Hello lovely ladies, from a v. anxious newbie...

[BeanieBaby]

I'm Charlie and i'm 30 yrs old. I have a 2 yr old daughter and i'm expecting baby no. 2. I got my BFP on Thurs on my first cycle ttc after my mmc in Nov.

I have been feeling a bit lost looking in First Tri as not confident to post much in there yet and have only just remembered about this new forum! I am just so anxious all the time and seem to be analysing every cramp and twinge (and am getting lots of them!). I am also holding my breath on every trip to the loo as just waiting for the spotting to start as I spotted almost continuously from finding out last time to having my mmc confirmed at 9 wks. I do think I feel slightly different to last time and I am not spotting as yet and seem to have more symptoms so am hoping that's a good sign but who knows! Just wish I could hibernate for the next few wks! I think I may have to see if I can get an early scan from the docs as couldn't bear to get to 12 wks and be told its another mmc (this would have happened last time had I not have pushed for an early scan as I had a gutt feeling something was wrong and I was right!).

Does it get any easier or am I destined to feel like this throughout the whole pregnancy, if I even get that far that is!

So sorry for the rant, this isn't the happiest of introductory threads

xxx

 

[starsunshine]

Hi, I know exactly how you feel. I go to the loo constantly to check (& to wee of course!). I also feel different this time - by now I had already miscarried so am feeling much more positive. I analyse every twinge & cramp even though I've been told it's normal and a good sign! Any way - I think you should ask your GP for an early scan. Mine offered so I'm v lucky but they will do it for you. My letter's been sent off & I'm awaiting the scan date now. Go see your GP & tell him how worried you are & ask for an early scan.

I don't know if it'll get any easier as I'm at the beginning myself but I have started to relax a little now (although am still completely scared!)

I would say lots of symptoms = good healthy baby but I'm just guessing - no medical expert. It stands to reason though doesn't it!

 

[BeanieBaby]

Thanks for your lovely message, am glad am not the only one! Its only natural we feel like this I guess after what we've been through. Maybe i'll go and see the doc next week then and see what he says. I am also so scared of that scan room that even an early reassurance scan scares the hell out of me but I guess if it goes well and we see a heartbeat then it will be well worth it! Congratulations on your BFP and best wishes for a happy and healthy 9 months! Sending you lots of sticky

xxx

 

[Ferret]

i am the same, over thinking every little twinge. OH has banned me from google. I am 9+2 and managed to get early scan at 7 weeks. it was very reassuring as saw bub and heartbeat. i must admit it only put my mind at rest for a couple of days but it is well worth pushing for scan.

Lots of luck and wishing you a h & h 9 months.

 

[BeanieBaby]

Congrats on your BFP Ferret and on your scan, lovely pic. I think i'll defo push for a scan now, as like you say its good for reassurance, even if the anxiety comes back soon after! I wish you lots of luck for your next scan and for a happy and healthy pregnancy.

xxx

 

[MrsGlitz]

Hi ladies

Congrats on your BFPs!

I know what it is like to analyse everything. My DH said I might as well have just
moved into the bathroom for the first 16 weeks this time!

It does get very slightly easier once you pass the first milestone of getting past when you lost your Angel. I found setting milestones made my pregnancy more bearable! So for me it was to get to 5+5 first as I lost my Angel at 5+4. I made my booking in with my me for 8 weeks and had that as my next milestone, followed by the 12 week scan. Then my next mw appointment and so on.

Strangely enough I had fewer symptoms this time round which is why I think I was on edge until my 20 week scan.

 

[BeanieBaby]

Hi MrsGlitz. Thanks for your lovely post that's great advice will set myself some milestones to give me something to work towards to break up the first 12 wks. Congratulations on your pregnancy, lovely to see your ticker! Hope you enjoy the rest of your pregnancy now that you've had the scans and you know everything's ok. xxx

 

[Bingo]

Well hello there. Defo push for an early scan if you think that will put you're mind at ease. Congrats on your pregnancy. It's all so exciting but scary at the same time. I hope all goes well for you. Let us know if you do go for the scan.

 

[BeanieBaby]

Thanks Bingo and congrats on your pregnancy. I will defo push for one if I still feel anxious. Will give the docs a call next week and let you all know how I get on.

xxx

 

[Drazic<3]

Babes, I am so over the moon for you! It is hard work, sometimes it is really emotionally draining too. The important thing to remember is normal pregnancies have niggles and pains and weirdness and sometimes bleeding. It doesn't mean anything is wrong. I have been so lucky in having girls (yourself included) help me up when I fall down. I am struggling right now with dates but it really is good days and bad days. As that annoying page advert says, 'every pregnancy is a unique journey' and it's true. Don't forget it babes and when your down you know you got a mate here

 

[im_mi]

Congrats on your pregnancy! And of course i am sorry for your previous heartache

Its totally normal to be worried hun. I am waiting to hear about a scan and it is reassuring to know that *i* will know sooner rather than later that things are ok. If you are anxious, just go see your GP and explain that its really getting to you and you need to know. If they wont scan you, they might take blood to do quantitative HCG tests.

This is a great section, the girls here are amazing. H&H 9 months to you sweetie

 

[BeanieBaby]

Babes, I am so over the moon for you! It is hard work, sometimes it is really emotionally draining too. The important thing to remember is normal pregnancies have niggles and pains and weirdness and sometimes bleeding. It doesn't mean anything is wrong. I have been so lucky in having girls (yourself included) help me up when I fall down. I am struggling right now with dates but it really is good days and bad days. As that annoying page advert says, 'every pregnancy is a unique journey' and it's true. Don't forget it babes and when your down you know you got a mate here

Hello gorgeous! Thanks so much for your support means a lot. I know you're right, guess I just need to accept that its gonna be a unique journey and although i'll have my ups and downs you girls will be on hand to pick me up! I think i'm going through what you went through worrying that my symptoms aren't strong enough but know its early days. Feeling really dehydrated all the time, a bit crampy on and off low down, nauseous v. occasionally if i'm hungry and dizzy on occasion but that's it. Just feel they're a bit dilluted like last time but keep telling myself there's no point worrying about lack of symptoms until i'm at least 6 wks! You're doing so well setting yourself milestones, think i'm going to do the same.

xxx

 

[BeanieBaby]

Thanks im_mi. Congrats on your BFP and good luck with your scan. Let me know how it goes. xxx