Help. About to lose it.

[Flossie27]

My daughter is 5 and I am finding it really hard. Sometimes I almost wish I didn't have any children. She doesn't sit still at the table, she makes a mess when she eats. She doesn't listen well. She can be very well behaved, but it doesn't last. She constantly interrupts when I talk to other people. I'm at the end of my rope. My hair is falling out, I want to scream, I am angry very quickly. I'm not looking forward to tomorrow. I haven't wrapped anything and I can't be bothered. I haven't sent any Christmas cards. I can't be bothered cooking the whole shebang tomorrow, and I don't want to go through the whole rigmarole of presents and saying Merry Christmas. OH and I are not on good terms, my parents are visiting and they must by now think I'm a completely rubbish parent (I guess I am, all I seem to be doing is snapping and I popped Dd on the bottom when she pushed it too far), OH's family are sulking because we are not spending Christmas with them. I just don't want to do Christmas. All I want to do is scream. And hide. And for everyone to go away. I should never have had a child.

 

[Babybump87]

Oh hun sorry your not having a good time at the minute . My nearly five year old can be tricky at times and we have to reign it in with her !

Christmas can be very very stressful ! Don’t think your a rubbish parent it’s just a rough patch and you will be better after this period .

I also find I can be snappy with my girls nearly 5 and 2 ! I think they just know how to push your buttons ! They also make a mess when eating and don’t sit still which drives me crazy but they are only children I have to tell myself !

I hope you have managed to have a nice day together. This phase will hopefully pass soon . X

 

[mayb_baby]

I hope today went a lot better for you, this time of year can be more stressful especially when visitors are over the kids seem to play up more.

I also find I can be snappy with my kids when I'm in a bad mood with other people like my OH and then feel so guilty because I know it's me and not the kids at all.

Sending love and hugs hope you all enjoyed Christmas xxx

 

[babycrazy1706]

My 5 yr old drives me crazy too
It's such a difficult age.
You're not alone xx

 

[WackyMumof2]

Sounds like you have just discribed life for me with ADHD. It's hard at the best of times and challanging kids make it even harder. I honestly have days where I feel like my 7 year old has sucked the joy out of parenting and I too feel anger which just sets me off so easily. But I also remind myself that part of it's my fault, part of it he can't help though it doesn't make it anymore easy. Try setting up a reward chart, putting up house rules of how one is expected to behave as well as consequences and follow through and give her a choice of 2 things you expect done for her age and let her make the choice as to which. It will allow her to think for herself and she will probably feel like she's in control when in all reality, you just set up a couple of things that you want done with a choice involved for her. Undiagnosed issues or not, that should help you get somewhere and make it a happier home for you and your daughter. And regardless, you are NOT a rubbish parent and we all feel the same as you at some point.

 

[Flossie27]

I am really hating this Christmas. She seemed to be OK a while ago and then she just turned all bratty one day. She really resents me going to work.