HELLO! Is there room for me?

[orange-sox]

Okay so I am about 3 weeks out of my teenage years, but I didn't think you'd mind me too much!

So I got my BFP today, my OH has just gone away for a week!

We live at home with my mother, and I am 100% shit scared of telling her... a few months ago a had a pregnancy scare and she had said that if it hadn't turned out to be a bfn she would've made sure that i didn't have the baby

So in a nutshell... I'm a bit fucked (pardon the pun)

 

[kellysays2u]

Hey. Welcome and congrats. My guess is your kinda happy about it or no? So your 20 then right? Your mom will probably be mad at first but she will either learn to deal with it and probably enjoy it or you will have to move out.

You need to tell her ASAP though cause you will want to know what is going to happen and if you will need a new place to stay.

Again congrats and welcome and if you need anyone to talk to I am 18 and 18 weeks and 3 days pregnant.

 

[Serene123]

Congratulations.

My mum said the same but when it was real she totally suprised me x

 

[Uvlollypop]

yeah!!!! congrats miss

 

[orange-sox]

Hey. Welcome and congrats. My guess is your kinda happy about it or no? So your 20 then right? Your mom will probably be mad at first but she will either learn to deal with it and probably enjoy it or you will have to move out.

You need to tell her ASAP though cause you will want to know what is going to happen and if you will need a new place to stay.

Again congrats and welcome and if you need anyone to talk to I am 18 and 18 weeks and 3 days pregnant.

Yeah I'm happy! Not sure if my OH will be or not though!

I don't know if I dare tell her yet, I might try and sort out somewhere for me and the OH to live before I tell her, then at least I can get out straight away if she hits the roof

 

[FallenAngel]

Sounds like you have it figured out. I would do the same. If your mom freaks out when she finds out at least you'll have a place to go and not just be out on the streets. AND I would definitely wait to tell her until after you';ve told the daddy to be anyways.

 

[princess_x0]

Heya hun welcome to bnb.
Congrats on your pregnancy I hope all goes well with telling your OH xx
As for your mum she will probably hit the roof, but do not let her talk you into anything you don't want to do! She might be angry but she will come round one way or the other, and when LO is born she can't stay mad at the cute little baby can she?
Best of luck, wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months babe xxx

 

[dreams]

I'm scared of telling my mother too, i still haven't told her. I can't really keep it a secret for long can i lol

Like someone else said don't let anyone talk you into doing something you don't want to do, you'll regret it.

It sounds as if you have a plan anyway, so it'll all work out.

Lastly congratulations

 

[alice&bump]

congrats hun!! my parents went up the wall when they found out i was pregnant (i was nearly 20 at the time). trust me they do come round. 41 weeks down the line they couldnt be more excited and are constantly ringing and texting and stuff to find out how i am and if she's here yet.

hope it works out ok for you when you tell her, it'll be the scariest thing you ever have to do, but no matter what age you are and your circumstances it'll always be the same!!
xxxx

 

[nikky0907]

First of all,congratulations hun!

I think it's a good idea for you to forst have a backup plan,somewhere for you and OH to live just in case and then tell her.
I think that after the shock,she will realize that she doesn't want to lose you and doesn't want you to move away.
She'll get excited soon hun,I promise.Even my ice cold parents couldn't stay away from Lola.

 

[xXDonnaXx]

Congrats on your pregnancy.

My mum wasn't happy when I told her, but if you look at her now, she's being like a mum to her already, buying her things, talking non-stop about her. So, it's just that first reaction. She will come round though.

Have a happy & healthy nine months.

 

[ellasmummy]

Congratulations!! My mum absolutely hit the roof and said i needed an abortion and i could never keep the baby. She came round when she found out i was serious and was never having an abortion. Now she is the most proudest Nanny ever, spoils them rotten and never stops talking about them to everyone!! You may even think she is their mum the way she goes on!! So hopefully she will come round in the end. x

 

[Kimboowee]

Mums normally do come round, although your 20 she still prob sees you as her little girl! Im 19, my mum did go a little bit mad, i just left her to come round to the idea now she's bought herself a moses basket for when she babysits lol!
xx

 

[jillypoop]

Hiya
congrats

I obviously don't know your financial situation or anything but would it not be nice to move out anyway? I moved out with OH 6 months ago and theres no way that I could bring up a child in my mother's house!! I'm just thinking that if you're thinking of moving out anyways if the family doesnt agree with it then maybe you could anyway? It will give you more of a feeling that it's your family and if you can afford it then i don't think you would look back.

Sorry just putting my "two cents in"

hope it goes well

 

[Beth_18]

hi and welcome to baby and bump x x x

 

[FallenAngel]

So what's going on?? Have you decided what to do yet???

 

[orange-sox]

So what's going on?? Have you decided what to do yet???

Well I'm not having an abortion, I know that for a fact.

What Andrew(oh) is going to do, I haven't got a clue... he's still dead set against the idea "We're not ready, it's not our only chance, we're too young, our familys will never talk to us again, etc etc" But to be honest, he's said he won't leave me, so he's pretty much leaving the decision to me but he'd rather that we didn't keep the baby...

Like I've said to him time and time again, if he would want to keep the baby if we were in a better financial position, or we were a bit older of whatever... then abortion isn't the answer to our situation. We can only do the best that we can... it's stupid to put ourselves through something so terrible over money.

To add to the stress we have a funeral to go to next week too

Anywho, thanks for your help girls

xxx