it is on the second page. Hope the post helps. I am sure the lady who posted it would answer any questions you have. Good luck xxx

Hi there,

That was me I am so so so sorry that you and your wife are going through this. It is lovely that you are supporting her. With me I had 1 big bleed which was bight red, tapered into spotting over the next couple of days and no pain or cramps. Scan was yesterday (4 days after the event) and they saw everything that should be there and a heartbeat! We were stunned. They also saw an area of bleeding outside the sac and said that it could well come out like the first bleed or as lighter spotting, or may be absorbed into me again.

No cramping is a positive sign as is how your wife *feels*. By this I mean, I wouldnt have worried at all if I hadn't seen the blood as I felt the same as before.

Its definately possible that she has a bleeding area like mine or ever a cyst or clot that could have burst. There are lots of things that can cause bleeding and it doesnt always mean a mc. Heartbreakingly, of course it can also mean that too. There are lots of stories on here of bleeding and with some the women have had healthy babies or are in their 3rd trimester so have faith, even tho its hard.

The best thing to do is to get a scan booked in asap as until then its hard to know exactly whats going on.

It is such a scary time, my lovely husband said he felt like he lived 10 days for every 1 this last week.

Its very normal for our minds to start preparing ourselves for the worst case scenario. Its a self preservation mechanism and staying positive can be so hard.

Have you guys contacted your doctor or mw yet? Silly question probably. Feel free to im me or ask away on here and I will happily answer as best I can to my knowledge and experience.

Hugs to you both.

 

[hopefuldaddy]

Hi there...again.

If you scroll down to a post that says ' Sorry don't mean to scare but I had a bright red bleed UPDATE! SCAN WAS AMAZING '

It ends in a good story. I believe it is on the second page. Hope the post helps. I am sure the lady who posted it would answer any questions you have. Good luck xxx

Hi there,

That was me I am so so so sorry that you and your wife are going through this. It is lovely that you are supporting her. With me I had 1 big bleed which was bight red, tapered into spotting over the next couple of days and no pain or cramps. Scan was yesterday (4 days after the event) and they saw everything that should be there and a heartbeat! We were stunned. They also saw an area of bleeding outside the sac and said that it could well come out like the first bleed or as lighter spotting, or may be absorbed into me again.

No cramping is a positive sign as is how your wife *feels*. By this I mean, I wouldnt have worried at all if I hadn't seen the blood as I felt the same as before.

Its definately possible that she has a bleeding area like mine or ever a cyst or clot that could have burst. There are lots of things that can cause bleeding and it doesnt always mean a mc. Heartbreakingly, of course it can also mean that too. There are lots of stories on here of bleeding and with some the women have had healthy babies or are in their 3rd trimester so have faith, even tho its hard.

The best thing to do is to get a scan booked in asap as until then its hard to know exactly whats going on.

It is such a scary time, my lovely husband said he felt like he lived 10 days for every 1 this last week.

Its very normal for our minds to start preparing ourselves for the worst case scenario. Its a self preservation mechanism and staying positive can be so hard.

Have you guys contacted your doctor or mw yet? Silly question probably. Feel free to im me or ask away on here and I will happily answer as best I can to my knowledge and experience.

Hugs to you both.

Thanks for the super support. As the husband, and with my limited knowledge with pregnancy, I feel so helpless, but at the same time I'm being hopeful.

we have a sonogram scheduled for tomorrow morning so I'm trying to stay positive for the time being.

I could only imagine the relief you and your husband had after you found out everything was okay. Must've been like a movie. haha. I'm very happy for you guys, and will wish you for a very healthy and enjoyable pregnancy.

 

[Tonnilou]

Thankyou so much, we were both so relieved and I think we looked like fishes at first (big gawping O's) and then insane grinning set in. I am so glad you have a scan. The not knowing is terrible. This is our first time as well so I totally understand.

I will be thinking of you tomorrow and am sending positive vibes. I really hope you both get reassuring news and go on to also enjoy a happy and healy pregnancy too.

Lots of luck and remember there are always people here to talk to if you need too.

 

[hopefuldaddy]

Just wanted to update you guys on our situation for those that were supportive of us.
We found out this morning that it was in fact a miscarriage.

We've decided to accept it as nature and God's will and just try again.
Dr said we shouldn't try again for few more months as chance of mc will be better.
I'd advise upcoming mothers to stay away from too much cold things. My wife loves frozen yogurt ice cream and I must've bought too much of that for her.

I know few other women had scans this morning. I hope all your scans were superb.

I'll be around this site ad people here seem great. Thanks!

 

[may2011]

I am so sorry....hopeful daddy, I will keep you and your wife in my prayers....

 

[lousielou]

I'm so sorry for your loss xx

 

[gemstone]

i am so very sorry about ur loss.. i hav also had a mmc at about 11 weeeks and it was horride.. i hope ur wife is ok.. just give her lots of loves, tisses and tuddles.. ur both in my thoughts.. x

 

[Loobie9]

im so sorry fror your loss....... x x x

 

[Vickieh1981]

I'm so sorry for your loss. This is not your fault, eating cold things does NOT cause miscarriage.

Also there is no evidence that trying straight away after a miscarriage increases the risk of it happening again so when you feel ready it's a good time to try.

Hope the following weeks are gentle on you and your wife

 

[KS1977]

Aw, so sorry to hear of your loss hun. Take care xx

 

[Tonnilou]

Oh no, I missed this update. I am truly sorry to hear your sad news and my heart goes out to both you and your wife. Good luck for the future and I am sure we will see you posting on here again in no time.